i can't stand it when white people change their vernacular and inflection when talking to black people. "you go, girl!" "all right, miss thing!" "you weren't in yesterday; were you 'chilling out' at home?" "this is my main man right here." inflection is often stressed on the bold words, which lets you know that this isn't language that they normally use.
last night on Idol, the new judge referred to the black wild card woman as "girl" when praising her. she didn't use that term or change her inflection when talking to the white girls/women. randy calls everybody dude, the males and females alike. the girl remark was different and something that i've experienced and witness.
particularly if you are a nonblack person who does this only when talking to black people ... stop. it's annoying and presumptuous and belittling, and you will be talked about.
OMG!!! You just read my mind!