At what age did you let your teen date?

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My son is only 13 so I know he's a few years away from dating. He pointed out the other day that he can't drive and doesn't have a job so how is he supposed to date anyway? I know that feeling will change in the near future.
My mom let me go on my first date at 15. But she dropped me off at the restaurant, came back to pick me up and drop me off at the movies, then came to pick me up from the movies. I was not allowed to have a guy come pick me up for a date until I was 17.
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16 for my sons. I'm encouraging my daughter not to date til college, or even beyond. Really. I want her to concentrate on her studies, since women need to be more accomplished than men to earn the same money and prestige.
16 for my sons. I'm encouraging my daughter not to date til college, or even beyond. Really. I want her to concentrate on her studies, since women need to be more accomplished than men to earn the same money and prestige.
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
First, keep in mind I'm speaking from the perspective of the teen, not the parent since I don't have children this old (or children at all for that matter).

The only reason I would not agree with this is if you don't have some experience with dating and the mindset of men, you tend to be very naive. And I would have much rather been naive to this at the age of 17 than at 22 or older. Women and men are different and while my mom explained that to me, it took life lessons of actually dating to really see what she meant. I found that those of my friends who were going out for the first time at the age of 23 were falling for some horrible traps at that age (getting married too early, getting "played" and hurt badly, etc.) whereas I was already hip to men's bs and knew how to spot it.

But I will say that my mother taught me that my education in men must come a clear second to my academic education and that for no reason should I let ANY man deter me from that. She made it clear that unless I wanted to wind up needing a man rather than wanting a man, I'd better get my education and career together and on point. And I thank her very much for that.
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16 for my sons. I'm encouraging my daughter not to date til college, or even beyond. Really. I want her to concentrate on her studies, since women need to be more accomplished than men to earn the same money and prestige.
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
First, keep in mind I'm speaking from the perspective of the teen, not the parent since I don't have children this old (or children at all for that matter).

The only reason I would not agree with this is if you don't have some experience with dating and the mindset of men, you tend to be very naive. And I would have much rather been naive to this at the age of 17 than at 22 or older. Women and men are different and while my mom explained that to me, it took life lessons of actually dating to really see what she meant. I found that those of my friends who were going out for the first time at the age of 23 were falling for some horrible traps at that age (getting married too early, getting "played" and hurt badly, etc.) whereas I was already hip to men's bs and knew how to spot it.

But I will say that my mother taught me that my education in men must come a clear second to my academic education and that for no reason should I let ANY man deter me from that. She made it clear that unless I wanted to wind up needing a man rather than wanting a man, I'd better get my education and career together and on point. And I thank her very much for that.
Originally Posted by NubianCoils
I don't know you could be right, as I'm 19 and haven't even started dating yet, only because no one of my interest has asked me, I know I shouldn't turn down every man and not to be to picky but ugh I can't help it. Anyway, the point I want to make is, I have 2 older brothers and that's enough to know the crap men pull, I hear it out of their mouths all the time, how they think. Not really shocking, but sometimes I wonder do all men think like this...yes if not worse. LOL.

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