potty training?

I don't understand why everyone is trying to push my son into potty training... he's 2, he turned 2 at the end of March, he asks to use the potty sometimes, but not others.

My mother in law keeps telling him he needs to be a big boy and use the potty, diapers are gross, etc. It's getting to me. Her kids were ALL potty training by 2... but It truly doesn't bother me that hes not using the potty. He can't physically use the potty on his own, he doesnt know how to pull his pants back on, and I just think he'll do it when he's ready.

For reference, he does everything else early-ish/on time. He walked at 10 months (her kids walked at 9 months *insert eye roll*), talked before he could walk, and he holds entire conversations now. He can spell his name, count to 10, and all kinds of other things, is it wrong for me to want him to just be a kid and not grow up so darn fast? Or should i be pushing him to potty?
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No, trust me you do not want to push potty training. You will know when he is ready. My biggest indicator was waking up dry at night and nap. He did this for a month...before I started potty training. It took less than 2 weeks to train. Other indicators...just a general interest in the potty and hiding to go poop. I sure other moms have indicators on here they will share. Keep doing what you are doing. If he wants to sit on the potty let him...if not...don't force.

My son was 3 months shy of turning 3 when he potty trained.

My sister tried to push potty training earlier...and ended up taking forever to train her son. She's the one that told me not too push it along with several other mom's.
If he seems ready and interested, you could try it. The really bright kids sometimes get it very early.

There often is a "window of opportunity" around age 2 that, if you miss it, it seems like they don't train til they are 3 or older. My oldest son pottytrained himself when he was 20 months. He was just ready. It really can be done if the child wants to. I did miss the opportunity with a couple of my other kids. I think they could have trained at 2, but there were extenuating circumstances that just didn't foster it.

I'd tell that MIL to back off and that most kids don't go to kindergarten with a diaper on, so she's just causing tension where there doesn't need to be any.
Ugh. My grandmother did the same to me...would even send me articles on it. Funny thing was I had already potty trained my daughter when she was 2. My son (2nd child) just refused and it wasn't worth the fight to me. He trained at 3 1/2. I totally understand how you feel. I hate that kind of unsolicited advice.
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If he seems ready and interested, you could try it. The really bright kids sometimes get it very early.

There often is a "window of opportunity" around age 2 that, if you miss it, it seems like they don't train til they are 3 or older. My oldest son pottytrained himself when he was 20 months. He was just ready. It really can be done if the child wants to. I did miss the opportunity with a couple of my other kids. I think they could have trained at 2, but there were extenuating circumstances that just didn't foster it.

I'd tell that MIL to back off and that most kids don't go to kindergarten with a diaper on, so she's just causing tension where there doesn't need to be any.
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves

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My stance is, we control everything our kids do - the one thing we can't control is them going to the bathroom. They really have to have an interest in it themselves.

By that age I would definitely have a potty around, and get them interested in it. Bailey would put stickers on hers. Sometimes she put it on her head. Whatever.

I really encourage them, and we discuss it and stuff, but I let them do the potty thing themselves. Because i'm so relaxed about it, we do have some accident issues through the age of 3, but if I ask them often and look for cues, it works out.
Let the child lead. It will happen. When we even suggested using the potty to my son, he'd resist. When hHe'd show interest, we'd follow.

Eventually (less than 2 months beyond his 3rd birthday) he just got it and there was no looking back. We went from zero to done in a blink. One day he asked for underwear himself and we never looked back. He was just ready.
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I like the idea of giving it a try and seeing if they are interested/ready. I would be worried it wouldn't occur to them on their own until they were pretty old...and i'm not trying to change diapers for 4 years if I don't have to! But I wouldn't pester them about it.
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I think it's the opposite. Nowadays people are delaying potty training. I know lots of people who don't even think about it until their kid is at least 3. Years ago kids were trained much earlier, which is why it seems like grandparents are 'pushing' the issue when in reality it's the parents delaying it.

Personally I think it gross, especially for girls to be pooping in their pants at 3. It just seems so unsanitary. I don't think you're doing the kid any favors by allowing them to soil themselves longer than they have to.
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There's no reason to force the issue, but I don't think there is any harm in gently introducing the potty or helping a child who can't undress themselves to use it if they want to. I don't believe in waiting for them to take the lead.
I started introducing the potty at very young ages for my kids, keeping it low-pressure. My son started sitting on the potty at 1 and my daughter at 3 months. They were both trained pretty effortlessly - him at 2 1/2, her at 20 months. I don't believe in forcing the issue bit I don't believe that potty training is this magic thing that you have to delay till just the right magic moment when your kid is ready, either. Just like all parts of child development and self care, I believe they should learn gradually.
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I think it's the opposite. Nowadays people are delaying potty training. I know lots of people who don't even think about it until their kid is at least 3. Years ago kids were trained much earlier, which is why it seems like grandparents are 'pushing' the issue when in reality it's the parents delaying it.

Personally I think it gross, especially for girls to be pooping in their pants at 3. It just seems so unsanitary. I don't think you're doing the kid any favors by allowing them to soil themselves longer than they have to.
Originally Posted by Jenny C

I agree with the first part definitely, although I haven't been there so I probably have no place saying. My Mom swears that when my brother was a toddler (early 70s) that you were considered to be a "bad parent" if your child was still in diapers at their 2nd birthday. Whether or not that is true, or just her group of friends that believed that, I do not know.

My take on this, which surely can be taken with a grain of salt since I've never potty-trained a baby , is that a lot of times they *are* ready before the parents have even thought about it. My nephew for example, took a huge interest in the big people potty and then the potty my Mom purchased for him, and started hiding to poop, and so on at about 20 months. My sister in law said he was "way too young" and ignored those cues. She didn't get Pull-Ups or underwear, or reward or praise him the few times he successfully used the potty. At almost 3 years old she decided she was sick of diapers and started trying to push the potty on him. At that point, he rebelled against every effort, and when she tried the naked thing, he just peed everywhere. It was awful, so she gave up and put diapers on him. When my brother and her separated (and my brother got custody of the kids) my nephew was 5. He was still in diapers much of the time and whenever he wasn't, he had accidents. Constantly.

So it seemed to us as though he was ready when he was younger, she ignored it, and then by the time SHE was ready, he was in the "oh yay, I have control over this, Mom wants me to, so I won't" phase. For the record, Mom had him totally trained within a few months, and my niece was trained right at 2 and Mom accomplished that in a weekend. My brothers were right around 2 and I apparently did it on my own at 16 months, so maybe my Mom is just super great at potty training kids or maybe we were all easy to deal with... I don't know. But it does seem to me as though potty training is being delayed compared to in the past.

Regardless, it's your child and your decision... not your MIL's.
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My son has had a potty chair available to him for months. Ever since we moved into this house last August. We ask him if he wants to use the potty, he goes with us into the bathroom, etc. He sleeps through the night and wakes up dry, but unfortunately, we don't always get him to the potty quick enough for the flood, lol!
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My son has had a potty chair available to him for months. Ever since we moved into this house last August. We ask him if he wants to use the potty, he goes with us into the bathroom, etc. He sleeps through the night and wakes up dry, but unfortunately, we don't always get him to the potty quick enough for the flood, lol!
Originally Posted by rileysmama32208

The fact that he sleeps through the night and wakes up dry is huge.

Neither of my kids have done that through potty training.

Bailey was trained, but still wearing Pull Ups to bed, and they were never dry in the am. Finally, when she was like 4 and 1/2, I said enough is enough. We got rid of Pull ups at night, waterproofed the bed, and then I would have to go get her a few hours after she went to sleep to go pee. Soon after that I didn't have to bring her to the bathroom til I would go to bed. Eventually she started to figure out how to wake herself up when she had to go.

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