LO screams her head off when home with DH

She's almost 6 months old, and she never does this with me. They also say that she never does it at daycare, but I'm sure if she did they wouldn't tell me. Everything DH watches her (he's a nurse so he is off during the week), she has a crying spell that lasts about an 1 hour 3 - 4 times a day. When I call, she is going so hard she starts choking. It just breaks my heart. She won't hardly eat when she is home with him either. She is only in daycare part time because we can't afford the extra $200/month, so he doesn't have much of a choice right now. I just wish I could stay at home with her.

Does this happen with any of your sig. others/spouses?
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My daughter is pretty good when home with my hubby but then he's been home with her alone every other week since she was about 2 months old, she's now 5 months. That said she does sometimes get fussier with him and he has a harder time feeding her than I do.

Does your hubby get nervous with her? Babies know when you're nervous and once they get going with the crying you tense up and they sense it and it makes them cry harder. Were you with her exclusively up until a short time ago? Maybe she just needs to get used to him?

One thing that helps my hubby is to distract her with toys or singing or talking. He also does a lot of walking.

I've found when Avery is throwing a fit that if I get a good gripe on her and hold her tight (but not too tight ) she will calm down. Maybe I should say I hold her firmly, I don't want someone to think I squeeze her! Anyway, that helps her relax.

Maybe he's missing her sleepy signs and she is overtired? I had to teach my hubby to pay attention to her cries and learn to know when she's doing her tired cry. I think mom's are way more in tune to that than dads.
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My daughter is pretty good when home with my hubby but then he's been home with her alone every other week since she was about 2 months old, she's now 5 months. That said she does sometimes get fussier with him and he has a harder time feeding her than I do.

Does your hubby get nervous with her? Babies know when you're nervous and once they get going with the crying you tense up and they sense it and it makes them cry harder. Were you with her exclusively up until a short time ago? Maybe she just needs to get used to him?

One thing that helps my hubby is to distract her with toys or singing or talking. He also does a lot of walking.

I've found when Avery is throwing a fit that if I get a good gripe on her and hold her tight (but not too tight ) she will calm down. Maybe I should say I hold her firmly, I don't want someone to think I squeeze her! Anyway, that helps her relax.

Maybe he's missing her sleepy signs and she is overtired? I had to teach my hubby to pay attention to her cries and learn to know when she's doing her tired cry. I think mom's are way more in tune to that than dads.
Originally Posted by Jess2316
I do think I'm more in tune with her cries than he is. We were both at home for the first two months, then he started working in March. I went back to work in April. So she should be use to him by now. He typically keeps her for two days during the week and she goes to daycare two and a half. I only work Monday through Thursday with occasionally Fridays. She does get extra fussy when she's sleepy though, but normally she sleeps more for him than she does for me.

As much as he says he doesn't, I do think that he tenses up once she gets amped up. I know that when I'm calm she tends to calm down shortly after the meltdown. Normally though she doesn't meltdown with me.

It's strange, because now that my stepson is here, he gets to see how she is with both of us. So DH knows that she doesn't do the wailing with me. I feel bad for both of them.
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One thing that helped both my husband and me stay calm during the early days was to remember that newborns usually only cry for 4 reasons (unless they're sick/in pain): hungry, tired, needs to burp, needs to be changed. Whenever Abram would seem inconsolable I would run down my mental checklist. Now that he's a little older, I have another to add to the list... boredom. Sometimes he just wants to play or be entertained. He loves it when my husband makes faces at him and does silly dances and stuff.
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Is she cold?

I think we ended up swaddling again around that age with my youngest. We got a blanket (a small throw since the baby blankets were too small), wrapped him up and held him and bounced him to sleep. It really comforted him.

I'm just so sad for your hubby that he's having such a hard time with her. Hopefully they'll find their niche soon!
Is she cold?

I think we ended up swaddling again around that age with my youngest. We got a blanket (a small throw since the baby blankets were too small), wrapped him up and held him and bounced him to sleep. It really comforted him.

I'm just so sad for your hubby that he's having such a hard time with her. Hopefully they'll find their niche soon!
Originally Posted by Sigi
She is hot natured from what we can tell. Poor thing seems to sweat easily. Lately she's been sleeping in a onesie with a blanket over her. She does like to be snug though, so maybe we can swaddle her with fabric from Wal-Mart or something while she is in her onesie. It's too hot for the long sleeved footie pjs.

I feel sad for him too. She did much better yesterday though. So that was a relief.
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