I'm in mourning...

...over the loss of Solomon's beautiful flowing blonde hair.

My husband and I both like it a little long, but combined with the fact that Solomon screams bloody murder and wiggles like crazy whenever we take him for a cut, it had been too long and he definitely needed a trim. His bangs were in his eyes, people frequently made comments about him needing a haircut and a few people mistook him as a girl. So yeah, I knew we needed to cut it soon. I'm not one of "those" mothers who wouldn't cut her boy's hair at all.

I went to Wegmans yesterday morning so I could shop in peace without the boys, and while I was gone my husband tried to trim Sol's hair himself. He just did the bangs (crooked) and tried a little on the side, but it was so bad there was no way I could fix it myself; we would have had to take him to a professional. We had a lot of other stuff to do yesterday so my husband started trying to convince me to just let him buzz it. I went from "absolutely not" to "it might be the only way we can fix it" to "IF I agree to it the following conditions will apply..." and then before I officially agreeed, my husband just went ahead and did a swipe, so I had no choice but to let him finish. (in his defense, he thought I had agreed to it even though I never gave my OFFICIAL consent)

I hate it. Absolutely hate it. His hair was his thing. It made him stand out. It made him look like an adorable little hippy-child. Now he looks like all other little boys. I know it's just hair and it will grow back, but I can't help but be irrationally and illogically upset over it. I've cried a lot. I feel like I don't even recognize my little boy anymore. Yesterday I dozed off for a few minutes when I was getting him down for his nap, and when I jolted awake and looked down at him, it took me a minute to figure out if I was with him or Abram.

My husband loves it. He thinks it makes him look older and more manly. Every time my husband says how great it looks I want to cry again. Anything he says to try to make me feel better just makes me feel worse. I dread taking him out in public and having people make comments because I'm afraid I'll burst into tears. I've already told my husband this was a one-time thing and as it grows back, we're going to just do trims to try to get it back the way it was before it got too crazy-long.

I know I'm being overly dramatic. I've already acknowledged that it's irrational and illogical to be this upset over hair, but I can't help it.
Faith, 3Aish redhead
Mama to two wild superheroes and a curly-headed baby boy
Was this his first haircut? I think that can be emotional for any mom as like you said, it takes away any last trace of baby look about them and makes them look like big kids. At least little kid hair grows super fast.

S hasn't had a haircut yet because it never really got to that ragged, needs to be cleaned up phase and I was NEVER allowed to have long hair. She likes it so as long as she continues to let me brush it, I'll probably just keep letting it go till it starts to look ratty. I am hoping that by the time we decide to cut it, it won't be such a huge big to do.

What does he think about it?
It wasn't his first. He's had three professional cuts and we've trimmed it ourselves before. I wasn't terribly emotional before because it was never such a drastic change. He actually seems to like it. Even though he put up a bit of a struggle, I think having his hair cut with clippers "just like Daddy" was kind of fun for him.

Luckily, like mine, his hair grows really fast so hopefully we can have it a bit longer again in a few months.
Faith, 3Aish redhead
Mama to two wild superheroes and a curly-headed baby boy
Aww, poor Pixie! Solly did have beautiful hair, and I think I've even commented on it!

But it will grow back (and really, B saying how "manly" it makes him look? I'd be tempted to kick B in the manlies for saying that. Solly's a little boy. Let him BE a little boy!).
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I'll bet Sol likes it though. It probably feels great to be buzzed short in the summer heat.

I used to buzz my little boys in the summer, for their comfort, but let it grow long all winter.

Pics?
I am sorry it was so traumatic for you, Pixie.

It's always amazing to me how grown-up little boys look after the first "big cut". They lose the baby look.

I think it is great that S seems to like it. He might start to really like it when he realizes he doesn't have to sit through a combing anymore.

What does your husband say about letting it grow back? Does he have any say in this matter?

Also, can you bring yourself to post a picture?

Last edited by ruralcurls; 07-12-2010 at 02:31 PM. Reason: spelling mistake
Awwww, I'm going to miss seeing pictures of Sol's long hair!

I like RCW's idea of letting him enjoy a buzzed head for the summer and then grow it out again in the fall.


Boy can I relate! My son who is now 10, has had
some stylists I thought enhanced his curls and
some whose solution was to whack it off.
When it's whacked off or not cut right I really
have a hard time not feeling upset inside. I
finally figured out that I was kind of seeing my
son's hair as an extention of mine! I'm carrying
some hair baggage I guess. Thank God hair
grows!
PH - I know about looking "manly"! He said it made him look two years older.... to which I said "What's wrong with looking 2?"

RCW - It will be cooler for summer. It did make him really sweaty before. If we were going to do it anyway, we should have done it before the heat wave started.

rural - my husband is on board with growing it out again. That was one of my "conditions" of buzzing it in the first place, that it would be a one-time thing. My husband's thought is that by the time it's long enough to need a trim, Sol may have matured enough to be able to sit through one.

And a pic....



I forgot how much his ears stick out when his hair's not covering them LOL. My husband's were the same way when he was a little boy.
Faith, 3Aish redhead
Mama to two wild superheroes and a curly-headed baby boy
Oh, I know you don't want to "hear" this, but he looks so cute!!!
Pixie, he's still your sweet little boy. He's adorable.

It could be worse. My idiot brother-in-law took my nephews in for their summer buzzcuts and they came back with mohawks. They looked like little thugs. Happily the mohawks are growing out and they look almost normal again.
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I found with my boys that little mini trims helped out a lot with them until they got older. Sitting for a 2 minute haircut is easier than 15 minutes.

I did it one section at a time (front, sides, back, layering), but I'm not sure how well that would work with straight hair.
OK I admit, he looks pretty cute in that picture. And IRL I guess I'm getting used to it. Every time I picture what it used to look like, though, I still get sad.

PH, I think I would have liked a mohawk! Or more like a faux-hawk so he could wear it normal too.
Faith, 3Aish redhead
Mama to two wild superheroes and a curly-headed baby boy
I totally understand. I didn't cut DS's hair until he was 15 months old, although he needed it much sooner. I love letting his hair grow and his curls show - but it is much easier to keep it short. In early June, DS asked me for a haircut. I asked if he wanted a #1 or a #2 and he said #1. I was a little taken aback by how short it was - but it has 'grown' on me.

Long, blonde, 3a/mostly b hair.

Pixie, he's still your sweet little boy. He's adorable.

It could be worse. My idiot brother-in-law took my nephews in for their summer buzzcuts and they came back with mohawks. They looked like little thugs. Happily the mohawks are growing out and they look almost normal again.
Originally Posted by PartyHair
I'm the mother who totally let her son sport a mowhawk for a few months

Pixie I can relate. Luke had buzzed hair until about 2years old. It was easier since his baby hair was so straight and I buzzed his dad's hair all the time so it was easy to cut Luke's too. Started buzzing it at 8 months old actually. I also chopped my daughter's hair at 2. I was never really attached to their hair...or so I thought. When Luke was 2 I just let it grow by 3 it was really cute and by 4 he was my little California boy and I LOVED it so much.

As soon as he saw his step-dad and uncles buzz their's for summer he wanted it too buzz it and after much cute begging I gave in.

It has been various lengths since then (including his mowhawk) but never as long as it was then and when every summer rolls around he makes me cut it as soon as his s-dad (as the kids call him) does.

This was just a few weeks ago...right after his buzz.
Ivy also insisted on getting her hair short this summer and she wants to go even shorter. At almost 10 I'm not going to argue anymore.


I realize he has a thick head of wavy hair and he's much happier with it short but I still miss his sun-kissed waves so much.

Pixie I think Sol looks adorable. You'll start to get used to it and when you see how much easier it is in the summer maybe you'll end up liking it. It's just one of many moments where you see your baby growing up.
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I totally understand. I didn't cut DS's hair until he was 15 months old, although he needed it much sooner. I love letting his hair grow and his curls show - but it is much easier to keep it short. In early June, DS asked me for a haircut. I asked if he wanted a #1 or a #2 and he said #1. I was a little taken aback by how short it was - but it has 'grown' on me.

Originally Posted by curly_keltie
Awwwww!!!! Is he a TimBit?!?!??!
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I totally understand. I LOVE LOVE LOVE Steven with longer hair. He has loose curls/waves like Sol and I think it is adorable on little boys.

DH and everyone else around me made fun of him, saying he needs a hair cut all the time ect. He also hated going to the salon, so I tried to trim it myself, did a great job and on the last area, messed it all up.

FIL fixed it, and he uses the clippers on the absolute highest setting, so it was not super short, but helped to cover my mistake. He is much cooler with the summer, but secretly I want to grow it out again. I won't mention it to DH, but since I am the one who takes him I might conveniently never have time

I totally agree with your comment "what is wrong with him looking like a little boy." I hate how everyone says he looks like a big boy with his hair short. HE IS STILL MY BABY!!!!!!

ETA - He is adorable! And like you said, it will grow back fast, it could be MUCH shorter



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Oh, his hair was gorgeous, I get what you're saying. But I have to admit he is still so adorable, just more "big boy" now.

I have not taken Elise for a big cut--it's so curly and like CG, I got sheared regularly, so I just trim the ends from time to time and keep it moving. I can manage her hair so unless she asks, I'll leave it alone. I also think the big boy haircut is a much bigger deal over the girls' haircuts because it is such a major change, and the assumption is that you're going to keep cutting it that short from there on out.
He still looks adorable! And even though it's hard to get used to, it'll grow back before you know it!

Each of my kids have different hair. Bennett has super thick, wavy hair. We tried growing it out a few times, but all it does is poof. So his hair is kept super short.

Preston has thickish straight hair, which he twirls (at the top) when he's bored. He also has a cowlick at the top of his head at the back that sticks up. So we keep his hair longish on top so he can twirl it and the cowlick will lie a little flatter, but the sides and back are kept shorter.

Soren is my curly. He has thin curly hair like me. He's only had 2 haircuts, and we'll probably keep his hair on the longer side because it just looks better that way.
curly_keltie, E looks adorable!

Jess, I loooooove Luke's hair in that first pic. He looks great with it shorter too of course but obviously I'm biased toward longer hair. I think he definitely looks like a little boy in that pic, were people constantly saying he looked like a girl?

deezee, sounds like we've got the same story... except my husband likes Sol's hair longer too, just not as long as it had gotten. I think because he's bald himself, he likes to live vicariously through Sol
Faith, 3Aish redhead
Mama to two wild superheroes and a curly-headed baby boy

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