Okay, so here's an update. We've done pretty good wearing underwear and peeing. We still refuse to poop on the potty and I think the more I push the issue...the worse it is. She is now constipated from holding her poop 2 or 3 days...then finally going at night with her pullup...so I'm going to back off. Let her tell me when she needs to poop...put a pull up on and then put her back in undies until I can get her regulated. I think if I can get pooping not to hurt...I may be able to get her on the toilet.
She eats applesauce, fruit, veggies...anything else I can giver her to help with consitpation? (poor girl has my issues that I battle with.) I read one doctor's response...to do the pull-up..do miralax to help soften everything up for 2 weeks...then slowly go off of it (another 2 weeks)...so they quit hurting while pooping...then go back to slowly work them on the potty. He suggests 1) have them poop in a pullup in the bathroom 2) step 1 while having potty lid open 3) have them poop in pull up while sitting down on floor in the bathroom 4) cut a hole in pull up and have them sit on potty with pull up on and pooping 5) remove pull-up and be good to go. Seems like a lot of steps...maybe it will work.
Any suggestions, I would be thankful for.
I do not think that doctor's suggestions will work. Sounds more like "theory" to me. Kids, especially kids with constipation tendencies, will not be able to perform pooping on the bathroom floor or pooping through a hole. Sounds ridiculous to me.
I think daily intake of pro-biotics and yogur/kefir are the best cures for constipation. There is mounting evidence showing what we eat is not as important as we've been led to believe, but rather the good bacteria in our gut that govern our bowel function. People who lack the proper gut flora often have bowel difficulties. Where do we get our gut flora...maybe from our mothers, so maybe that's why constipation seems to run in families. More research needs to be done, but, in the meantime, get some good yogurt.