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Old 08-22-2012, 01:54 PM   #1
 
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How do you guys keep your 3 almost 4 year olds from saying words you don't like...it seems the more I say something the more Addison says it.

Butt, stupid and poop are her 3 favorite words...I don't care about poop but I'm not a fan of the other 2. Seems the more I correct her the worse it gets...

How do you guys handle this? Ignore it...hope it goes away? I swear she gets all 3 words in one sentence... "You're a stupid poopy butt"...so nice.

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Of course her other favorite pass time is sticking her tongue out...
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Old 08-22-2012, 02:27 PM   #2
 
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With 'poop' I say 'i don't like that's or 'enough with the potty words'.

my kids are pretty good with not saying what I tell them not to -for the most part.



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Old 08-22-2012, 03:43 PM   #3
 
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In general I tend to say "we don't use those words" or "use your kind words" in a situation like that.

Have you tried telling her what she can say rather than what she can't? Like if she's mad at someone and calls them a stupid poopy butt you could encourage her to label how she's feeling and why ("I'm mad at you because you took my toy" "I'm feeling silly and want to say funny words").

Blame it on the cell phone...
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I have tried alternate words... I guess they just aren't as fun to say....of course she did think "tooty tushy" was funny this morning. Stupid is just something we are going to have to work with her on...calling people stupid. I do give an alternate of "silly"... That is silly instead of stupid...

I guess it's a phase... I am hoping leaving daycare..going to a more structured "pre-k"...then being home with nanny in the afternoon narrows this down... Not to blame daycare...but in the evenings...they get to watch sponge bob..(which I hate)...other things. Kids are going to pick things up....

I was just hoping someone had a magic pill.
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Well, poop is a fabulous word. I can see why they want to say it!
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Well, poop is a fabulous word. I can see why they want to say it!
I know right?
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This reminds me of my BF's niece who hopped around the room last christmas singing "bum, bum, fanny, butt" and "it's the most wonderful time....of the butt." She was 3. Personally I thought it hilarious, but I tactfully hid my delight cuz I knew they didn't approve. They wanted her to say fanny, but I hate that word. They also make her say panties instead of underwear. Blech!

I think it's probably just a phase and continue to reinforce your preferences, and call others on it if they say it in her presence so she knows it's not just her. Turn things around on her "would you like it if I called you stupid?" etc. We only say butt when we are talking about the body part (or your preferred word).
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Kids just have a knack for picking up inappropriate words! I think it is a phase she'll get over. My boys have gone through that too. We had to crack down and start enforcing time out for "bad language," and that nips it in the bud pretty well in our household. Sometimes they still like to say "butt" or whatever, but I give them a stern look and they know I mean business and knock it off.

Last night I was reading a book to C (5yo) that had a blue-footed booby. When I read the name of the bird, he started laughing and said, "Booby! That's a funny word!" How do kids know those things are funny??
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Kids just have a knack for picking up inappropriate words! I think it is a phase she'll get over. My boys have gone through that too. We had to crack down and start enforcing time out for "bad language," and that nips it in the bud pretty well in our household. Sometimes they still like to say "butt" or whatever, but I give them a stern look and they know I mean business and knock it off.

Last night I was reading a book to C (5yo) that had a blue-footed booby. When I read the name of the bird, he started laughing and said, "Booby! That's a funny word!" How do kids know those things are funny??
I think kids aren't so turned off by language that they can find the delight in funny sounding words. Booby is a great one!
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After listening to one-too-many refrains of Rudolph the Red Nosed ReinBUTT one Christmas season, i banned the word butt for many years...along with several other words.
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...that would get to me too RCC. What drives me crazy is reading some of the kids books...and they use the word "stupid"... Really? I always try to catch myself and say "silly".

I do think it's a phase...just one we are struggling with right now. I was trying to curb it especially before daughter starts pre-k.
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My sister had to work with her kids about stupid. It's their 's-word.'

My brother's oldest daughter once used the s-word for poop after stubbing her toe. She walked down the hall saying it with each step. She was about three. My SIL looked embarrassed, but my mother and I shrugged it off since she did use it appropriately, and, it was funny.

I can see why people don't want their kids doing it, though b
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I'm guessing her pre-K class will help her get over that. I know at my daughter's preschool, for instance, they had to say bottom instead of butt in class. It carried over to home. Usually pre-K is stricter than daycare about those sorts of things.
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I'm guessing her pre-K class will help her get over that. I know at my daughter's preschool, for instance, they had to say bottom instead of butt in class. It carried over to home. Usually pre-K is stricter than daycare about those sorts of things.
That is so my hope. LOL... Less exposure to the words helps so when trying to enforce rules at home.

I cringe everytime I see spongebob on the t.v. at daycare....
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Yeah, I love Spongebob, but he's not too appropriate for small kids.
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Unfortunately a lot of the tv shows aimed at the younger kid audience arent too appropriate these days.

I correct "stupid" when I hear it out of my kids' mouths, and I dont like "hate" as in "i hate that" so I tell them "its dislike" and ask them why they dislike whatever it is. But otherwise we dont have an issue with words I dont like, they've been known to correct me even.... I definitely have to watch what I say. Kids pick up all sorts of things at school & from TV!

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I think "stupid" and other putdowns are totally different, so I ak them how they would fee if someone said said hurtful to them such as...this or that. And they get that.

I don't care if my kids say goofy stuff...around the house...and only for a few minutes per day. LOL

My kids were on this thing where whenever one would say something, the other would respond with "chicken" or "jump out the window" and then they would both crack up.

Constantly...grrrrrr

So I would just tell them, "go ahead and laugh...you have three more minutes of this." LOL
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Our new thing...along with the words is to say.. Zinga! if you get there first... They thought it was funny when I said Zinga one day.
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