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Old 04-13-2013, 01:55 PM   #1
 
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My daughter is 2 months old. I had always planned to breastfeed, but in the hospital I discovered I have flat nipples, and my baby was unable to latch on. to make matters worse, she was born small for full term, and because of the latch problems, lost weight rapidly. so the nurses suggested i pump and bottlefeed. then her pediatrician suggested I supplement with formula until she's at a healthy weight. Now she's definately at a healthy weight, and when she's intrested latching seems much easier. The problem is 95% of the time she's not intrested, and when she is I can only keep her on the boob for 5 minutes, tops, and she won't switch to the other one. I have no idea what to do, and i'm getting desprate. We really can't afford the formula, or to continue renting the pump. Not to mention formula feeding just feels wrong. My goal is to have her nursing eclusively by 6 months.

Is this a reasonable goal, or has the ship sailed? Anyone have any experience teaching a older baby how to breastfeed exclusively? Can you offer and pointers?
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Old 04-13-2013, 04:19 PM   #2
 
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Bump! I'm a big advocate for breast feeding. Someone has to know something.
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Good luck to you! Do you have a lactation consultant who can help?
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Old 04-13-2013, 07:53 PM   #4
 
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Try LaLeche: http://www.llli.org/

My hospital had a lactation consultant available too. They were helpful with questions and nursing issues.

Good luck! I'm sure you two will work it out!
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I just wanted to say good luck! Having a LC sit with you while you nurse and give you pointers will be helpful.

I aasume you already have really slow flow nipples on your bottles? That should at least mitigate one of the reasons baby might favour bottle.
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I just wanted to say good luck! Having a LC sit with you while you nurse and give you pointers will be helpful.

I aasume you already have really slow flow nipples on your bottles? That should at least mitigate one of the reasons baby might favour bottle.
i have no idea, i never heard of it before, but i'll definately look into it
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Old 04-15-2013, 10:39 PM   #7
 
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Just keep trying! As difficult as it may seem, if baby is hungry enough she will learn!

I had flat nipples too, but I never pumped and bottle fed until she started attending daycare at 5 months. Instead, I used the nipple shield to help pop the nipple out gradually and to give my baby something to latch onto. At 6 months, I had to teacher her how to latch on without the shield which was difficult, but I wanted her to be breast fed exclusively so badly that I did whatever it took to keep it going. I breast fed her exculsively for 10 months and then I started introducing whole milk.

Have you tried the shield?

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Old 04-16-2013, 07:41 PM   #8
 
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With my second baby, I had some serious latch issues in the first few days and ended up with severely damaged nipples...also known as hamburger. I had to take many weeks off of nursing to get them to heal. I pumped during that time, but my milk diminished and my baby learned to love the bottle, so going back to nursing was a real challenge. It took a few weeks of patience and working to getting him to nurse more and bottlefeed less, but I did evenentually get back on nursing full-time. Patience patience patience. I would nurse first and kinda force him to stay there for at least 5 minutes on each breast before I would allow him to finish off with the bottle. I would also pump after he was done to try to stimulate a little more milk for the next feeding. Slow drip nipples on the bottle help too. It helps to have a supportive partner. And please do consult a lactation consultant. She may have some tricks for you to try. Good luck! It can be done. Adoptive mothers can nurse, and so can you!
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Old 04-18-2013, 12:34 PM   #9
 
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Find your local LLL chapter and call one of the leaders, I have found then super-helpful.
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I just wanted to say good luck! Having a LC sit with you while you nurse and give you pointers will be helpful.

I aasume you already have really slow flow nipples on your bottles? That should at least mitigate one of the reasons baby might favour bottle.
i have no idea, i never heard of it before, but i'll definately look into it
Here's a video that explains how to give a baby a bottle that is more compatible with breastfeeding
Paced Bottle Feeding For The Breastfed Baby - YouTube
And you want to use slow flow (newborn) nipples no matter how old your baby is

Good luck
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Just wanted to say good luck. Stick with it...it's hard.
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Old 04-18-2013, 01:54 PM   #12
 
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My son was born prematurely and in rhe nicu for 2 weeks. during that time, he got breastmilk in a bottle and Then slowly learned to breastfeed. We weaned off the breast shield around 6 weeks. It was HARD, but it was something I really wanted to do (although at the time I was seriously doubting my goal of 12months of Breastfeeding - currently at 9.5 months. Woo!). You just have to work at it though. Stop offering the bottle and nurse for less time than they tell you, but do it on demand and more frequently. Unless there are underlying issues, it will work. I dealt with oversupply due to pumping and bottlefeeding expressed milk, so we had to deal with that too. Anyway, as others have said, look into a LC or LLL leader to help you as it's difficult to really help online. Good luck!
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Old 04-22-2013, 10:25 AM   #13
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I suggest making sure the baby isn't super hungry or super full when you offer the breast. If she's really hungry, you both will be very frustrated and there will be a lot of tears. If she's full, she won't try. Offer it maybe about 30 mins to an hour before she normally eats.

Does she take a paci? I would offer the breast instead of a paci.
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