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Old 05-07-2013, 11:41 AM   #21
 
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I would have co slept if it had helped. Desperate times!
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I don't know. I tend to agree with RCW on this one. I have 2 kids of my own and I baby sit my nephews who are turning 1. Routines and sleepy clues work. Finding what is right for each baby works. With DD it was a little rocking, DS needed to work it out on his own, N1 needs quiet time, N2 does it alone like DS did. I needed and still need time to do other house stuff. I'm not about to spend all day rocking babies and refusing to vacuum because they don't sleep well.
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My SIL co-sleeps with her 9yo and 2yo daughters because that's how she's always done it. ...And 50% of her FB posts are about how tired and sleep-deprived she is.


I have no patience for that. It's fine to sleep with your kids, or to stay up all night with them, if that's what you think is best, but don't complain about it. The rest of us don't want to hear about your martyrdom.
Speak for yourself. I love hearing new born stories, empathising, sympathising, identifying other people's experiences with my own & noting the similarities and differences.

It amazes me to no end how similar babies can be and yet each baby is so different each an every one is.

I think mums with new borns are entitled to a good whinge. So if anyone wants to have a whinge about lack of sleep or anything else - it won't fall on deaf ears. Whinge away!
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I don't know. I tend to agree with RCW on this one. I have 2 kids of my own and I baby sit my nephews who are turning 1. Routines and sleepy clues work. Finding what is right for each baby works. With DD it was a little rocking, DS needed to work it out on his own, N1 needs quiet time, N2 does it alone like DS did. I needed and still need time to do other house stuff. I'm not about to spend all day rocking babies and refusing to vacuum because they don't sleep well.
Agreed. and it's not like RCW said every can sleep 12 hours a night. She just said every baby sleeps. That's kinda a fact of life. Everyone needs sleep.

Funny post. Thanks for sharing. We were just having this conversation last night at a Sip and See.
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I coslept w/ both kids until they were each 3 y/o. They slept like rocks. And still do. But they sometimes still wake up in my bed, and they are 8 and 5. And I kind of like it. (Is that bad? LOL)

I broke a lot of the baby advice du jour. And they were fine.

I really disreagarded the whole bedtime thing w/ baby #1. I just didn't want to put her "away" for the night.

But yeah, I was LOLing at the article. So true!
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and it's not like RCW said every can sleep 12 hours a night. She just said every baby sleeps. That's kinda a fact of life. Everyone needs sleep.


Almost all babies come out with their days/nights mixed up and sleeping only a few minutes at a time. It's what they do in the womb. It's our job as parents to gradually shape and stretch out those diffuse sleep cycles into a semblance of something we can live with. It can be done with ALL babies. How to get there varies from kid to kid...and that's where the skill lies.
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I don't know. I tend to agree with RCW on this one. I have 2 kids of my own and I baby sit my nephews who are turning 1. Routines and sleepy clues work. Finding what is right for each baby works. With DD it was a little rocking, DS needed to work it out on his own, N1 needs quiet time, N2 does it alone like DS did. I needed and still need time to do other house stuff. I'm not about to spend all day rocking babies and refusing to vacuum because they don't sleep well.
Agreed. and it's not like RCW said every can sleep 12 hours a night. She just said every baby sleeps. That's kinda a fact of life. Everyone needs sleep.

Funny post. Thanks for sharing. We were just having this conversation last night at a Sip and See.
They're talking about sleeping thru the night. Not necessarily 12 hrs but a good stretch.
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and it's not like RCW said every can sleep 12 hours a night. She just said every baby sleeps. That's kinda a fact of life. Everyone needs sleep.


Almost all babies come out with their days/nights mixed up and sleeping only a few minutes at a time. It's what they do in the womb. It's our job as parents to gradually shape and stretch out those diffuse sleep cycles into a semblance of something we can live with. It can be done with ALL babies. How to get there varies from kid to kid...and that's where the skill lies.
No, really. For some kids, there is no solution but time.
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and it's not like RCW said every can sleep 12 hours a night. She just said every baby sleeps. That's kinda a fact of life. Everyone needs sleep.


Almost all babies come out with their days/nights mixed up and sleeping only a few minutes at a time. It's what they do in the womb. It's our job as parents to gradually shape and stretch out those diffuse sleep cycles into a semblance of something we can live with. It can be done with ALL babies. How to get there varies from kid to kid...and that's where the skill lies.
No, really. For some kids, there is no solution but time.


Sure, it takes time. Several weeks...or a few months. The shaping is gradual. It doesn't take years.
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Old 05-09-2013, 08:53 PM   #30
 
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I did everything right with my daughter. I actually followed your advice, RCW. Sleepy cues, bedtimes routines, putting her in her crib awake. She was falling asleep on her own at 3 or 4 months with little fuss. And waking up every 2-3 hours and not going back to sleep without nursing. After nursing I could put her down awake and she would go to sleep instantly (and then wake up again in 2-3 hours) I finally resorted to CIO/Ferber and it would work (after 3-4 days of screaming hell) and she would sleep through most of the night for 2 weeks, until she started cutting another tooth, or learned to stand up or whatever. I went through this cycle 3 or 4 times until I decided that the solution was worse than the problem and just decided to go with it. She started to sleep through the whole night on her own at 15 months. So yeah, some babies really do need time.

My son was the opposite. Impossible to get down for the night, but once he was down he would sleep for 8 hours, eat and sleep for 3 more. I did not know how to gently train him to fall asleep on his own so we did Ferber and it worked the first time. When he was 9 months old we decided to see what would happen to the 4 am waking if dad (who had no milk) went to see him instead of me. He went back to sleep easily, did the same thing the next night and on the third night did not bother waking up for dad.

Babies are different. Some really do need more time.
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Many babies have problem in sleeping because whenever wake up they needs someone to paly with them rigth..So the best thing we can do is either get them some toys that may be entertaining for the infants may be some sort of a baby bouncers or something !!!!!
So that if baby gets up at any odd time there would be something for them to play with..and will definitely go to sleep whenever gets bored!!!!
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Yep. I learned very quickly to listen to what my daughter was telling me instead of going with expert advice. That meant she was a stomach sleeper. My son has slept on his stomach since the night that he came home from the hospital AND he has had a blanket.
Mine too. I tried those pillows that keep babies on their backs but he'd wiggle and squirm onto his belly. I got rid of the pillow and he started sleeping 9pm to 3am at 4 weeks old and 7pm to 7am at 6 weeks old and has been a good sleeper ever since. Not sure if that's why or if I just lucked out.
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