For New Moms who are overwhelmed! Baby Sleep Advice Rant.

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Okay, so I found this rant very funny. The Today show printed the rant that was written. I felt this way with my son. He did not sleep through the night no matter what I tried. He was about a week old when my sister called...gave me 30 minutes of advice...I just sat there and silently cried because I was so overwelmed...I could hardly say goodbye. I never did tell her because she would have felt horrible...but how this lady felt...was me except thankfully I didn't have twins.

Exhausted new mom's hilarious take on 'expert' sleep advice goes viral - TODAY.com
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It's really true, there is so much conflicting advice. If there were ONE method that worked, we'd all be using it.
If you got nothing to bring to the table - don't even bother sitting down.
Yep. I learned very quickly to listen to what my daughter was telling me instead of going with expert advice. That meant she was a stomach sleeper. My son has slept on his stomach since the night that he came home from the hospital AND he has had a blanket.


I'm expecting my first in a couple of months, as are a number of friends, and we had a good giggle over this the other day, there was a similar one a few months back about things you can do when you're pregnant too.

I have pretty much refused to read any advice on sleep or breast feeding in the last two months, and have been working on forgetting everything I read before that in preparation for the birth. I think ill be happier being ignorant :P

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I liked researching and getting advice on how to get babies to sleep. I took the pearls of wisdom and discarded everything else, but it was nice to have an arsenal of information to fall back on when something didn't work for a particular baby...I was able to just try something else. I think it all depends on how interested you are in getting good sleep. I was VERY interested, and focused my whole attention on it during the early weeks with each new baby. I can say with confidence that I AM an expert on getting new babies to sleep through the night. I don't inflict that on people who don't want to know though. But, at the same time, I'm very disinterested in hearing "how tired" you are and how you have the only-baby-in-the-world who won't sleep. Nonsense. They will all sleep.
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Your babies are not the only babies, and not all babies are like yours.
Surely she has a point though, all babies must sleep. My mum works on a children's hospital and somehow the nurses manage to get even sick babies to sleep.(from this I have learnt some valuable lessons before my baby is born, like if you start rocking a baby to sleep when it comes home, you will be rocking every night for a very long time).

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(before anyone feels the need to point it out I am well aware that I am currently blissfully ignorant, but I am trying to hold on to my illusions for as long as possible. You can say "i told you so" to your hearts content in around 7 weeks)

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Your babies are not the only babies, and not all babies are like yours.
Originally Posted by CGNYC


I've been around more babies than just my own. I babysat for a living, and I have a lot of family. ALL babies can sleep.
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Yes, yes. You know everything. We've been down this road before. Maybe I just had the one odd baby in the whole world but please believe me, there was no CIO, bedtime routine, or drug that would make that child sleep through the night. Rocking all night, walking the floors, nothing. She. Did. Not. Sleep.

I know it's REALLY hard to believe, but there are things outside of your experience and they are still true things.
I don't know everything. How silly.

I do know how to get babies to sleep though.
I know it's REALLY hard to believe, but there are things outside of your experience and they are still true things.
Originally Posted by CGNYC
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AHHHHHH!! I did not post this to start an arguement...I posted it to be funny! To me it is funny because of all the advice is so different...and yes it can overwhelm a new mom.

CGNYC, If you had the first child...I had the second one. I tried all the advice..and Chas did not sleep through the night once until he was 18 months....and was not consistent until after age of 2. My daughter...slept 5 hours after having her home for 2 weeks...

RCW, you have had some awesome success....you should consider being a baby nurse... I swear in some sleep book this lady talked about being a baby nurse I think...going into homes in Britain to help moms with issues after the baby came home. I would have loved to have that...I didn't have the breastfeeding issues...but sleep issues is another story.
I loved the rant. The issue I had with all of my kids is that the person who watches my babies was excellent at getting them to sleep and would get them to sleep most of the hours I was working. Less sleep for me. Luckily, I can function well with little sleep.

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hello.world.
(from this I have learnt some valuable lessons before my baby is born, like if you start rocking a baby to sleep when it comes home, you will be rocking every night for a very long time).

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Originally Posted by Yoshimi
This is true! My sister was rocking her kids to sleep when they were 4 and 5 years old. It took 45 min+ each night. My SIL co-sleeps with her 9yo and 2yo daughters because that's how she's always done it. ...And 50% of her FB posts are about how tired and sleep-deprived she is. I don't claim to be a baby-sleeping expert, but I think it's best not to start a habit or sleep routine that you don't want to continue for years.
My SIL co-sleeps with her 9yo and 2yo daughters because that's how she's always done it. ...And 50% of her FB posts are about how tired and sleep-deprived she is.
Originally Posted by sarah42


I have no patience for that. It's fine to sleep with your kids, or to stay up all night with them, if that's what you think is best, but don't complain about it. The rest of us don't want to hear about your martyrdom.
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I have a soft spot for moms who complain about lack of sleep. I didn't know a damn thing about children, babies and it sure doesn't come naturally to me. Some people are better at figuring this stuff out than others.

I very much identify with the feeling of trying everything, finally figuring out something that works and sticking with it even though it isn't an optimal sleep solution for me. It was that little victory after many failures that was worth the compromise. And trying something new after a series of failures can seem like a really scary proposition when you have little support system to help you out when you want to do something different.

If it wasn't for my leap of faith (at least it felt like a leap of faith at the time - lol) I probably would still be co-sleeping with my 6&4yr old because hubby was very much ok with co-sleeping for a really long time and wasn't as interested in getting the boys in their own room.

The last thing mothers need is to be kicked when they are down and vulnerable for lack of sleep - whether or not it is of their own doing, ignorance, or not.
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hello.world.
I think I've told you all this before, but: my first baby would not sleep, but he was pleasant enough about it. He woke every 2 hours for 18 months no matter what- he didn't always cry though. I think that was worse in the long run than having a baby who fights falling asleep- having your sleep constantly interrupted. . My middle child slept 6 hours from birth- I was afraid something was wrong with her. My youngest child is almost 5 and still fights falling asleep every night, although once asleep, he was a decent sleeper from a fairly young age.
My SIL co-sleeps with her 9yo and 2yo daughters because that's how she's always done it. ...And 50% of her FB posts are about how tired and sleep-deprived she is.
Originally Posted by sarah42


I have no patience for that. It's fine to sleep with your kids, or to stay up all night with them, if that's what you think is best, but don't complain about it. The rest of us don't want to hear about your martyrdom.
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
Well the rest of US really enjoy your pleasant helpful disposition.

Some babies don't sleep. Sometimes, there's just not a solution and you have to wait it out. It sucks, but there it is. No amount of CIO or co sleeping or bedtime routine or going to bed early or staying up late or white noise machines or anything else help. I mean, I guess I could've just stopped responding but that wouldn't have made my baby (or two year old) stop throwing up or screaming...and it would've made me a pretty crappy mom.
Some babies don't sleep. Sometimes, there's just not a solution and you have to wait it out. It sucks, but there it is. No amount of CIO or co sleeping or bedtime routine or going to bed early or staying up late or white noise machines or anything else help. I mean, I guess I could've just stopped responding but that wouldn't have made my baby (or two year old) stop throwing up or screaming...and it would've made me a pretty crappy mom.
Originally Posted by CGNYC

Yup, I had to wait it out with Chas...although I didn't co-sleep (which I'm glad because a friend who did...still has her 7 year old sleeping with her). My husband thanks me a lot for sticking to my guns on that one. ...2 years seem the magic number for him...or maybe it was not being the only child. LOL

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