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Rusycurly 09-04-2013 08:16 AM

Pre-school question
My dear 3 year old is about to enter a preschool program in NYC . I'm freaking out about him being away from me with strangers. Any advice? Things I should know, do or that might help...I'd really appreciate it

geeky 09-04-2013 09:09 AM

Most preschools have a gradual transition-in program where you stay with your child for a little while the first day, leave them a little longer after that and gradually work your way up to leaving them there the whole time. Does yours offer that? that would help ease both of you into it.

Are parents always welcome to pop in any time and see what is going on? Do they provide daily write-ups about your kid's day?

All that said, it is perfectly normal to be anxious and freaked out and a little sad about the idea of being away from your child the first time. I think every parent goes through that. If it's a quality pre-school setting the kids tend to adjust much quicker than the parents.

Also don't be put off if your child clings or cries when you drop him off, and don't take that as being indicative of the whole experience. Some kids have trouble with transitions. My daughter is 5 and she cried a little and pouted and clung when I dropped her off at daycare for 4 1/2 years. And then would not want to go home when I picked her up in the evening because she was having so much fun. It's normal for kids to cry a little bit and then calm down almost instantly after the parent leaves and have a great time. So if your son does cry, talk to the teachers and find out what is going on the rest of the day when you are not there.

spiderlashes5000 09-04-2013 10:22 AM

How does he normally act if you leave him w/ a relative or a babysitter? You should be able to predict somewhat how it will go by the way he has acted in the past, if you ever left him w/ anyone.

(My mom was a SAHM and preschool did NOT go smoothly for me at all. But that was a given bc I would become completely undone anytime my mother left me w/ anyone, even someone I knew well. It's usually a little harder for kids w/ of SAHMs...but not always. History is the best predictor.)

Definitely, try to play up how much FUN FUN FUN it will be. Give examples of the fun activities he will be doing and how many nice friends he'll meet.

Has he seen the classroom and his desk and the story area and the playground, etc., already? I would def take him there beforehand and acclimate him to it. Better still, if he can meet the teacher before he is left there.

Let him wear his favorite outfit and promise him his favorite snack or meal or something for afterward.

Best wishes! (Tell us how it goes.)

newseason 09-04-2013 04:36 PM

Have u talked to the administrator about ur concerns? A lot of programs have camera monitoring systems where u can log in and watch ur child n the classroom while u r at work. Or u can review the video when u go to pick him up so u can see his interaction with the staff.

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