Did you call your baby by name before he/she was born??

I'm not Jewish either but I also don't believe in naming an unborn baby - I think many cultures have this (medussa, I guess it's also a Latin thing?) We have a boys' name picked out and a tentative girls' one so sometimes we will use them more jokingly when referring to the future ie, "Little x and x are going to Catholic school whether they like it or not, and they are NOT allowed to date in high school," but rarely, and we never refer to the child in the womb by those names.

We don't plan to find out the gender anyway, so we can't use a name definitely in any case. We had the ultrasound on Wednesday and saw the baby and baby has VERY long legs (like my husband), so now baby's name for now is "Little Long Legs." It's always been "the baby", "little baby," "sweetie baby", or "da baby" said in a cutesie type of voice.

Babywavy, I also can't stand when people say "We're pregnant!"
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I was kind of joking about the Jewish thing, but I do think Amneris is right that it could be cultural to be superstitious. Like how Jews aren't supposed to have a shower or buy anything for the baby before he/she is born (though my sister didn't follow it that closely, nor will I).
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I was kind of joking about the Jewish thing, but I do think Amneris is right that it could be cultural to be superstitious. Like how Jews aren't supposed to have a shower or buy anything for the baby before he/she is born (though my sister didn't follow it that closely, nor will I).
Originally Posted by PixieCurl
It's definitely cultural, and Jews are not the only ones. Part of it is superstition, part is common sense, IMO.
If anything were to happen to a baby of mine during a pregnancy, I would find a completely set up nursery in the house unbearable, so we kept the stuff to a bare minimum and kept it at my in-laws'. I saw it as not so much superstition as a reminder that you really don't know what will happen and not to count your chickens before they hatch. Sounds kind of morbid, but it really wasn't for me. I tried to take this attitude about the baby in general and to not have any specific expectations about what it would be like since I really had no idea.

Having an excuse to not have a baby shower was a huge relief for me, because I think they are hideous.
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I was kind of joking about the Jewish thing, but I do think Amneris is right that it could be cultural to be superstitious. Like how Jews aren't supposed to have a shower or buy anything for the baby before he/she is born (though my sister didn't follow it that closely, nor will I).
Originally Posted by PixieCurl
It's definitely cultural, and Jews are not the only ones. Part of it is superstition, part is common sense, IMO.
If anything were to happen to a baby of mine during a pregnancy, I would find a completely set up nursery in the house unbearable, so we kept the stuff to a bare minimum and kept it at my in-laws'. I saw it as not so much superstition as a reminder that you really don't know what will happen and not to count your chickens before they hatch. Sounds kind of morbid, but it really wasn't for me. I tried to take this attitude about the baby in general and to not have any specific expectations about what it would be like since I really had no idea.

Having an excuse to not have a baby shower was a huge relief for me, because I think they are hideous.
Originally Posted by geeky
Yep, we don't keep baby stuff around either. Anything we need or are given goes to my parents' house and we are getting the minimum amount of stuff until after baby is born. Our culture doesn't have showers, but people do give gifts and money once the baby is born and/or for the christening.

My best friend had a silent miscarriage near the end of her 1st trimester... before that she got super excited and got a crib, bedding, set up a nursery, ordered a ton of maternity clothes and baby clothes, etc. etc. etc. plus told everyone she knew, even if she only knew them casually, and then she had to come home from her D&C and look at all the stuff, and to this day still gets inquiries and e-mails and calls as to how the baby is. Then her husband decided that they would not try again until she had been at a full time job for a few months. She still is not working months after the miscarriage, so they won't be trying any time soon and she still has a ton of baby stuff. She gave a lot of the clothes to me just so she doesn't have to come across them any more. That was a very good example to me of what NOT to do.

I even felt weird looking at baby at the ultrasound.... it felt kind of wrong to me, like an invasion of the baby's world, especially since he seemed so bothered by it.
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we didn't want to know the gender either time. so we used "he" or "the baby" as generic references.
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We had him named as soon as we knew the gender 9we actually had both names picked out by the time i was 3.5 months)..I have always called him the baby though, or little man, even now i rarely call him by his name.

We were in a weird situation with my showers, i found out about his condition when i was 7 months and my showers were planned for a month later. many people asked if i still wanted a shower, and why i was still setting up him room if there was a chance that he would not come home (at best this condition has a 70% survival rate from the 1st surgery alone, and even then, some live those months in the hospital between surgery one and two and then do not survive #2) Without a doubt i kept going with this pregancy and everything along with it.

To me, not having the shower was saying there was a chance he would not come home. There was never a doubt in my mind that I think that had a lot to do with his survival through all of this, we never thought that he would not make it, even when the doctors were calling in the chaplin, I refused to believe that my child would die before he got home. The showers and the room all helped to get through that 5 weeks he was in teh hospital, yes coming home to it all would have been hard, but i to me by not doing all that, i was telling everyone there was a chance my child would not make it.
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At the risk of getting h8ed, I will confess that I do call my baby by her name sometimes.

I don't call her by that all of the time. I say a lot of "the baby." But she is a person, and she already has a personality with likes and dislikes, so I treat her as such. In addition, we're so close to having her, that I feel like we should be calling her by her real name.
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At the risk of getting h8ed, I will confess that I do call my baby by her name sometimes.

I don't call her by that all of the time. I say a lot of "the baby." But she is a person, and she already has a personality with likes and dislikes, so I treat her as such. In addition, we're so close to having her, that I feel like we should be calling her by her real name.
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I won't h8 on you. If it works for you, that's fine. It's just not for me.
Originally Posted by PixieCurl
Oh, I completely understand! There are things that other parents-to-be do that I think are completely ridiculous. I was just kidding about the h8-ing.
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We found out we were having a boy therefore we knew the name...Charles V. But we knew Chas would go by a nickname instead of Charles. We kept the nickname a secret until he was born so we always said "the baby".

My problem was that DH and I had long discussions over whether to call him Chas or Chase. We decided we like Chas...but a few times I called him Chase after he was born...because people asked us how we came up with the name Chas...so we had to tell the story of all our discussions...then I just ended up being tongue tied.

Someone mentioned that they used "the baby" after the little one was here for three or 4 months. I did this too. I had a hard time switching from "the baby" to Chas. Funny!!!

Thankfully now, I'm all straight on my child's name. I'm such a bad mother.
DS was "the Baby" before he was born - we didn't actually agree on a name until after he was born anyways (we didn't know the sex beforehand, and I was sure he was a girl). Actually, he was still "the Baby" for a good few weeks after birth as well...

Indians also don't have a baby shower. We have a "mom-to-be" party in the 7th month where you buy nice little things for the lady of honour (non-baby related, like little jewellery, scarves etc...) and serve her favourite foods.
i refer to her as "the baby" but he calls her by her name.

i think im scared i'll get used to calling her majerle and then she'll come out and wont be a she--which means she will no longer be majerle.


sidenote: before being pregnant i used to loathe when people said "we're pregnant" but since being pregnant thats what we say, because as far as we're concerned its a team effort. turst me, if im cranky, we're ALL cranky! :x and "we" probably wont be back to normal until "we" this child is born.
i refer to her as "the baby" but he calls her by her name.

i think im scared i'll get used to calling her majerle and then she'll come out and wont be a she--which means she will no longer be majerle.


sidenote: before being pregnant i used to loathe when people said "we're pregnant" but since being pregnant thats what we say, because as far as we're concerned its a team effort. turst me, if im cranky, we're ALL cranky! :x and "we" probably wont be back to normal until "we" this child is born.
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Until WE both have sore boobs, and WE can't sleep at night, and WE have constant back pain, and WE have such constant heartburn that it makes us sick, then WE go into labor, and WE share our unbelievable contractions, and WE get to push that baby out - well until then, it's ME who's pregnant.
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You could always try talking to little "Thingamajig" or "Kickboxer" in your tummy.
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Even if we did have a name picked out, we wouldn't use it until she was born, I just feel weird about that. Family, and for that matter, perfect strangers are appauled that we haven't picked a definitive name yet! I'm someone that needs to see the baby first, but I understand that some people think "If I pick a name that is what she is going to be..". I just feel a certain way about certain names and have to see which name fits the baby. We did the same thing with my son. We had 4 names picked out, but I thought for sure he was going to be Joshua. When he came out he was SO not a Joshua to me.

My SIL, on the other hand, not only named my niece before she was born but started signing holiday cards from herself, my brother, my nephew and my unborn niece..that is just too much for me!


My SIL, on the other hand, not only named my niece before she was born but started signing holiday cards from herself, my brother, my nephew and my unborn niece..that is just too much for me!
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Ouch. I will never do that again. Our previous baby was due in July. I ordered preprinted holiday cards with everyone's names on it and a space that read "and _____________" to fill in later, with the baby's name (we didn't find out what we were having). Well, that pregnancy ended a few weeks after I received the cards and that Christmas it was so sad to look at the cards and not be able to send them out...because there was no baby.

Another mistake I made was sharing my due date with places like babycenter and such. To this day, I'm still getting formula coupons and emails like, "your infant should be doing xyz."

I was superstitious before, but after losing a baby, it's gone into overdrive. No ticker for me. And at 6 months, there are still a lot of people I haven't told.
Babywavy - we found out during a 2nd ultrasound that i had to push for...during my first, they were unable to see the chest and abdominal cavities due to his positioning, i pushed and pushed until i got another Ultrasound...he was missing the whole left side of his heart (well it was there, just just super small and non functional) so it was pretty easy to spot once they where able to look at the cheast.
Babywavy - we found out during a 2nd ultrasound that i had to push for...during my first, they were unable to see the chest and abdominal cavities due to his positioning, i pushed and pushed until i got another Ultrasound...he was missing the whole left side of his heart (well it was there, just just super small and non functional) so it was pretty easy to spot once they where able to look at the cheast.
Originally Posted by deezee02

I was asking b/c when I had my ultrasound they had told me that they couldn't get an accurate measurement of the brain and heart b/c of the baby's positioning. Well, I don't think my doctor has an issue w/ it b/c she never made mention of it, but I was scheduled w/ the midwife in the office b/c my doctor was out of town, and she pushed to have the second one done. Since it was not my doctor who made the order, I was kind of against having a second one done. I didn't see the need for it, and it seemed like an inconvenience to me - and frankly I don't WANT another ultrasound, ESPECIALLY here at 7 months.

But anyway, you see why I asked you the question.

Okay, thanks!!
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With our first son, we had the name chosen shortly after we found out it was a boy. We didn't really ever call him by name until he was born, and even then it was wierd.

With our second son, we didn't have a name for him until 5 days before he was born. I had gone into false labor so I told DH we'd better hurry and think of a name. It's funny how impatient people get when you don't have a name picked out. My mom must've asked almost daily if we'd come up with anything yet.

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