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Old 03-12-2007, 09:43 AM   #41
 
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We called them both "the baby" or "he" "she." Never by name.
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Old 03-12-2007, 10:50 AM   #42
 
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I have a friend who keeps asking me, "so did you pick a name yet?" I haven't. But even if I did, I wouldn't be telling anyone anyway.
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Old 03-12-2007, 06:22 PM   #43
 
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I have a friend who keeps asking me, "so did you pick a name yet?" I haven't. But even if I did, I wouldn't be telling anyone anyway.
My own mother is asking me the same question every day! I'm like "F@#k, MOM! NOOO! You will find out when we do, after she is born!!" We already know it is a girl, but I swear, if people could know the name and date she is going to be born they would be more than pleased, so when that day came they could just say "Oh..Jane is here." Seriously, what is the fun in knowing EVERYTHING before the baby is even born?
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Old 03-13-2007, 06:44 PM   #44
 
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Until WE both have sore boobs, and WE can't sleep at night, and WE have constant back pain, and WE have such constant heartburn that it makes us sick, then WE go into labor, and WE share our unbelievable contractions, and WE get to push that baby out - well until then, it's ME who's pregnant.
hahaha, he has more of those symptoms than i do! hes even gained more weight than i have! i think i'll make him take a pregnancy test when he gets home....
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Old 03-13-2007, 06:58 PM   #45
 
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hahaha, he has more of those symptoms than i do! hes even gained more weight than i have! i think i'll make him take a pregnancy test when he gets home....
Before my husband got deployed, I had gained 6 and he gained 10! And, I did make him take a pregnancy test! (I didn't believe mine said positive & wanted to see what a negative one looked like!)
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Old 03-14-2007, 07:47 AM   #46
 
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hahaha, he has more of those symptoms than i do! hes even gained more weight than i have! i think i'll make him take a pregnancy test when he gets home....
I was kidding my husband the same thing last week. He came home and said, "You know what would be good right now? A barbecue pork sandwich. And banana pudding would make it even BETTER!!!" I was like, "Which one of us is pregnant, dear?"
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Old 03-14-2007, 12:47 PM   #47
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i refer to her as "the baby" but he calls her by her name.

i think im scared i'll get used to calling her majerle and then she'll come out and wont be a she--which means she will no longer be majerle.


sidenote: before being pregnant i used to loathe when people said "we're pregnant" but since being pregnant thats what we say, because as far as we're concerned its a team effort. turst me, if im cranky, we're ALL cranky! :x and "we" probably wont be back to normal until "we" this child is born.


Until WE both have sore boobs, and WE can't sleep at night, and WE have constant back pain, and WE have such constant heartburn that it makes us sick, then WE go into labor, and WE share our unbelievable contractions, and WE get to push that baby out - well until then, it's ME who's pregnant.
I definitely feel that "we're pregnant" because he's so involved with supporting my emotional and physical well being as well as being a very active participant in the birth when it happens. I have yet to figure out how he plans on simultaneously filming the event while catching the baby.

While I realize that I will be physically doing the labor stuff, the other physical stuff he'll be doing to support the effort makes it a "we" thing for me. I'm sure we're both going to be quite exhausted.
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I have yet to figure out how he plans on simultaneously filming the event while catching the baby.
By using a tripod? :P
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Old 03-14-2007, 12:59 PM   #49
 
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I definitely feel that "we're pregnant" because he's so involved with supporting my emotional and physical well being as well as being a very active participant in the birth when it happens. I have yet to figure out how he plans on simultaneously filming the event while catching the baby.

While I realize that I will be physically doing the labor stuff, the other physical stuff he'll be doing to support the effort makes it a "we" thing for me. I'm sure we're both going to be quite exhausted.

Only with my last (homebirthed) baby did I feel my husband was a full-fledged participant in the birth. He was IN the hottub with me, nose-to-nose, pushing right along with me, when our baby was born. He didn't catch the baby, but he couldn't have been any closer or involved if he tried. Hospital births (IMO) seem to put real and perceived barriers between the woman and her support person, but homebirth can really bring out the closeness for a couple if they want it. The midwife's assistant did all our photography.
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Old 03-14-2007, 01:00 PM   #50
 
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it was definitely "our" pregnancy both times.

my husband's demeanor changed when i was pregnant. he was more protective of my physical body. he was more physically (nonsexually) affectionate. he got sleepier and took more naps. he filmed my every move (our kids love seeing my belly expand as they grew inside me). he helped me focus during labor and got me whatever i needed and made sure my surroundings were the way i wished. i could never exclude him from our pregnancies because without him, they wouldn't have been as happy, intimate, fun, and special.
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Old 03-14-2007, 04:24 PM   #51
 
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Dh was totally involved in this whole pregancy..he was totally involved in the whole labor/birthing process. he stayed up with me when i could not sleep in the hospital, he was there for me every step of the way during my pregancy. During the actual birth there were 3 people in the room, my nurse, my Dr. and a NICU nurse there just for Steven, there were others, but they were kept in a blocked room waiting on the baby. Mike was my total support, and we were laughing the whole time, we did not really have any boundries set for us.

When i am expeting agian, WE will be preganant, including DH, Me and Steven. although i do not want him there while i am giving birth, i want him invloved in everything else, i do not want him to be left out just b/c he is the big brother.
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At first it was "We", but sadly since he has been deployed, it has kinda changed to " I am pregnant". I have tried to keep him involved adn he has done his best too but there just isn't much for him to do from over there. He has said that even thoguh he really couldn't be there for the pregnancy, that he will for sure be there the rest of his life! That makes me smile and feel a little better. (He is really excited about being a daddy).
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He has said that even thoguh he really couldn't be there for the pregnancy, that he will for sure be there the rest of his life!
are you trying to make me cry so early in the morning?

that was precious!
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Old 04-01-2007, 04:16 PM   #54
 
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We did with our first daughter but with our second daughter we kept it to keep it to a minimum since her name was a secret. I didn't really want us to be in the habit of it to prevent any slippage of the tongue. We've always called our oldest a monkey so we just referred to the baby as "monkey 2". lol
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Old 04-03-2007, 09:07 AM   #55
 
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We didn't find out the gender, and though we picked out 2 names, we did not tell anyone. So we just spoke about "the baby".
Same here. "The baby" is what the baby goes by.
I think he was "the baby" till he was 3 or 4 months old, as a matter of fact.
Kell is still the baby a lot and sometimes even "it." We actually didn't name him officially until he was 3 days old. We had picked out 2 names (and which we would call him) when I was pregnant but didn't decide which would be the first name and which would be the second name until the application for the birth certificate arrived in the hospital.
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Old 04-03-2007, 09:23 AM   #56
 
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As far as the "we're pregnant" debate - I still would feel weird saying it because my husband is not pregnant, and I think HE would find it weird as well. However, I definitely agree with the REASONING behind saying it, which is to show that the father is very much a part of everything. What I usually say is "We're expecting". I think it sends the message I'm aiming for
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Old 04-04-2007, 10:36 AM   #57
 
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As far as the "we're pregnant" debate - I still would feel weird saying it because my husband is not pregnant, and I think HE would find it weird as well. However, I definitely agree with the REASONING behind saying it, which is to show that the father is very much a part of everything. What I usually say is "We're expecting". I think it sends the message I'm aiming for
Ditto. I was pregnant. We were expecting. S was going to be a big sister. My brother was going to be an aunt or an uncle again
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Old 04-04-2007, 10:40 AM   #58
 
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My brother was going to be an aunt or an uncle again
My mom used this line on me when my sister was pregnant - the day my sister was finding out the sex my mom called me and said "you get to find out if you're going to be an aunt or an uncle!" I knew it didn't sound right, but it took me a minute or so to figure out why
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Old 04-06-2007, 09:18 AM   #59
 
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We've always called our oldest a monkey so we just referred to the baby as "monkey 2". lol
Ha ha! DH and I call our baby "monkey" all the time since he was born--thought we were the only ones!
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