Why won't you sleep

My husband says "when in doubt, whip 'em out"
Originally Posted by babywavy
I breastfeed on demand. Except, of course, when I'm at work.
I have no interest in scheduling him.
Originally Posted by WebjockeyGuide
When I was still BFing, the same went for me. When they are that small, they really do need to eat pretty frequently (esp. if milk is the only source of food!). My daughter didn't sleep through the night consistently until she was about 7 mos. old. I have heard/read that that is about average for most babies (by then they have a stomach big enough to sustain them until morning).
DS breastfed on demand. He wasn't the least bit amenable to any kind of scheduling or dreamfeeding or convenience feeding before we went out... nothing. He wanted to nurse when he wanted to nurse, no matter how inconvenient for the timing!

I'm more inclined to give a scheduling a shot with the next one. Not "real" scheduling, but what RCW is talking about - a feed before I go to bed so I'm not being woken up 30 minutes later (DS was the master of this) or a feed before going out. That kind of thing.


I started trying to get into a schedule when DS was about two months old. It wasn't rigid, just more of a loose routine of eating, playing, then napping/sleeping. I had to go back to work when he was 10 weeks old, and I wanted some guidelines for my husband, who watched him most of the time during the day, and he would have otherwise been e-mailing me all the time with questions.

I never woke up DS for a feeding at 10 or 12 p.m. or whatever. I had a huge fear that he would be wide awake and wouldn't go back to sleep, which was probably silly on my part. However, I heartily agree with cluster feeding in the evening so that they're as full as possible when they go to sleep.
I breastfed on demand and he also slept in our bedroom (we were in a one bedroom apartment) so DS never really slept through the night. Now that we are in a two bedroom, he finally sleeps through the night. Would DS have slept through the night earlier had we been in the two bedroom from the time he was born? Perhaps!

My friend's little girl is two-weeks older, and she got her into a good bedtime routine of going to bed at 8 pm. Then she would breastfeed her at midnight - they would both wake up at 8 am.

I guess every baby is different.
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well last night I put him in footed pajamas nothing to hot but a light weight kind and he went to bed at 8:30 and slept until 3:30 then he went back to sleep sometime between 4:00 and 4:30 and slept until 6:30 then we snuggled and nursed until around 7:15 when we got up. Hopefully he'll do the same tonight.







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Neener neener. Told ya so!!!!!

There's something majic in those footies.
Am I the only one here breastfeeding on demand? Would a schedule help my daughter with sleeping better? And perhaps be less clingy during the day?

It sounds like many of you follow schedules as well as set bedtimes. My baby is usually asleep on me or in a sling, until I go up to bed (she sleeps with me). If I try to put her down in the bassinet or my bed, she wakes up. I think she needs to feel me or smell me to sleep. All my kids were this way.
Originally Posted by medussa
Nope - I am too ... just about every 2 hours round the clock. No schedule here.
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Neener neener. Told ya so!!!!!

There's something majic in those footies.
Originally Posted by WebjockeyGuide
Unfortunately, they don't work for me because that's all he ever wears to bed and he was still not sleepimg well.... but he does LOVE music, and also French radio (voices speaking French as opposed to English seems to make a difference ??????) so that's helped a bit. He also likes some light on - total darkness makes him holler!
Get used to me. Black, confident, cocky; my name, not yours; my religion, not yours; my goals, my own; get used to me. -Muhammad Ali











Neener neener. Told ya so!!!!!

There's something majic in those footies.
Originally Posted by WebjockeyGuide
Unfortunately, they don't work for me because that's all he ever wears to bed and he was still not sleepimg well.... but he does LOVE music, and also French radio (voices speaking French as opposed to English seems to make a difference ??????) so that's helped a bit. He also likes some light on - total darkness makes him holler!
Originally Posted by Amneris
Have you seen the icrib it's these little speakers that hook on to the crib and you put your ipod in it so then you can make a playlist for baby at sleep time to sooth them oh and it has a night light. We haven't tried ours yet







Neener neener. Told ya so!!!!!

There's something majic in those footies.
Originally Posted by WebjockeyGuide
Okay, I'll put this theory to a true test.

As soon as I find some footed pj's that will fit Chas... He's still waking up once in the middle of the night...the only thing that will get him back down is a bottle...
I breastfed on demand and he also slept in our bedroom (we were in a one bedroom apartment) so DS never really slept through the night. Now that we are in a two bedroom, he finally sleeps through the night. Would DS have slept through the night earlier had we been in the two bedroom from the time he was born? Perhaps!
Originally Posted by curly_keltie
I think that makes a big difference too! We were also in a one-bedroom apt until DS was almost 5 months old. When we moved into our house, it really helped because he had his own room and wasn't getting woken up by us during the night. So then he started sleeping through the night.
I had Lucy on a 2-3 hour routine, not necessarily a schedule, pretty much from the beginning. I was pumping so I had to have some kind routine. It wasn't like she wanted to eat every hour anyway so it wasn't a big deal.

Since I was bottle feeding her breastmilk I don't know if that made a difference since eating and being comforted were two seperate things. If she was full and needed comforting I would just have to hold her. I held her on demand, and I suppose I fed her on demand too, but she only demanded to be fed every 2-3 hours.

She would eat, play then sleep, and I always put her down awake. I think that's the smartest thing I did. She's been sleeping 11-12 hours a night since she was 3 months old. I don't know what good deed I did in a past life to deserve that, but I am truly greatful.

Once she started taking regular naps at around 5 or 6 months, I became pretty rigid with her schedule, because I wanted her to nap. Now that she's a little older and can go longer between naps I have loosened up, but most days pretty much run on the same schedule.
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I am (for the most part) fully convinced that it has a lot to do with the child's personality. Some kids want more sleep than others. All we have to do as parents is create the environment that allows them to sleep as long as they want to. For us that was a consistent routine, not sleeping in our bed (she wanted no part of it) and swaddling (she was a jerker).

I have to disagree with the 'too early of a bedtime' and too early for a bedtime schedule' comments, tho. For some children it works (again, I think it totally depends on the child). I read the No-Cry Sleep Solution and started her on a bedtime schedule at 6 weeks. Bathe, rock, nurse, and in the crib between 6:30 and 7pm. By 8 weeks she was sleeping 8 hours (she would wake up to eat and then go back to sleep for another 2-3 hours). By 12 weeks she slept 12 hours (at this point I had learned to feed her around 11pm before I went to sleep - she would nurse for 10-15 minutes without waking up, and I'd put her back down).

When I went back to work when she was 14 weeks old, she was going to sleep at 6:30, nursing in her sleep around 11, waking up to nurse at 6:30am, and going right back to sleep until 8:30-9am. To say she was a sleeper was an understatement.

I had friends ask all the time "how do you make her sleep so long?" (um, can you make a baby sleep?? not really....) I totally think that part of her came pre-programmed. She still sleeps 11-12 hours a night, with a 2-3 hour nap during the day. It's just the way she is. But it was still up to me to figure out the little nuances that would let her body do what it wanted to do.

And by the way, I am fully prepared for this next baby to not sleep until the age of 4 1/2. No one gets that lucky with two kids.
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How does a 1 month old, or even a two month old play?

Footed jammies didn't work last night. I only wake up twice a night anyway, no biggie.
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another good night with footed jammies
Originally Posted by picklesgirl
Our little ones are pretty close in age, so maybe that has something to do with it.

And by the way, I am fully prepared for this next baby to not sleep until the age of 4 1/2. No one gets that lucky with two kids.
Originally Posted by curlyniner
OMG this is how I feel as well. There no way I can luck out twice is there?

The funny thing is AFTER Lucy started sleeping through the night, that's when I started to read books about getting babies to sleep to see if was anything I did or was it just luck. I think it was a little of both.
If you got nothing to bring to the table - don't even bother sitting down.
another good night with footed jammies
Originally Posted by picklesgirl
Our little ones are pretty close in age, so maybe that has something to do with it.
Originally Posted by WebjockeyGuide
could be it was so funny my husband got home at 6:30 this morning and looked in the bed and said where is he I said he's still in his bed and if you wake him up i'm filing for divorce today







How does a 1 month old, or even a two month old play?
Originally Posted by medussa
"Play" is a relative term. I really meant any awake activity, e.g. diaper changes, getting dressed/undressed, bath, looking at toys/mirrors/other objects, etc. etc. You are right; they don't really play at that age.

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