New to this whole thing :} Please help with some input

Okay.... So I may come off sounding TOTALLY ignorant or something to a few, but hopefully you'll just understand that I am a first time mother with A MILLION AND ONE worries of when labor is beginning....

I just signed up to this site because I was reading a few posts and had seen how helpful some of you fellow mothers are, and right now... I AM IN DESPERATE NEED OF THAT and many other womens inputs...

So here's my situation:

My doctor is a complete jack ass. For every question I have, he's given me some sideways response. Thankfully, he decided to take a vacation and he's not going to be delivering my son (who is due on the 30th of December)... Unfortunately on that note, he didn't leave me with much understanding to what is going on.

Last week, I had a flow, not so much a GUSH just a trickle feeling of liquid leakage... which I had come to realize was not my water breaking, so I took it easy. Now about 3 days ago after getting out of the shower, it happened again, now this time... more liquid than last time. One of the doctors on the phone told me it may be the bloody show... and maybe I'm misunderstanding and taking the name too seriously... but there was no blood in this liquid. It was more of a milky clear substance. I went in to the doctors and they told me that my cervix was softening and that you were able to slightly fit one finger in... which I've researched on the internet and came to realize that they were, to my understanding, letting me know that I'm beginning to dilate (again... I COULD BE WRONG)...

TODAY however, I am having the WORST cramps in my lower stomach... I am also feeling pains that almost feel as though they are coming from my vaginal area (sorry I know TMI).. If I were to describe the pain I am feeling it's similar to that of a needle being pushed in... it's a sharp and painful feeling... I do not know what those are... are these the Braxton hicks getting worst or is this the beginning of labor? Is there something I'm doing wrong to induce these pains or is this just part for the course?

Again I know I may sound a bit ignorant on this whole situation, but I'm just so worried and I guess the anxiety of wanting to be done and over with this pregnancy... is getting the best of me. My main fear is that I don't know when I'm in labor or I won't recognize when my water breaks... I'm just hoping someone can make this a bit easier for me to understand, since my retarded doctor didn't [/COLOR]
Stephanie

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Last edited by DJsMomma; 12-15-2007 at 10:46 PM. Reason: change color
I really have no idea, but I hope everything is going okay. And that your doc starts being more helpful!

When I was in labor, I felt my contractions in my lower stomach and in my vagina. However, that doesn't mean that you're in labor.

I'd call the doctor back.

Good luck with everything!
3c/4a
Well thank you PO... I appreciate it I know the longer he stays in the better, but I can't emphasize enough how worried I am, that I won't know when labor comes on...
Stephanie

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OK, I hate to pick on you right off the bat, but the pink and purple small font made your post really hard to read. If you could stick with regular font, it'd be really appreciated.

Now, if you're not satisfied with your doctor (which I cannot blame you one bit), is there any way you can switch to a different practice? I think it's really important to have a respectful doctor who's willing to communicate with you. It also worries me that they told you they "were able to stick a finger" in your cervix. Yes, that means you're dialating, but I would think the medical "professionals" would have told you that in the correct terminology. And it worries me that you were told you're having bloody show without blood. No, you're not taking it too literally, I'm pretty sure it needs to be at least tinged with blood to be considered bloody show.

Your water breaking won't necessarily be a gush, it can be a very slow leak. The doctor;s office or hospital should be able to check if your water broke by using a strip that changes color when it comes in contact with the amniotic fluid. It worries me if they didn't check this since it's a very simple and inexpnsive test.

If changing doctors is not an option at all, I would call them again and demand more answers. You shouldn't need to worry this much when you're about to have a baby. Good luck!
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I think you should call your doctor (or whoever is on call with your practice) and just tell them everything you've told us. Let them know you're just not sure what's going on and just keep asking questions till you feel like you have the answers you need. It's their job. And yes, it's their job even late at night.

Good luck!
What makes you think that wasn't your water breaking? Were you earlier than 37 weeks when it happened? But yes, I think mucous plugs can take on a variety of textures when they're being expelled and there doesn't have to be any blood at all.

Yeah, tell your ob office you're having a possible emergency and want to be seen.
3b (with 3c tendencies) on modified CG

OK, I hate to pick on you right off the bat, but the pink and purple small font made your post really hard to read. If you could stick with regular font, it'd be really appreciated.
Originally Posted by Bailey422
K I changed it Lol. My settings on my computer were not normal... it had everything blown up to 150% under my husbands log in so the font looked WAY to big when I was writing it... lol... Logging back in now... I realized just how darn teenie it was! My apologies again haha.

Well as far as switching doctors, I didn't know I had that option being that my sons scheduled due date is within the next 2 weeks. I'm already at the end. But I totally agree with you. I have had nothing but bad luck with ob's since the beginning of my pregnancy. My first initial doctor I had signed up with, was HORRIBLE! They would call me the day of and cancel my appointments. If I was so much as 3 minutes late they'd want to reschedule my appointment all together... as though they can't wait for one darned red light to turn green down the street after I've already rushed to get to the appointment as it is... you know?...

Your information was extremely helpful...
Stephanie

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I think you should call your doctor (or whoever is on call with your practice) and just tell them everything you've told us. Let them know you're just not sure what's going on and just keep asking questions till you feel like you have the answers you need. It's their job. And yes, it's their job even late at night.

Good luck!
Originally Posted by CGNYC
I called Labor & Delivery right now and the nurse that answered the phone said that she cannot tell me anything over the phone without an evaluation being performed. I told her about the leakage that I experienced, the cramps and the pinching pains that I'm having. She asked if the baby was moving and I told her yes, there were no problems with the fetal movement at all... (this baby is extremely active). I've already had 2 false alarms within the last month, and I wanted her to know that this was a possible one as well, but there's just so many more pains in it. She said to relax and if nothing changes, to come and check in with her so she can evaluate me because I'm already at the weeks where I could possibly go into labor as it is...

I am going to go and rest up for a bit and see if anything calms down... Thank you SO MUCH for your guys input... it really does mean a lot to me!! Even though I don't know you (here goes the prego hormones LOL)... I felt so alone and confused right now.... especially with these darn doctors not telling me anything worth a lick...

Good night you guys.

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What makes you think that wasn't your water breaking? Were you earlier than 37 weeks when it happened? But yes, I think mucous plugs can take on a variety of textures when they're being expelled and there doesn't have to be any blood at all.

Yeah, tell your ob office you're having a possible emergency and want to be seen.
Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000

Well the doctor had told me if I had a hint of my water breaking, to lay down for about 30 minutes, and then get up slowly... if another gush occurs... or trickle for that matter, then my water bag has definitely ruptured. I laid down for 30 minutes and got up slowly and walked around my living room and nothing happened... No leaks, no drips nothing... So I went by his words and figured that there was no rupture occuring... was I wrong to do this?...
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If the baby is moving fine, and there doesn't continue to be a lot of discharge, then you should just go on with your regular life. The vagina and cervix are very active at the end of pregnancy, making a lot of mucus. This is the self-cleaning mechanism that the vagina usually does, just stepped up. Losing the mucus plug (or bloody show) isn't all that relevant either. It just means there is something going on with the cervix, which we would expect considering you're full-term. If labor doesn't occur, the cervix will make a new mucus plug. The needle-like pains are also probably just from activity of the cervix.

Try to relax. You will know when you're in labor. It will be very difficult to ignore.
If the baby is moving fine, and there doesn't continue to be a lot of discharge, then you should just go on with your regular life. The vagina and cervix are very active at the end of pregnancy, making a lot of mucus. This is the self-cleaning mechanism that the vagina usually does, just stepped up. Losing the mucus plug (or bloody show) isn't all that relevant either. It just means there is something going on with the cervix, which we would expect considering you're full-term. If labor doesn't occur, the cervix will make a new mucus plug. The needle-like pains are also probably just from activity of the cervix.
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
Oh boy! I was hoping you'd respond lol. From what I read you provide a lot of accurate information, and now that you have it has totally brought a relief.

I ended up going into the hospital because they wanted me to get evaluated, and they kept me there for a few hours, but sent me home, because it was the abundant amount of discharge that was beginning to flow... and that it was normal, because my body was producing so much, that it was capable of "trickling" in the manner that I described to them.

I have been taking it easy with my husband the entire day. This was our 3rd false alarm. The doctor said that the contractions that I'm feeling are perfectly normal, too considering how far along I am and my due date is only 2 weeks away.

I'll just have to do the only thing I can do... slow down, relax, and be patient. He'll come when he's ready...
Maybe I'll have the best Christmas present available to a first time mommy lol.

Thanks again Red... I appreciate it very much.
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I hate to rain on the ideas others have said, but I wouldn't rely on your baby moving normally as everything is ok. Again please don't take this wrong, but my daughter was fine according to my doctor and she was born not breathing and had a bowel movement and she wound up in the NICU for almost a week. Seriously take the matter into your own hands!! If you feel like something is wrong screw what anyone says!! I learned that the hard way with all three of my pregnancies... it seems to me that there are a lot of SH*TY obgyn's out there. I hope everything works out 110% better for you.
I hate to rain on the ideas others have said, but I wouldn't rely on your baby moving normally as everything is ok. Again please don't take this wrong, but my daughter was fine according to my doctor and she was born not breathing and had a bowel movement and she wound up in the NICU for almost a week. Seriously take the matter into your own hands!! If you feel like something is wrong screw what anyone says!! I learned that the hard way with all three of my pregnancies... it seems to me that there are a lot of SH*TY obgyn's out there. I hope everything works out 110% better for you.
Originally Posted by curlygirlyme
I'm sorry to hear of your incident. Is your daughter okay now?

You know, this being my first pregnancy and all I'm sooooooooooo scared and oblivious to everything. And what sucks is the first time I had a false alarm, I was ever so "lucky enough" to get a horrible L&D nurse that told me "See it's people like you that need to take classes" I was like omg did you really just tell me that while I'm laying here in tears in pain?!!! I'm so sorry lady! Lol... Then my luck when I last went the other night, same nurse!! OH TO WHO DO I OWE THE THANK YOU TO? lol.

I totally agree with you. I always try to take in the advice of others and their experiences... but I feel that in the back of my mind, when my gutt instinct tells me that "relaxing" or "laying on my left side" will NOT help the problem... I'll take the risks of a sh*t talking doctor/nurse and go in... for the safety of my son.
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I hate to rain on the ideas others have said, but I wouldn't rely on your baby moving normally as everything is ok. Again please don't take this wrong, but my daughter was fine according to my doctor and she was born not breathing and had a bowel movement and she wound up in the NICU for almost a week. Seriously take the matter into your own hands!! If you feel like something is wrong screw what anyone says!! I learned that the hard way with all three of my pregnancies... it seems to me that there are a lot of SH*TY obgyn's out there. I hope everything works out 110% better for you.
Originally Posted by curlygirlyme

The thing is...showing up to the L&D unit constantly and having labor hurried along with labor inducing drugs (which is what they're likely to do when a woman keeps coming in with false labor...they call them "frequent flyers" and they often just induce them to get them out of their hair), is actually MORE likely to cause things like meconium aspiration (baby's first bowel movement inhaled in utero) and respiratory problems.

Allowing nature time to take it's course, is overwhelmingly safer for both mom and baby.
The thing is...showing up to the L&D unit constantly and having labor hurried along with labor inducing drugs (which is what they're likely to do when a woman keeps coming in with false labor...they call them "frequent flyers" and they often just induce them to get them out of their hair), is actually MORE likely to cause things like meconium aspiration (baby's first bowel movement inhaled in utero) and respiratory problems.

Allowing nature time to take it's course, is overwhelmingly safer for both mom and baby.
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves

Oh I didn't know that they would induce you just to shut you up and stop coming in... that's not right!... that actually bothers me to know that... because you would think they'd do what's in the best interest of your baby... wow... that's bothersome

I went into the doctors for my appointment today, and he told me the same thing about "a finger being able to fit into my cervix" so I found a site online that says that means that I'm 2.0 cm dilated... is that necessarily true or is that just a websites opinion verses that of the sh&*ty dr. I have lol
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