Picking a name

How did you decide on your baby's name? I'm having a bit of trouble.

One issue has to do with names I like, but I know people who either have that name or have named their kids that. And especially if it's people I or DH interact with, I would feel awkward if our kids had the same or similar names.

Second issue has to do with a name DH likes, and I actually like too, but the short form of the name (the one we would use most often) is the same as my boss' dog's name. And I know the dog. He brings the dog into the office, it comes into my office and puts its head on my lap. He does agility shows with the dog, and office conversations on Mondays frequently include "So how did you and Xxx do at the dog show this weekend?" I can't call my child the same name as a dog I know! Every time I called my child, I'd be seeing a standard poodle in my mind.

I'm having a hard enough time finding names I like at all, so this is really starting to get annoying. Any suggestions?
3b/c normally, 3a/b in the winter

Ya, that does get complicated, but I wouldn't name my kid a name that has either of those connections.

With both kids I happened to decide on a name when I was almost 9 months pregnant. After my long list of names we were going back and forth with, I decided on Bailey as I was watching WKRP in Cincinnatti while I was home from work (she's the secretary).

And Bella was decided on totally last minute. We again had been going back and forth with names, and I gave Bailey a couple to choose from - Bella was a last minute choice I just threw in there, and she picked that one!

The dog thing will get annoying. I have people tell me all the time that they had a dog named Bailey - I'm like, hmmm, thanks.
~ the artist formerly known as babywavy ~

Please excuse any typos. For the time being, we are blaming it on my computer.
With my older daughter it was easy. I liked the name Lucy for as long as I can remember, so I knew that would be it. I really don't like the nanme Lucille though so I went the Italian version Lucia as her full name.

With my second I had a similar issue as you in that one of best friends has a PIG named Sophia. It was one of the few names DH and I agreed upon, but I thought it was a weird to name my daughter after a pig. In the end we decided to just go with it anyway because it's not like we see the pig every day, or anything.

I say if you really like the name, don't worry about the dog with that name. It's pretty far removed from you, and in the long run, you'll forget all about the dog.
If you got nothing to bring to the table - don't even bother sitting down.
We'd been discussing names for years and I had always planned to name my first son Isaiah. Then my best friend ruined that for me by insisting that she wanted to name her first son that (she has no kids yet, so I could have ignored her, but I didn't.) I was all sad that I had no boys' names (we didn't find out the gender, so we planned for both, but I just KNEW he was a boy) and then a name just literally came to both of us, and we used it, with Isaiah as a middle name. And this name is a lot less common but also Biblical, which I like. He also has my granddaddy's name for a middle name.

I already know my first girl will have a variation on my grandmama's name (which is one of mine.) Not sure about the next boy or girl. Generally, where I would look for names would be the Bible, family names, or African/ethnic names. I think whatever scriptures you follow, whatever ethnicity you are, and your own family are great places to start. But I believe in the right name coming to you rather than having to do a lot of searching. I also suggest you not run names by a lot of family and friends because you will get inundated by opinions, you'll get the names you love being criticized, or people will claim that that is "their" name.
Get used to me. Black, confident, cocky; my name, not yours; my religion, not yours; my goals, my own; get used to me. -Muhammad Ali











I can't call my child the same name as a dog I know! Every time I called my child, I'd be seeing a standard poodle in my mind.
Originally Posted by jce
I very much doubt that. Once you give the name to your child, you won't think of the dog anymore. I think you should give your child a name you like. The dog is not even your dog, and dogs don't even live that long. On the flip side, your child will have this name his/her whole life. By the time your child is old enough to make any kind of connection, the dog will likely be gone. My sister has a very similar name to my grandparents' dog. She never even met this dog, and it's long dead now. Unless the dog is in your own house, I wouldn't worry about it.
*Poster formerly known as Bailey422*

Here's all you have to know about men and women: women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid. ~ George Carlin
The deal was that if it was a boy I chose a name & final say and he had limited veto rights.

If it was a girl he chose the name & final say and I had limited veto rights.
hello.world.
I also suggest you not run names by a lot of family and friends because you will get inundated by opinions, you'll get the names you love being criticized, or people will claim that that is "their" name.
Originally Posted by Amneris
ITA. We're keeping the names a secret until the baby's born. (We have a girl name picked out, but still working on a boy name.) Even our parents haven't protested too much. I have told people a few of the names we liked but discarded because they are so popular right now.

I agree about not worrying about the dog. I wouldn't even worry too much about knowing other people with the same name (exceptions would be an ex, or someone you or your husband really didn't like). Unless you pick a really, really offbeat name, chances are even if you don't know anyone with that name right now, you or the child will later.
Life with Lydia

My hubby and I had the WORST time trying to pick out a girl's name. We finally resorted to reading through lists of names on babynames.com until we found one we agreed on. I like really girly names like Olivia and Sophia, and he liked Margaret and Linda. We finally settled on Danae because it was very distinctive.

Of course, Lord help us if we have another daughter someday...LOL!
"Maybe Lucy's right. Of all the Charlie Browns in the world, you're the Charlie Browniest."--Linus, A Charlie Brown Christmas
-----------------------------------------------
My fotki: http://public.fotki.com/nynaeve77/
Password: orphanannie
Both my kids have names I found interesting when I was a child. They stuck with me all this time.

That's not to say we didn't consider lots of other names. We did! And we didn't decide on either of the names until the kids were 2 days old and we were being pressured by the hospital photographer! LOL

Choosing a boy's name was much harder for me because most of the names I liked were the names of my various exes. And I felt a little ehhhh about that. But whatever. And I understand the dog thing because I would have named my son the same name as my dead dog...but DH wasn't going for it!

Traditionally, Catholics were supposed to choose a Biblical name, the name of a saint or the name of a family member. But the church has moved away from that so we have more options. Too many options, it seemed at times!

But I wanted to steer clear of the uber trendy names. I didn't want them to be one of five in their classes with the same name. And I found the more you talk to other local expectant parents about names, all you hear are the same uber trendy name suggestions. It's probably best to talk with an old person, a person from another culture or a person whose personality is totally different from yours if you want less common/popular name suggestions. On top of that, I didn't want their names to sound stuck up or silly. So, lot's to consider. LOL
3b (with 3c tendencies) on modified CG


Last edited by spiderlashes5000; 01-21-2008 at 11:25 AM.
Both my kids have names I found interesting when I was a child. They stuck with me all this time.

That's not to say we didn't consider lots of other names. We did! And we didn't decide on either of the names until the kids were 2 days old and we were being pressured by the hospital photographer! LOL

Choosing a boy's name was much harder for me because most of the names I liked were the names of my various exes. And I felt a little ehhhh about that. But whatever. And I understand the dog thing because I would have named my son the same name as my dead dog...but DH wasn't going for it!

Traditionally, Catholics were supposed to choose a Biblical name, the name of a saint or the name of a family member. But the church has moved away from that so we have more options. Too many options, it seemed at times!

But I wanted to steer clear of the uber trendy names. I didn't want them to be one of five in their classes with the same name. And I found the more you talk to other local expectant parents about names, all you hear are the same uber trendy name suggestions. It's probably best to talk with an old person, a person from another culture or a person whose personality is totally different from yours if you want less common/popular name suggestions. On top of that, I didn't want their names to sound stuck up or silly. So, lot's to consider. LOL
Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000
Yep! It's a tradition in my family that those are all used for middle names, if not first names. All of us have a saint name, and my son has one as a middle name (which is also my granddaddy's name.) In fact, another boy name I like is a saint name.
Get used to me. Black, confident, cocky; my name, not yours; my religion, not yours; my goals, my own; get used to me. -Muhammad Ali











My ex husband and I did not find out Maxwell's gender in advance, but we had both a boy's name and a girl's name picked out, they just kind of came to us and they fit. My ex husband is Indian, so we chose an Indian middle name for Max.

For Maya, my ex wanted to use the girl's name we had picked out for Max, but I wasn't sure. Max actually suggested Maya, and all 3 of us liked it. I used the original girl's name for Max as Maya's middle name.

This time, we are having a terrible time. We each had a couple of girls' names in mind, but this baby is a boy. I have a son and SO has 2 sons, and out friends and family members have lots of boys. It's been a real challenge to find a name that we like that isn't taken. Nothing's really speaking to me, I feel like I';m going to end up choosing a name that I think is nice, but I won't be able to find *the* name.

Oh, about the dog thing- I am sooo sick of hearing "I have a dog named Max". Ummm- that's nice, it's a people name too. I might be a little sensitive to it, when I named Max, my mom kept insisting it was a dog's name.
with max we decided before we were pregnant that we liked that name and just stuck with it. I also deal with people constantly telling me "i've always loved the name Max I actually have a dog named that"

And with Quentin that was a very last minute thing we were going to name him Cole and we wrestled with the name Dayne to but with two weeks left my husband decided to tell me that he no longer liked the name Cole (I think because I nixed Dayne) and so then we had to start all over looking for a name then we heard the name Quentin and decided we liked it and it's not a name you hear much well then two weeks after our Quentin was born another couple in our church named their son Quinten I have no idea how long they had been planning on that name but we kind of laugh about it now.. I think the real reason my husband wanted the name Quentin is because he loves Johny Cash and he did that album Live From San Quentin hence the spelling of our Quentin's name I didn't catch on to that however unitl after we had already named him that.. I guess it's better than Bruce after Bruce Springsteen which was brought up because he's an even bigger Bruce Fan than he his a Johny Cash fan







Oh, about the dog thing- I am sooo sick of hearing "I have a dog named Max". Ummm- that's nice, it's a people name too. I might be a little sensitive to it, when I named Max, my mom kept insisting it was a dog's name.
Originally Posted by cosmicfly

Um, then you probably won't want to hear that I had a dog named Maya...

I never had a problem naming my kids. There were always a lot of names I really liked. I didn't feel any pressure to use family or biblical names though...I just named my kids with names I liked and that I thought would grow-up well, and also that couldn't be shortened easily, because I don't really like nicknames. I even have several leftover names that I'm a teeny bit sad that I'll never get to use.
RCW,
Maybe you have some other dog names I'd like then . Maxwell's name was going to be Sophia, and my mother kept telling me that was a dog's name.

I have a couple leftover girls' names that I'm kind of sad about not using and SO has a girl's name that he's always wanted to use but has never had the chance. I find boy's names to be difficult and unfortunately so does he. I like plenty of them well enough, but I can't seem to find the right name for this little guy. I guess I have a little while, though.
Banned
Join Date: Jun 2001
Posts: 41,043
We had one name in mind that was fairly easily to come to an agreement on...
Sure nuf...we had the opposite sex like I expected...
But it was all good in the end...
So, I say, do what it is in your heart, it will be right...
Both my kids were nameless at birth. With DD, she was nameless for almost a week. I feel like I need to have an actual baby in front me in order to be certain of the name. It has to fit the person.


Both my kids were nameless at birth. With DD, she was nameless for almost a week. I feel like I need to have an actual baby in front me in order to be certain of the name. It has to fit the person.
Originally Posted by mad scientist
ITA - None of the boy names I thought I would like for a boy suited DS. DS's name was one my mom suggested (because we were stuck) and it just suited him.
Long, blonde, 3a/mostly b hair.

I was at the dentist today and was able to check out the kiddie name/picture board. Here are some less common ones: Jovi (girl), Raelin (boy), Nandi (girl) and Jafari (boy)...in case anyone is looking!
3b (with 3c tendencies) on modified CG

I pulled out my list of Saints and ran through them for names that we felt a connection to. Xander's name has the added bonus of being my mom's maiden name. His middle name is his dad's middle name and his granddad's name. If he hadn't grown a penis, his first girl name was Skylar with my middle name (also great-grandma's). I have no idea what we were thinking at the time. We finally settled on Isabel the day before we found out about the penis. It is the most popular name here so I am glad we didn't use it. We are kind of empty on girl names for now.

Edit: I also wanted names that had a Spanish counterpart. He is Alejandro to his dad's family.


"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." -- Theodor Seuss Geisel

Trending Topics


Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On



All times are GMT -6. The time now is 04:35 PM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2014, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Copyright 2011 NaturallyCurly.com