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Amneris - Don't feel like you can't bring your DS to the symphony. I took DS to a performance out in Victoria, BC when he was almost 7 months old. He barely made any noise and, in fact, fell asleep during Beethoven's 9th Symphony. I was ready to zip out of there in case he made any kind of fuss.
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Amneris - Don't feel like you can't bring your DS to the symphony. I took DS to a performance out in Victoria, BC when he was almost 7 months old. He barely made any noise and, in fact, fell asleep during Beethoven's 9th Symphony. I was ready to zip out of there in case he made any kind of fuss.
Originally Posted by curly_keltie
I brought my first one to movies all the time. And I think I'm going to bring the second one to his first movie this weekend. Not the symphony, I know, but...
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Amneris - Don't feel like you can't bring your DS to the symphony. I took DS to a performance out in Victoria, BC when he was almost 7 months old. He barely made any noise and, in fact, fell asleep during Beethoven's 9th Symphony. I was ready to zip out of there in case he made any kind of fuss.
Originally Posted by curly_keltie
Ours has a rule - no kids under 5 except for kids' programs. Otherwise I would!
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Lots of Hugs!!! My son was a high needs baby. He still is somewhat. Hang in there. It does get easier.

I found the swing was a huge help with my little one. About the only thing he would go to sleep in other than my arms.
The sounds aren't too loud for their little ears?
Originally Posted by medussa
Mine likes it! He has been at opera rehearsals with me (in utero and after the birth) with full orchestra, and he's been to community events with DJs pumping the sound and live drummers, and he laughs and smiles and dances.
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The sounds aren't too loud for their little ears?
Originally Posted by medussa
Mine likes it! He has been at opera rehearsals with me (in utero and after the birth) with full orchestra, and he's been to community events with DJs pumping the sound and live drummers, and he laughs and smiles and dances.
Originally Posted by Amneris
Mine slept through most of the movies. We're a VERY loud family so they're used to it.
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The sounds aren't too loud for their little ears?
Originally Posted by medussa
Mine likes it! He has been at opera rehearsals with me (in utero and after the birth) with full orchestra, and he's been to community events with DJs pumping the sound and live drummers, and he laughs and smiles and dances.
Originally Posted by Amneris
Mine slept through most of the movies. We're a VERY loud family so they're used to it.
Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000
Exactly! Having 20 Caribbean people laughing and screaming in your ears makes an orchestra sound like a lullaby!
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Mine likes it! He has been at opera rehearsals with me (in utero and after the birth) with full orchestra, and he's been to community events with DJs pumping the sound and live drummers, and he laughs and smiles and dances.
Originally Posted by Amneris
Mine slept through most of the movies. We're a VERY loud family so they're used to it.
Originally Posted by spiderlashes5000
Exactly! Having 20 Caribbean people laughing and screaming in your ears makes an orchestra sound like a lullaby!
Originally Posted by Amneris
((Hugs))

DS was born screaming and didn't stop until he was about 3 months old. Then he morphed into one of the happiest calmest babies ever (that phase ended eventually, mind you)! So there is hope.

Feel free to complain. Feel free to pass baby off to DH or who ever else can help, and walk out of the room. Crying baby will still be there when you get back.


my baby sounds similar to yours. shes 7 months old and can be an evil tyrant who rules with an iron fist. and apparently we're becoming better peons. instead of an all out cry, all she has to do is grunt and we do her bidding.


oh and as far as the concerts/orchestras go, we took the boss baby with us to a piano recital a few days ago and she enjoyed it. we sat in the very last row so that we could easily slip out if need be. surprisingly she made it through the entire two hours. it wasnt too loud either, but everytime there was applause it startled her a bit.
but for some reason, we get this idea, planted by some lucky (or delusional) mothers and experts that there are babies who sleep through the night from birth, nurse every 4 hours, are quite happy to lie by themselves in a play pen all day, etc. etc. etc. I heard so many of those stories and when I called the mothers on it, most of them admitted that they put their kids in another room where they couldn't hear them screaming. Not for me - no way!

Those kind of babies do exist...I didn't have any of them though. My babies all slept and ate really well, but I worked hard on that schedule...it didn't just happen automatically. And I did it without ever letting them CIO.
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
My kid seriously is the most calm, chill baby I've ever seen. It's definitely not a myth. She will sit by herself, she slept 5 hours through the night from birth and 8-10 hours at around 2 or 2.5 months, and she eats every 4-5 hours. Not to mention she smiles, laughs, talks, and is hardly fussy. My mom has 3 kids and said only I was like that as well. I turned out being the most emotionally difficult child later in life.

my baby sounds similar to yours. shes 7 months old and can be an evil tyrant who rules with an iron fist. and apparently we're becoming better peons. instead of an all out cry, all she has to do is grunt and we do her bidding.
Originally Posted by subbrock
This gave me the biggest chuckle!!!

Luke and I went out today to visit my worksite and show him off. He was mostly an angel and just happy and looking around. Cried only when he got hungry and overtired. I think he's just a social butterfly and needs an ever changing environment.
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Yes, that's me too - JJ is a perfect angel all day and any time we go out, but he is ALWAYS on my body or in my arms and a lot of people give me the "you're spoiling him" routine. He does sleep well at night in between waking a lot - he doesn't really cry, but he does feed a lot at night, which is tiring - usually every couple of hours. I would not mind every 3-4. But he is a good, non-crying baby - but I still say he is high needs in that he needs to eat a lot and to be with me all the time. He cried a lot more when we first came home from the hospital because it must have been scary for him, and I put him to sleep in a bassinet beside my bed. Within a week, we were co-sleeping and the night crying stopped.
Originally Posted by Amneris
That describes Harry too. Not a crier, but feeds a LOT, doesn't sleep much, likes to be with me. I don't feel like I had an idealized view of what he would be like, but he is much more high "energy" (I like that more than high "needs") than a lot of babies I have known. I wouldn't trade him though! He's fun!
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That describes Harry too. Not a crier, but feeds a LOT, doesn't sleep much, likes to be with me. I don't feel like I had an idealized view of what he would be like, but he is much more high "energy" (I like that more than high "needs") than a lot of babies I have known. I wouldn't trade him though! He's fun!
Originally Posted by fuzzbucket
He's an active guy, always on the go. I'm actually not surprised he's crawling. Go get your running shoes!
just a psa - a high needs baby is not just "every baby". It's a true phenomenon and when you have one, you KNOW it. There's no doubt and usually they also become wonderfully spirited children.

Here's Dr. Sear's take on what a high needs baby is like.

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/5/T050400.asp

Like I said earlier I realized that my first was definitely high needs after I had my second. My second was a "normal" baby. He had the typical baby needs and yes he preferred my arms but my first had a voracious NEED for me. It was intense and yes he's an intense and spirited child now too.
just a psa - a high needs baby is not just "every baby". It's a true phenomenon and when you have one, you KNOW it. There's no doubt and usually they also become wonderfully spirited children.

Here's Dr. Sear's take on what a high needs baby is like.

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/5/T050400.asp

Like I said earlier I realized that my first was definitely high needs after I had my second. My second was a "normal" baby. He had the typical baby needs and yes he preferred my arms but my first had a voracious NEED for me. It was intense and yes he's an intense and spirited child now too.
Originally Posted by marielle448
It's all JJ except #7 and #8!

Fuzzbucket, Harry is crawling? JJ isn't yet but looks like he will be soon.
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just a psa - a high needs baby is not just "every baby". It's a true phenomenon and when you have one, you KNOW it. There's no doubt and usually they also become wonderfully spirited children.

Here's Dr. Sear's take on what a high needs baby is like.

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/5/T050400.asp

Like I said earlier I realized that my first was definitely high needs after I had my second. My second was a "normal" baby. He had the typical baby needs and yes he preferred my arms but my first had a voracious NEED for me. It was intense and yes he's an intense and spirited child now too.
Originally Posted by marielle448
It's all JJ except #7 and #8!

Fuzzbucket, Harry is crawling? JJ isn't yet but looks like he will be soon.
Originally Posted by Amneris
It's Harry to a tee except he doesn't cry much, he just stays awake. That's why I'm starting to use the term "high energy."

Yep, he is crawling. And it seems like someone switched babies with me during the night. He only nursed once! And just now, I nursed him as I was getting up and popped him off because I thought he was playing. I put him down on the bed and then saw that he was sound asleep. He never stays asleep unless I move very gingerly. I was able to pull away from him and get up without him stirring. He's still out cold. Who is this kid?

So, CGG there may be hope in your future!
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just a psa - a high needs baby is not just "every baby". It's a true phenomenon and when you have one, you KNOW it. There's no doubt and usually they also become wonderfully spirited children.

Here's Dr. Sear's take on what a high needs baby is like.

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/5/T050400.asp
Originally Posted by marielle448

oh wow, thats completely my child. and now that shes mobile, shes even more "draining."
subbrock - rest easy the good thing is that high needs children just need having those needs met. If they grow into spirited children they do well with strong and unwaivering limits (despite those onlookers that cluck their tongues at you in disapproval).

It's hard to make the transition from meeting the child's needs having strong limits as they become toddlers/children but it's important. A really great book is Raising Your Spirited Child by Mary Sheedy Kurchinka.

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