i'm getting so excited!

i haven't posted too much here, mostly just read and benefit from the wealth of wisdom and experience (thank you all, by the way) ...

but as the date approaches, i am getting more and more excited. i just went and did my registry for my shower today, and that was fun. i haven't really went out and bought too much - for two reasons, one, i know two showers are being thrown, and the other, i'm trying to keep it as minimalist as possible.

there have been so many decisions to make regarding sleeping, nursing, slinging, strollering, diapering, etc. it was a good feeling to register have a good idea of what i really want and need. this board has been so helpful in that department, as i research stuff.

even though things are still up in the air about how much how soon i go back to work, i am feeling better about that since i have at least 5 months to think about it. even knowing that i will have that time makes it easier ...

i'm planning a home birth with two midwives who have years and years of experience, and i we finished our childbirth classes (just have a breastfeeding and bonding class to attend still) and i just feel really positive and excited even about the upcoming birthing experience.

this baby was unexpected but not unwelcome, and i've had moments of great anxiety and trepidation, but i can say for sure now that most if not all of that has given way to excitement.

i've gotten through pregnancy, thank heavens, in pretty good health (except for a few bad colds/flu because i work in a pre-school). my energy is good, heartburn is my only woe at the moment ... that and my hips are starting to bug me a bit at night - but that is remedied with a lot of pillows and regular yoga ...

i dunno, i guess i just wanted to share my feelings and thoughts. anyone else coming up soon on their due date?

anyone want to share any wisdom or advice for a first time mom in those first days or weeks or months?

thanks for listening!

m

eta: our due date is april 8th!
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Your instincts will kick in, and you'll be fine. I guess my only advice is just because someone offers advice doesn't mean you have to follow it. You'll know what's best.

Now, we want belly pics!!!!
I'm due 2 weeks before you. Right now I have a cold, so I am just trying not to pee my pants every time I cough (and it feels like my belly is going to split open).

It is funny how unprepared we are. We were minimalist with the first baby, but are even less "prepared" now.

Really, your instincts will kick in. As far as strollering, diapering, etc babies need so little really. Just food, a place to sleep (which can be very simple), some clothes and lots of love. You can buy the rest of the gear later, as you need it.
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Geeky is my hero. She's the true badass. The badass who doesn't even need to be a badass. There aren't enough O's in cool to describe her.
hey congrats geeky! i didn't realize our due dates were so close.

as far as "stuff" - that's the conclusion i've come to. babies really need so little - something to swaddle them in, something to cover their li'l tuckus, a boob. hee hee. if we find we need more "stuff" later, we can just get it. i'm excited about the sling. i decided i want a hotsling to start out, and then i'll probably get a mei tai later.

i just put up some belly pics in a fokti account (linked on the my webpage thingamajig here). the first is i think around 3.5 or 4 months, and the other two i just took now.

people's eyes get really big when they comment on my belly and realize i have two months to go. heheh. but i am kinda short, and it's my 2nd pregnancy (i had a son when i was 18 who i placed for adoption, and most people don't know that).

i don't think it seems all that big, even so! but what do i know?

m
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You have a gorgeous belly. I have no advice to offer, but I'm with you on trying to minimize the amount of stuff! Be sure to share your birthstory with us when the time comes!
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Great belly!
To Trenell, MizKerri and geeky:
I pray none of you ever has to live in a communist state.

Geeky is my hero. She's the true badass. The badass who doesn't even need to be a badass. There aren't enough O's in cool to describe her.
Congrats! One piece of advice is take all the help you can get! With my first, I wanted to do everything myself, or thought I would be able. I was very wrong. I had no idea how tired I would be and how much those first few weeks are a bit overwhelming.

It was hard to "give up control," but one day my MIL and DH's grandma came over and sent me to bed while they did dishes and watched the baby. Those were the best few hours of sleep I'd had in weeks. And that was the beginning of letting competent people help. I mentioned 'competent', because there are some I know people I wouldn't trust with my dishes, let alone my baby, so that was a big reason I was able to rest.
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thanks for the belly compliments! i'm pretty enamored of it myself, for some reason. hee hee.

great advice, jce. that's what our childbirth teacher emphasized a lot, too. just take those first few weeks easy and not try to do too much. i plan on just spending time hanging out working on nursing and either getting help with stuff, or just learning to let go ...

i'm hoping one of my good friends will be able to come spend the first couple of weeks with us to help out. it was bad timing moving all the way across the country away from all my support girlfriends to have this bebe, but we'll make it work. i know my mom wants to come help, but honestly just talking to her on the phone gets my blood pressure rising most of the time these days (she lives 1.5 hours away) so i dunno if that's gonna be a good idea or just make me craaaay-zay. obviously looking for another option!

i think work folks will organize a casserole brigade for us, and we are systematically testing all of the frozen meals at trader joes, to see which ones we can stock up on, since s.o. does not love to cook.

(:

m
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TJ's frozen pizzas are quite good, actually.

Congrats on your pregnancy and best of luck with your birth! Very exciting!
congrats! Are you doing a water birth at home or going dry land?

I don't have much in the way of advice other than it's ok to feel whatever you're feeling whenever you're feeling it.
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thanks wild and webbie!

i'm going to have a tub there, so i will for sure probably labor in it, and hopefully birth in it, but i'm just planning to go with the flow. (:

m
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Awww, mayim, I am excited for you too just hearing your excitement! I like your approach to the birth and your minimalism. We were pretty minimalist and natural too, minus the home birth (which I really would like to try... please let us know how it goes!)
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You look wonderful, Mayim!

All the best as your due date approaches!
people's eyes get really big when they comment on my belly and realize i have two months to go. heheh. but i am kinda short, and it's my 2nd pregnancy (i had a son when i was 18 who i placed for adoption, and most people don't know that).

i don't think it seems all that big, even so! but what do i know?

m
Originally Posted by mayim
I sooo know what you mean. I'm due about 3 1/2 weeks after you, and I easily look about full-term at this point. And like you, I'm short and this is my second child. People are stunned when they hear just how much longer I still have! To me though, my belly does seem huge, positively enormous already. Oh wait, that's because it IS
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congrats!!!

it is so exciting!!!

my advice as a first time mom is always go with what you think is best. sometimes people will try to make you feel like you dont know whats best because its your first child, but try try try to ignore them. your baby = your rules!

im so excited for you!
Great belly! My only advice for the early weeks is to cut yourself some slack. The first two weeks, I would cry for no reason at all. When my mom left, I cried for a full day afterwards. Other times, I would think the smallest thing was hysterically funny and couldn't stop laughing. Let your emotions out, cry or laugh whenever you feel like it. I think that's how you stay relatively sane.

Also, if anyone offers to help, tell them you want food! That was honestly the most helpful thing anyone did for us. DH's parents brought us dinner the day we came home from the hospital and then my mom cooked while she was here. Once DH's parents dropped by just to give us a lasagna, and we ate that thing for 4 days. I was fine doing laundry and light house cleaning right away, but cooking was the last thing I wanted to do.

Also, as you get closer to the birth, get your house REALLY clean. We kept the house spotless up to the birth, and it was so nice coming home to a clean house. Of course it got messy fast, but not having to worry about it that first week kept me from going totally coockoo.
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you look fabulous mayim! Good luck to you and Geeky as your due dates approach.

I agree with the food, and just don't feel you have to answer nosy questions. Only share info on a need to know basis and you'll be good.
Congrats and good luck.

If your mother drives you crazy now.... Let's just say when Max was born, I cried until my mother left, and when she left, I was fine. Our styles are just very.... different. I was happier with no help. (Although I did have excellent friends who came by with food, which was the best).

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