Are all you moms as tired as I am?

cajuncurls · 06-16-2009, 10:43 AM

I don't know if it's just me or if everyone here with small children struggling to make it through every day?
I know I'm blowing my Supermom facade (lol), but I can't make it another day with two under two!
My SO is offshore, I work three days a week, I am responsible for cleaning, cooking, shopping, all general maintenance around the house, plus paying all of the bills. Even when Paul is home, he thinks putting Elli to bed is the extent of his responsibilities. He doesn't help and I'm done asking him.
With Ian being sick lately, he hasn't been sleeping at all (no joke - two hours a night max for the last week and a half), so basically I've been functioning on diet pills. I KNOW it's wrong but I don't have time for sleep. And between the two babies, there's no nap time for mom during the day. I have no babysitting help from my mom or Paul's mom, and I've burnt out anyone willing to watch them on Ian's frequent doctor visits.
I'm at the point now that I don't even want to try to sleep, because when I'm jolted awake after 15 minutes by a screaming child, I feel worse than before I closed my eyes.
I know Paul works hard, but I'm starting to resent having to do everything myself. I'm actually thinking about asking him to move out, not because I don't love him, but because I NEED ONE LESS PERSON TO TAKE CARE OF!
And forget sex. I got the Mirena 3 months ago and I think the reason the birth control is so effective is because you never stop bleeding long enough to have sex. Plus I have constant UTIs and yeast infections with this thing.
I'm frustrated and exhausted. I'm supposed to be able to handle all this, right? So tell me - are you as tired as I am? Or is it just my age catching up with me?

fuzzbucket · 06-16-2009, 11:17 AM

You've got a lot going on, sweetie. Huge hugs!

inheritedcurls · 06-16-2009, 03:11 PM

Huge hugs from me as well. That is a lot going on...hang in there...DH needs to wake up.

Will Ian sleep with you...maybe both of you in the same bed will help him sleep and you will get some much needed rest?

Is there anyway mom or Paul's mom can help??? I wasn't sure by your post if they don't volunteer, don't want too help...or there is another issue.

RedCatWaves · 06-16-2009, 03:24 PM

Diet pills and no sleep? Egads, do you want to damage your heart? Stop doing that.

It's summertime...maybe there's a tween or teen girl off from school looking to earn a little money whom you could hire to help you a few afternoons a week. I find young girls are great at entertaining toddlers even if they can't do all the babycare.

ruralcurls · 06-16-2009, 04:27 PM

Oh, I am so sorry, I truly feel for you. At this particular moment, I can only respond to your original question:

yes

Please, stop with the diet pills.

nynaeve77 · 06-16-2009, 05:55 PM

Oh dear. I'm sorry you're having such a rough time. I agree w/ RCW and ruralcurls about the diet pills. Definitely hire a babysitter if you need one and get some sleep! Your babies need you to take care of yourself, too.

curlygirlyme · 06-17-2009, 09:39 PM

I feel ya. Three under 4 is not an easy task. Music! I'm telling you it's keeping me sane. I've been listening to Muse lately. I listen whenever I get a minute. Coffee too... lots and lots and lots of coffee (ok and soda

). I know it's hard my first two were like yours. Believe me right around six months things started to improve. I agree about the pills and getting yourself a sitter... I'm thinking about getting one myself. Hang in there I feel your pain about lack of sleep. I was doing the same thing. I was worried if I laid down for a minute the baby would wake up and I would feel even worse then if I'd never laid down at all. You also need to tell DH to help you more.

cajuncurls · 06-18-2009, 12:14 PM

Sometimes it makes me feel better to just vent, then I'm good to go for a little longer!

Yeah, I'm cutting back on those diet pills, they were making me feel wired and a little nauseated. I actually got a little sleep last night, Ian went down at 11 and slept til 5:30. Thank you, God!
Paul came in yesterday, and this morning I let him give Ian his bottle (he's 5 1/2 months and I don't ever recall Paul feeding him before) while I got ready for work. Today is the first day in at least 6 weeks that I've come to work with makeup and halfway decent hair (no ponytail), in real clothes (they tolerate my tennis shoes and t-shirts but frown on them!).

LoloDSM · 06-18-2009, 12:32 PM

I'm glad you're feeling better. I know your SO isn't there full-time, but he should step up when he is home. Don't you have two teenagers too? I might have you confused with someone else though. Hopefully you can get some help and some sleep.

Please take care of yourself. It's too bad there aren't any curlies near-by to give you some respite care.

ruralcurls · 06-18-2009, 12:49 PM

It is always nice to vent, it usually makes me feel a little better, too.

My youngest is 17 months old and is currently getting molars in and screaming at night, keeping us all awake. The day I saw your thread, I could barely hold my head up, so it clearly struck a cord with me.

Anyway, now that I can hold my head up, I am glad you are feeling at least a little better. It's amazing how much better we feel with even a little sleep.

You are dealing with so much, a toddler and a sick baby, and daily life. I think anybody would be tired in your situation.

sarah42 · 06-18-2009, 12:51 PM

My little ones are about the same distance apart as yours, if I recall. It got better once the little one was sleeping through the night better, which was around 6-8 months. (I think my memory is fuzzy on that subject, which is telling, ha.) I'm sorry you're feeling so tired and worn. I understand completely. Feel free to vent or PM me or anything. Try to take care of yourself.