Potty Training Boys

I have no kids but this is something that's peeked my curiosity lately. How do you teach boys to pee standing up? I know that when potty training starts it's sitting down for peeing but when do you teach them that they can go standing up? Is it a difficult process or do they catch on rather quickly since they've already been learning how to go the other way?

Thank you to whoever answers. Don't know why I want to know this. lol. Guess it can be useful if I have kids.
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Boys get the concept of standing while peeing VERY fast after initial training while sitting. It was almost a non-issue for my 3 boys. They all moved on to standing within the first few months of being trained. All they need is to see other boys/men doing it, and they get it.
I wonder if my son will learn this, because my husband only stands to pee at urinals, never at the toilets in our house because he says he's too tall and makes a splashy mess. He kneels in front of the toilet. But my son is too small to do that so I'm not sure what he'll do -stay sitting for a while maybe?
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I agree with RCW...the transition is pretty fast. The aiming though is a whole other story (at least here it was).

Amneris is there another close male relative that could show your son? My uncle was the one that showed my son as there were no other men in our lives at the time. Showed him once and it was done.

On a side note I've always found urinals and the idea that men just pee next to eachother all the time very strange, not in a bad way, just why them and not us?
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I wonder if my son will learn this, because my husband only stands to pee at urinals, never at the toilets in our house because he says he's too tall and makes a splashy mess. He kneels in front of the toilet. But my son is too small to do that so I'm not sure what he'll do -stay sitting for a while maybe?
Originally Posted by Amneris

Um...I'm all for preventive housekeeping and everything, I've threatened to install a urinal in our house many times, and I'm kinda rude in making my husband sit down to pee when using my bathroom... but kneeling? That's odd. How tall is he?
my little boy trained at exactly 2 years. it took only a month. however, my son was short so, peeing standing up was not a good idea. i waited a couple more years for him to grow taller so that it would be possible for him to pee standing up. little boys are suppose to learn from their father when they are taught that. and the learning is reinforced at daycare or preschool because they see other little boys their age peeing standing up.
DH sits to pee so DS didn't learn it from him. Actually, we were in a skeevy public restroom once and I suggested he stand. After that, there was no going back.

I wish I had taught him to stand sooner since he was tall enough. I assumed that sitting would be cleaner but DS had a hard time remembering to "hold it down" when he was sitting. So I'd end up having to deal with a fountain of pee.


Xander actually started potty training standing, switched to sitting for a while, and then went back to standing. He had an older friend (a three year old) who stood so he was trying to be like him. We've had no problems with the aiming or anything. I fully expect baby boy number two to pee in the sink on a regular basis to make up for how civilized Xan is.


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Hell standing up / sitting down I just wish he'd do it!! I am getting so frustrated!!!

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Connor still sits down. He's only just gotten potty trained in the past month. My husband stands up, so I figure one of these days he'll start wanting to. Connor still uses a potty chair most of the time. Maybe when he starts using the regular toilet more, it'll be easy to switch him.
I wonder if my son will learn this, because my husband only stands to pee at urinals, never at the toilets in our house because he says he's too tall and makes a splashy mess. He kneels in front of the toilet. But my son is too small to do that so I'm not sure what he'll do -stay sitting for a while maybe?
Originally Posted by Amneris

Um...I'm all for preventive housekeeping and everything, I've threatened to install a urinal in our house many times, and I'm kinda rude in making my husband sit down to pee when using my bathroom... but kneeling? That's odd. How tall is he?
Originally Posted by RedCatWaves
He's 6'2", maybe 6'3", so not ridiculously tall, but tall enough. I thought it was weird the first time I saw it too, but it's how he's comfortable and he said he's been doing it since he was a teenager and no-one taught him.
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I wish I had taught him to stand sooner since he was tall enough. I assumed that sitting would be cleaner but DS had a hard time remembering to "hold it down" when he was sitting. So I'd end up having to deal with a fountain of pee.
Originally Posted by mad scientist

I so second this. Chas started peeing standing up after two weeks. He started it after being at the Grandparents. Grandpa didn't know he was sitting to pee so he had him stand up. We haven't gone back except when we have too poo and pee at the same time. But even standing up...that penis still has a way of going crazy sometimes. LOL

Now the issue with being able to reach comes in play when it is a handicap toilet. I have to hold him up while he pees.
When DS was first learning to pee on the potty, he would do it sitting down. But whenever he can, he does it standing up. I think he learned from his dad and from the other boys at daycare. If there isn't a stool for him to stand on though, he will pee sitting down.

The habit I have been trying to break is him peeing anywhere outside. When we were camping, the toilets were far away so I enouraged him to pee on a tree. However, on his first day back at daycare after camping, while they were in the enclosed courtyard, he just dropped trou right then and there! Heck, I caught him dropping his pants when we were having appys on a restaurant's patio! Thank goodness I caught him on time.
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River looooooooooooooves to pee outside! Someone suggested starting outside for potty training boys, so one day my husband peed outside & we told River to "do like daddy". He did & thought it was GREAT! Now, he makes a big deal out of peeing off our front porch... (Good thing we live in the country!)

On the potty, he sits though. And yes, sometimes he forgets to aim down & pee goes everywhere. Very, very seldom will he poop in the potty.
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River looooooooooooooves to pee outside! Someone suggested starting outside for potty training boys, so one day my husband peed outside & we told River to "do like daddy". He did & thought it was GREAT! Now, he makes a big deal out of peeing off our front porch... (Good thing we live in the country!)

On the potty, he sits though. And yes, sometimes he forgets to aim down & pee goes everywhere. Very, very seldom will he poop in the potty.
Originally Posted by shellibean
LOL!!! This is so why I did not teach my son this way. I even stopped Grandpa one day from letting him go potty outside when we were shopping for trailers. I took him and walked him inside to the bathroom. Once Chas does pee outside...he will think it's awesome and I will be in trouble.
Liam's preschool told me yesterday that they think he's scared of the little toilets.. they worked with him all afternoon yesterday because he woke up from the nap dry. the teacher took him several times and tried to get him to sit/stand and I guess all he did was whimper...

finally, they put him in the pull-up (which they have to.. no diapers allowed..) and within 5 minutes he went!

We worked with him at home and put him on the potty several times and when we woke up this AM (he was dry) we sat him again on the potty several times (he doesn't like to stand)

I put him in big boy undies (which a lot of you suggested) and got rid of the pull-ups.. we went to preschool this AM and when he was in the hallway of daycare he peed all over the floor!

My question.. maybe I am pushing too hard now... before I was not pushing enough.. everyone has said to me "he'll do it when he's ready.." but for gosh sakes he'll be 3 years old in 3 weeks!!!! and some people here have told how easy it is and how it shouldn't be so much of an issue... well it is for us!!!


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My question.. maybe I am pushing too hard now... before I was not pushing enough.. everyone has said to me "he'll do it when he's ready.." but for gosh sakes he'll be 3 years old in 3 weeks!!!! and some people here have told how easy it is and how it shouldn't be so much of an issue... well it is for us!!!


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Originally Posted by deedles
I don't think you are pushing too hard. As long as you don't punish him, shame him etc. it's OK. You can decide that there will be no more pull ups and he will sit on the potty from now on. You can stick with that decision. There will be accidents at first - the accidents are part of learning. And I don't think it is easy for every kid. it is for some but not others. You are going against what he has been conditioned to do for three years - his WHOLE LIFE so far. So it is natural that it may be a little tough for him. Just stay the course, expect accidents. And it will get better.
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Deedles- Sorry you are frusterated. Poor Liam is scared of the potty! I almost think River is scared of pooping in the potty. He will pee, but when it comes time to poop on it, he gets nervous & wants down. Be consistant & I'm sure everything will work out fine!
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My question.. maybe I am pushing too hard now... before I was not pushing enough.. everyone has said to me "he'll do it when he's ready.." but for gosh sakes he'll be 3 years old in 3 weeks!!!! and some people here have told how easy it is and how it shouldn't be so much of an issue... well it is for us!!!


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Originally Posted by deedles
Deedles, just ignore those people that say it shouldn't be an issue. Every child is going to have an issue with some part of growing up. With Chas it was sleeping through the night...with Liam it's potty training.

Like Geeky said, don't punish him or shame him when he has accidents (which I know you aren't but do really big encouragements. Some people don't agree with rewards but Chas is big on rewards. We gave him a jelly bean everytime he went on the potty. Is there something small he likes that will encourage potty time? m&m's..mini marshmallows..skittles.. If he still having a lot of accidents I would go back to the pullups and then wait a week or two then try again. Chas waking up dry was my big indicator that he was ready but I made sure he was doing this a good week or two before starting full out potty training.

Hang in there, like I said before my friend has a little boy that turned 3 in March....he still refuses to go on the potty.
Connor was very averse to even sitting on the potty or toilet when we started. We started with him whining and squirming while I placed him on it, and I hugged or held him the whole time, which would be only a few seconds. I rewarded him with praise and M&M's for even that. We did it at least 10-20 times a day, and it gradually got better. We read books or I let him watch TV if he was using the potty chair in the living room. He realized that the potty was not such a bad place to hang out, and I stopped having to give rewards just to sit there. Eventually (a couple days into the process) he started actually peeing on the potty, so he got a sticker on his chart and a couple M&M's. It got better and better. But there will be accidents, which severely tried my patience, but we got through it. BTW, Connor never wakes up in the morning dry, and the majority of the time he doesn't with naps, so he wears a pull-up or a diaper then.

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