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Old 07-13-2009, 10:17 AM   #1
 
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No need to respond. I've just got to put this out there.

As everyone knows, wah, wah, wah, I feel very down about the fact that I may be induced. But then there are all the phone calls. I've told everyone, as soon as anything happens, I'll let you know... but I still get calls everyday. If I don't pick up or return the calls because I get too choked up to talk, everyone continues to call with the, "omg! you didn't call me back! You must be having the baby!" It's like I cannot win.

I just feel like I've let myself and everyone else down.

So, when you're waiting for your friends to give birth, please don't call them every single day. After awhile, it might get to be too much for some women.

That is all.
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Old 07-13-2009, 10:26 AM   #2
 
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My sister is a labor and delivery nurse. When it was close to my due date, she would call/e-mail/text requesting daily "cervix updates."
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I always have to remind my mama of this... she should know, she went past dates with every single one of us by close to 2 weeks or more.

I would leave a message on your machine saying "when the baby is here I will let you know", and then not answer the phone (unless callID tells you it's something important.)

Did you feel this way every time you were post date? It won't be long now... some day you might even miss being pregnant!
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Old 07-13-2009, 10:28 AM   #4
 
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My sister is a labor and delivery nurse. When it was close to my due date, she would call/e-mail/text requesting daily "cervix updates."
Aw Lolo, that made me laugh. Thanks.
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Old 07-13-2009, 10:39 AM   #5
 
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I always have to remind my mama of this... she should know, she went past dates with every single one of us by close to 2 weeks or more.

I would leave a message on your machine saying "when the baby is here I will let you know", and then not answer the phone (unless callID tells you it's something important.)

Did you feel this way every time you were post date? It won't be long now... some day you might even miss being pregnant!
Interestingly enough, I didn't. Maybe I should chalk this up to fluctuating hormones or the fact that my husband starts a new job on Monday and this is his last week off (he's been off for 2 weeks so far).

I certainly will miss being pregnant. I loved all my pregnancies and felt they all went great. Also this is definitely my last pregnancy and with that in mind, I've savored every single moment of these 41 weeks. But I hit a turning point right at 41 weeks and I'm ready to move onto the next phase--the 4th trimester.
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I'm sorry, Medussa. That's got to be a real pain.

There is no way in which you've let anyone down.
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Old 07-13-2009, 11:03 AM   #7
 
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There is no way in which you've let anyone down.
Quoting because this bears repeating.

I agree with the suggestion to leave an outgoing message on your answering machine saying that you will let them know when the baby is here, and you don't wish to talk about it in the meantime.
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There is no way in which you've let anyone down.
Quoting because this bears repeating.

I agree with the suggestion to leave an outgoing message on your answering machine saying that you will let them know when the baby is here, and you don't wish to talk about it in the meantime.

ITA! It must be frustrating that the baby didn't come while your husband was off work.
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medussa, does your husband's new employer know that you two are expecting a new baby any day now? I went into labor with Sol on a Monday morning, what would have been my husband's second week at his current job. When he was offered the position, he told his boss about my pregnancy and she said that he'd be able to "borrow" vacation days that he hadn't yet earned, and he was able to take the whole week off (Sol wasn't born until late Tuesday night, and we were released from the hospital Friday morning).
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Old 07-13-2009, 12:40 PM   #10
 
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{{{hugs}}}

My mother went 17 days late with my sister and 23 days late with me... just last week my cousin was telling me how my father would take the phone and just tell people that they will call when the baby is born.

I don't give people an exact due date when they ask, in hopes of avoiding what you're going through.

We know the baby is going to come, I'll have my fingers and toes crossed for you that you can avoid an induction.
You haven't let anyone down.... I think it's the exact opposite, everyone is so excited that you have grown another beautiful baby they just can't contain themselves and want to meet the baby (just as I'm sure you do).

You've done and continue to do a great job!
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Old 07-13-2009, 02:13 PM   #11
 
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I would leave a message on your machine saying "when the baby is here I will let you know", and then not answer the phone (unless callID tells you it's something important.)
Two of my friends did this and it proved to be pretty effective for them...so did turning of the ringer on their phone.
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Old 07-13-2009, 02:52 PM   #12
 
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Aw, I'm sorry, especially because I was one of the nags.

My daughter was 11 days late, and I swear I still remember every single one of those days, almost 9 years later.

Your body does what your body does. At this point, it's completely out of your hands. Hugs, and good luck!
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There is no way in which you've let anyone down.
you definitely havent let me down. im living vicariously through you and your pregnancy because w/ my 1st miscarriage i was due at the same time your baby was due. so as creepy as that may seem, thank you.
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aw, I can commiserate. I went 41 weeks with Lila and people PESTERED me from about 39 weeks onward. I just stopped answering the phone and went into a bit of a cocoon once I went past my due date. I'm sorry you're having a rough time.
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I feel you, I got really sick of everyone asking me when the baby was coming and whether I would be induced. I just told them all that my baby would come when he was ready(42 wks and a day).
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many many hugs medussa! I agree, you are NOT letting anyone down. AT.ALL.

The calls are the worse. I am ALREADY getting people asking me if I have had the baby yet, and when I went overdue with S, my MIL would call twice a day asking if I had "had HER baby yet".

I have started screening my calls and I make DH listen to the answering machine.
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Old 07-16-2009, 11:04 AM   #17
 
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A friend from work called me after I went home to start maternity leave and I swear I snapped her head off for calling. I mean come on, it's like people think you'd have the baby and not tell anyone. I know they're excited but I swear sometimes people don't think.

Fingers crossed for you.
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has anyone heard from medussa?

sending good thoughts to you!
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Old 07-19-2009, 07:15 PM   #19
 
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She had a baby girl and everyone is fine. She will be home from the hospital soon and I will let her fill in all the details.
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She had a baby girl and everyone is fine. She will be home from the hospital soon and I will let her fill in all the details.
Thanks for the update Geeky!!!

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