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11-06-2009, 12:13 AM
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Somedays it's not so bad living at home with Mom.
Since I traveled extensivly for the first 6 years of my career after college I never moved out. It seemed silly to pay rent when I was in a hotel in another city for weeks, sometimes months at a time. But now I have a great down payment saved up. Go me.
However, the other night I was stuck at work. I work for a utility so I was out working in the street until 4am. I didn't get home until noon time the next day. I was exhausted, cold, I smelled (it was a sewer break, I know gross) I was just miserable. So when I got home my Mom sent me to take a shower, in the meantime she made me grilled cheese for lunch, sent me to take a nap and had Mac and Cheese waiting for me for dinner because it's my favorite. (and I'm starting to see where my weight problem comes from HA!)
As much as I think she can be a fussy all in your biz kinda Mom, it's REALLY nice to be babied once in awhile when you need it.
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11-06-2009, 12:26 AM
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Absolutely...I actually found myself calling my mom the other nite b/c I was really upset & had to get it out & felt I had no one to talk to... 
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11-06-2009, 12:56 AM
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I would love to come home from work with someone telling me to take a warm shower, then have dinner ready for me. Appreciate her and also know that she loves taking care of you.
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11-06-2009, 01:05 AM
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Me too. I miss my mom.  Be sure to tell her how much you appreciate her while you can.
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11-06-2009, 08:38 AM
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I'd love to have meals made for me and have a home kept for me...but I don't think I could pay the very-high price that it would cost me by getting that stuff from my mother. My mother is too controlling.
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11-06-2009, 09:26 AM
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I appreciate my parents more than ever now that I'm living with them again post divorce. We take turns with chores and I usually cook (I enjoy it), my mom helps with my/ baby's laundry (I hate doing it with a passion), and my dad is #1 Grandpa. For REAL. He practically begs to drop her off and pick her up at daycare even though it's on my way home from work.
Great parents are priceless.
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11-06-2009, 09:52 AM
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That's nice!
My mother would never move to Ohio...and she doesn't really cook...so that would never happen for me.
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11-06-2009, 10:10 AM
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I agree! When I travelled full time for work, I just lived at Mom and Dad's. I was home for two full days each week - usually Friday and Saturday. My mom was awesome. She always took care of my dry-cleaning, ALWAYS. I never had to worry about it. They also took care of my cats while I was gone, which was a lifesaver (and an enormous money saver) for me.
And if I didn't feel like driving to the airport and leaving my car there, my daddy would take me. I enjoyed it so much I almost never drove myself - it was nice to have that time with my pops.
My work friends who also travelled all the time were really jealous of my setup!
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11-06-2009, 04:39 PM
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My work friends are a little jealous. "enjoy it while you can!" and I do...somewhat. I pay room and board but nothing outrageous and dinner is usually waiting when I get home. However, my Mom is widowed and retired. So when I get home I hear about every moment of the day from the time I walked out the door until I come home. Every.single.detail. And on days when I've worked 12 or so hours...I jsut don't care, and it hurts her feelings when I say "Mom, I really don't care how much per pound the apples were. I just don't." Then she gets mad and tries to guilt me of which I won't have any part.
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11-06-2009, 04:54 PM
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Ditto that. My mom would tell me to get out of bed because stuff needs to be done around the house, and she's not doing it herself, or some ish.
Then she'd call me a 'princess' and tell me she wishes she had life that easy.
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11-06-2009, 05:05 PM
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I lived with my parents for about 6 months after graduating college and it was great - I have a great relationship with them and they treated me like an adult and they're not at all controlling. Of course, I was ready to move out when I did. My parents are like friends though - before we had kids, my husband and I used to go out for drinks with them and invite them out when we'd be out with our friends. Our friends considered them part of "the gang".
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11-06-2009, 05:09 PM
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Join Date: Jul 1999
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Cosign.
My parents (well, my mom, now) are parental, not friends. But Mom's just wonderful and my dad was too. It isn't unusual at all for people to come up to me when I'm home just to tell me how warm and loving my parents are ("were" for Dad, of course).
And at my dad's funeral, most of my 30-however-many first cousins came up to me to tell me, "Don't tell the other aunts and uncles, but your folks were always my favorites."
I'd totally be able to move in with my mother - no problem at all. Of course my brother would have to find someplace else to live - I love him but him I couldn't live with him.
ETA: Why am I having such awful typos lately? What's wrong with my BRAIN?! Do I have a brain thingy???
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Last edited by PartyHair : 11-06-2009 at 05:15 PM.
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11-06-2009, 05:12 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2001
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Ever since the sports thread wars I have sensed a special connection between RCW & Wile. Like the connection oil has to water. I almost can't speak of it. Wait....my eyes are misting. ~asq
Where sons are concerned, they think the sun shines out of their ass. ~ jl
To alcohol, the cause of --- and solution to --- all of life's problems. ~Sairis[Homer]
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11-06-2009, 05:22 PM
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I realize my post made it sound like my parents were more friends than parental... they were definitely very parental when I was growing up. Quite strict in fact when I was in high school. And I can still go to them for parental advice/babying when I need it, but since I was 18 I've been treated like an adult, as long as I behaved like one.
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11-06-2009, 05:54 PM
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I knew what you meant, Pix. I didn't mean to make that sound like it was directed at you - sorry!
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11-06-2009, 06:27 PM
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I get along with my mom okay, we have brunch every weekend. But living with her is not really an option.
She religiously watches Bill O’Reilly and listens to Glen Beck and Rush Limbaugh. She has the TV and radio on LOUD when she does this. It gets her riled up and she's then just itching for a fight. She'll go out of her way for one.
It's part of a trend of political polarization with her that just gets worse and worse with each passing year.
It's just icky and I'd rather not have any part of it. If I ever need a place to live, I'll go stay with one of my sisters instead, even though their situations aren't as accomodating, space-wise, logistically, etc.
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11-06-2009, 07:03 PM
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I moved out at 18 and never could have gone back to live. 18 years of being under the parental thumb was enough.
But I loved to visit The Mom. When she knew I was headed for a visit, she would ask what I wanted to eat. She was a fantastic cook. By the time the weekend was over, I practically rolled down the road on the way home!
She is in very poor health now and in a nursing home. So my advice is: Enjoy the good times with your parents while you can!
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11-07-2009, 02:43 AM
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See, I can see how that would hurt her. Sounds like she is lonely and in need of someone listening to her, trivial as the conversation might be. I get your point, but there is a nicer way than "I don't care".
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11-07-2009, 09:26 AM
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I agree. When I lived with my parents, part of the "deal" was to act like a participating member of the family, not just treat their house like a hotel. And part of being a member of the family means engaging in conversation.
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11-07-2009, 11:45 AM
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Join Date: Oct 2003
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Oh, that's not going to get any better. My Mom and I are in different states and I talk to her at least every couple of days. I hear every detail of her life from the last phone call, sometimes twice. There will be days that I will be beat tired and have to listen to her tell me all about her trip to Costco. Most days I try sound like I care but some days I just have to say "I'll call you tomorrow" then I feel slightly guilty. |
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