Not feelin the love =/

I have been blessed with gorgeous red curls. But now I don't know if they are a blessing or a curse.

I've gone CG and I love it. But that doesn't beat the fact that all the work it takes to maintain my hair to even look barely put together is getting frustrating to me.

I straightened my hair this past week for the first time a loooong time, just for a change. And now I realize I shouldn't have done that, because I'm comparing it to my curly hair and the maintenance and the outcome... Truth is, with my straight hair I can have a good hair day no matter what: brush it out, flat iron out the waves, and go. Versus my curly hair: Apply gobs and gobs of mousse and gel after my shower at night while it's sopping wet, clip it up, sleep on it, spray it in the morning to wet it, apply more mousse, clip it up to hopefully shape it a bit, let it dry as much as I can, and take it down and hope for the best. Usually it ends up at the end of the day looking like I barely applied anything: frizzy, poofy, undefined (unless I apply lots of gel in which case it gets hard and crispy with a heavy/down sort of look). Not to mention that my schedule as a full time college student with a part/full time job isn't conducive to spending mounds of time on my hair.

I don't want to ruin my hair by straightening it all the time, not to mention the fact that my curls really are too gorgeous to let go of completely. I guess I'm fighting between curls and straight - and can't really have both.

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Has anybody else been in this tug of war?
Proud redhead curly since '91

CG since 3/3/10!

Currently trying...
Co-wash: Suave Naturals Tropical Coconut, going to try TRESemme Naturals Radiant Volume Silicone-free
Leave-in: Suave Naturals Tropical Coconut
Gel: TRESemme Extra Firm Control

Type 3a/3b - Botticelli curls with a little bit of corkscrew
I know exactly what you mean. My biggest problem with curly hair is that it takes so much time and effort to look good! When I straighten my hair (I actually do a roller set) it looks good for several days and I don't have to do anything more to it. When I wear it curly, I have to re-wet it every morning and go through the whole routine. It's not that the straighter look is better, its just easier! Also in colder weather, the wind blows my curls right out or I have to wear a hat which squashes them.

Good luck - Here's to more good hair days!
2/c and some 3A. Modified CG.
Protein sensitive
Highly porous. Color over grey.
Best 1st day method: Super Soaker
Conditioners: Curl Junkie Beauticurls Strengthening Conditioner,
Deep condish: Curl Junkie Curl Rehab
Stylers: Mix Curls in a Bottle into everything for shine. Terrible pj
Sometimes try roller sets - classic glamor but I prefer my curls.
Every day is a gift
I'm in the exact same boat.... I straightened my hair last night for the first time in a month. The only thing I'd add is that my hair feels so much softer and healthier when it's curly. When it's straight it feels a lot drier and I can see the damage (from prior straightening) much more clearly. It doesn't help matters that I've been trying to grow my curly hair to BSL for years and when I straighten it my hair is well past that length.

However, the reaction I get from other people is ONLY positive when I wear it straight. So as a result of that and some latent socialization (damn you, Barbie) I only feel pretty when my hair is straight. It's definitely annoying.
What's working this week:
Shower: Garnier 3x Nutrition shampoo 1x per week, cowash with Tres Semme Naturals, condition with
GF Sleek and Shine deep conditioner
Styling: Tres Semme Naturals as leave in, L'Oreal Melting gel and HE SMU raked in, LOOB and AG Re:Coil scrunched in, Jojoba Oil scrunched in when totally dry
3B
I'm in the exact same boat.... I straightened my hair last night for the first time in a month. The only thing I'd add is that my hair feels so much softer and healthier when it's curly. When it's straight it feels a lot drier and I can see the damage (from prior straightening) much more clearly. It doesn't help matters that I've been trying to grow my curly hair to BSL for years and when I straighten it my hair is well past that length.

However, the reaction I get from other people is ONLY positive when I wear it straight. So as a result of that and some latent socialization (damn you, Barbie) I only feel pretty when my hair is straight. It's definitely annoying.
Originally Posted by GiveMeABMW
Me too. I get so many complements with straight hair... but I manage to get a few here and there with it worn curly... also with a few weird comments that leave me wondering what they meant by it...

I am wearing mine mostly curly and occasionally in braids or buns. I straighten my hair a few times a year, but I try really hard not to! It damages my hair and keeps me from my goal of long healthy hair. My hair is only bsl straight, and not so much when curly... I can honestly say its at its healthiest since kindergarten.

I worry a bit about my image. I wonder if people thing I dont care about my image. Some people think I have gorgeous hair (THANK YOU PEOPLE!), but some people only notice that when it's straight. pah....
3B ; BSL; Low Porosity; Med Texture; CG since July '10.
Clean: Ever Sleek
Treat: EVCO, Neutrogena 3xMoisture
Tools: Boar Brush, wide tooth comb
Styler: Garnier Sleek&Shine
Totally in the same boat. All my life my hair's been in buns/ponytails, sometimes half-ponytails.

I'm a busy HS student, to be college student.
I've tried the CG method for 2-3 years.
But in the end, my hair is just too thick.
I can try for hours (sometimes, my routine spans 2 days) to make it look nice, but it just doesn't.

The only way to make it somewhat thin, and leave it down, is straightening.

Sorry for ranting. lol. It just makes me so mad. I really wish I could leave it curly.

You're soooo pretty by the way, OP
Hair type: 2C-3A, very dry, extremely low porosity, med elasticity, insanely thick kinky-wavy.
HGs: Trader Joe's Nourish spa conditioner, Epsom salt rinse, Joico K-pak conditioner
I think this is a ship not a boat

But mine is the same way, I'm basically lost on what to do
Curl Type: 3a/b with tons of frizz

Current Haircut:Uhh.... a mistake that will hopefully be fixed soon.

Current Hair Products: Anything I can get my hands on..

Fanasty Hair: Red. Waist-long. Big,soft, not frizzy, curls.

Realistic Dream Hair: Mid-back Big curls. No frizz.



(thats me ^)
why can't you have both? Get a brazillian keratin treatment. I've been doing mine at home since may. Curly/straight either way, good to go!


Can't afford one? Walgreens and some cvs' are selling a $15 version by Organix. The reviews have been really good:

Amazon.com: Organix Conditioner, Ever Straight Brazilian Keratin Therapy 13 fl oz (385 ml): Beauty

BKTS don't really make your hair straight. Unless it has a super high percentatge of formeldahyde..and this one is over the counter and doesn't have formeldahyde. Best part? it just fades out. the 30 day thing to me seems weird, and will probably depend on how much you wash your hair, but for 15 bucks you can't go wrong.

Good Luck!
Honestly -- the Organix at-home BTK changed my life. I pposted a full review of it over in the straightening/relaxing thread but to sum up, I had truly dramatic results with it -- and I plan to continue using it regularly. I'll never go back, as long as they keep making it I'll keep buying it!
Modified CG. You'll pry my 'cones from my cold dead fingers! Mixed waves, coarse, below shoulder length, dark brown. I hate my hair but I'm trying to learn to accept it.

Gels: LA Looks Wet Look Styling Gel, Garnier Fructis Wet Shine Gel. Condish: Alberto V05 Free Me Fresia, Tresemme' Flawless Curls, LVPNG, Neutrogena Triple Moisture. Shampoo: Tresemme' Flawless Curls. Silicone Serum: Whatever is on sale, but I don't leave home without it.

Last edited by PrettyPorcupine; 04-06-2011 at 12:59 PM.
A deep thank you for all your super-helpful, informative posts about BTK in general and this product! They were very helpful when I was deciding whether to try it or not and I'm sooo glad i did.
Modified CG. You'll pry my 'cones from my cold dead fingers! Mixed waves, coarse, below shoulder length, dark brown. I hate my hair but I'm trying to learn to accept it.

Gels: LA Looks Wet Look Styling Gel, Garnier Fructis Wet Shine Gel. Condish: Alberto V05 Free Me Fresia, Tresemme' Flawless Curls, LVPNG, Neutrogena Triple Moisture. Shampoo: Tresemme' Flawless Curls. Silicone Serum: Whatever is on sale, but I don't leave home without it.
You're very welcome! I'm glad I could help! You should leave a review of your organix treatment on amazon, too.
I'm the same way....I think my curly hair is beautiful, but I just recently straightened my hair and it was so thick and big and luscious! I love it both ways, but I don't want to risk heat damage to my curls by straightening it often. It's just not a risk I'm willing to take. I'm thinking that I will probably straighten my hair twice a year, or something like that. I think I look good with straight hair but my natural hair has more oomph.
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