I know the feeling! Watching YouTube video tutorials has helped me lots. Check them out!
Some of my staple oils that has been very helpful:
Pure of white shea butter
Organic coconut oil
Jamaican black castor oil
*Lilly of the Valley Aloe Vera Juice
*Acv rinse for final rinse 50/50 water and vinegar
Tiny bit of conditioner (your choice)
I use them as a pre co washing. Set myself under the Heutiful steamer 20 mins. If you don't have one, put a plastic bag with a hot towel or better yet do this OVER night. Refresh a little my hair, rinse, apply my favorite conditioner ( I keep using the old ones with a twist a very little amount of evoo) and in the final rinse I use acv from a spray bottle, so the water can be as cool as possible).
Finally,I seal my hair with pure aloe vera that I spray from a bottle so it will be cool, (not cold due to the cold weather) Jojoba oil,a little more shea butter, and JBCO specially in the tips is a must.
I can assure that at least your hair will look and feel better. Ahhhh, don't forget to wear some protective styles for some days. If you want curl definition try twist, Bantu knots, curl formers, ect if you want them dry. If wet, prep your hair with a good hair gel like Ecco, but make sure to add a little bit more of shea butter to your hair.
Ohhhh I forgot to tell you that the apple cider vinegar smell goes away when the hair is completely dry. However, I use 65% water and about 35% acv.
Hope I helped!