Okay so I really felt the need to write this for all my ladies out there who are transitioning because I know it gets hard sometimes. I hope this helps to give you at least a little encouragement to know that there is someone who is cheering for you to keep on going and keep on growing...........
Well this is my second time transitioning and I never thought that I would be able to find products that actually
work for me!
When I first decided to transition the only thing I knew to use was the Care Free Curl Gold line because that was the only thing that I had seen another girl with curly hair use, and even though it made my skin break out like crazy and my hair was a greasy hot mess I kept using it because I really thought that this was what I was supposed
to be using. I used this stuff for 5 years and then I also started texturizing
. Well in 2009 it finally stopped working for me and I tried so hard to find something to supplement it, but I could find nothing. It was horrible! I had a ton of new growth and nasty, dried, frizzy ends and could find nothing to moisturize it!
Then one day (I think a year or 2 later) while looking in the mirror at my wet, partly natural, partly texturized, conditioner soaked hair, that the natural part was soaking in the conditioner while the conditioner just sat on top of the texturized hair. At that moment I realized that I would no longer allow any chemicals to ever touch my hair again. Shortly after this I decided I to get braids because I was tired of looking at my hair. That was a mistake! My hair got braided wayyyy to tight and I had alot of breakage. It was terrible.
Anywho, while still in braids I found Youtube and Naturally Curly.com, which also means I found out about all the products that all you natural ladies have been using and that had been working on you and I thought I had struck gold! KCCC, KCKT, Mixed Chicks, Qhmet, KBB, Oyin, Miss Jessies, CurlJunkie, Giovanni, Wen, Co washing, no cones,protein treatments, DC, CG.............you name it I bought and did it in hopes that I had finally found something that worked for me. However, most of the time time I ended up with dry crunchy ends, stiff roots and a sore and itch, dry scalf. Just awful. I mean I hated it. HATED IT. I was so depressed over my hair I didn't know what to do. I even tried to use some of the things that I used back in the day (silicone and sulfates and all)....and that made it even worse.
Then the light got brighter and I realized that the reason that nothing was working because I still had the dead texturizied hair attached to my head! I realized that my hair was never going to benefit from anything that I did to my hair unless of all the processed crap that was holding to all the beautiful new natural hair that I had accumulated and nourished. So I did the only thing I could do............I GOT A TRIM!!! And I was so glad! It was like getting microdermabrasion for my hair
. At this point I didnt even care about length, I just wanted my hair to finally be healthy and even thought she didn't cut all the deadness of it still felt really good. I had about 4 or 5 inches of dead stuff left and I didn't feel like looking at it and so I decided to wear it straight for awhile. And thats when I met Shea Moisture and Garnier Triple Nutrition. My soul mates. I went from wearing it straight to doing braid outs because I got tired of the heat and this also allowed me to be able to play around with products.
In January of this year I got 3 more inches trimmed off and continued to play with the shea moisture and garnier triple nutrition. I was also finding other things that I had hidden away and added couple of other things to my arsnal (like coconut oil and tea tree oil) and I gotta tell ya, my hair gets healthier and healthier every day! I've finally found a products and a routine that works for me! And its sooo simple. And theres no crunch, no dry sore and itchy scalp, no breakage and shedding when shampooing, and I even think I've had some growth. Its soft and not over oily.........It's finally on the way to becoming that hair I had when I was a kid (or maybe better).
With about a half an inch or so more to get trimmed before I am 100% natural, I am trying to hold off until June or July just to give my hair a chance to grow. I am so excited to see what my hair will look like. If it feels and looks this good now and and there is still a wee bit of texturized hair left, I'm sure it will look even better when its gone.
So to all you transitioners out there, I know it is a struggle. But I just wanted you to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel and it does get better. Be patient, Be strong, and dont give up. You can
FIERCE LOVE AND CURLS