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Dd_NY 11-28-2011 06:04 AM

HELP I have too much new growth!
 
I really want to get a touch up but I have so much new growth that it's all tangled and hard to part.

How can I get all the tangles out at the roots so that I can pass a comb through it to get the relaxer in??

I need help ASAP because it's been months since my last touch up (I NEVER let it get out of this control but I've been so busy

Dd_NY 11-28-2011 06:08 AM

My mom usually does my touch ups for me but she is afraid to do it this time because I have so much growth. She asked that I go to a salon instead. The problem is, I really don't trust those people with my hair and I don't think they'd be understanding of my situation. Im sure they'd just part it all roughly and rip it out. I am very concerned that whenever I do get a touch up I will loose a ton of hair. :( I do not wear weaves or anything like that so I'll look awful for months cuz my hair will thin out. :((

DeeinKC 11-28-2011 07:24 AM

Deep Condition ASAP!!
 
Are you planning to fully transition? I am growing out my relaxer and it's been 2 months since my last touch up, so my roots are beginning to get really puffy. This weekend I did my first deep conditioning treatment and the results were like night and day. I'd suggest you start deep conditioning ASAP to lock in moisture and only detangle your hair after you complete your wash and apply a leave in conditioner.

My roots had been really dry and when I did my treatment this weekend, I was amazed at how it softened them up and made combing easier.

It sounds like your at a crossroads with relaxing and I'd wait to make sure you really want to relax that way you won't lose that precious natural hair you've grown. Good luck!

Dd_NY 11-28-2011 09:13 AM

No! I absolutely want to relax! I just have fallen off schedule since I've been so busy and haven't made time for taking care of myself.

What deep conditioner did you use? The Aussie 3 minute worked for me last time I ran into this issue but it doesn't seem moisturizing and sets fling enough this time

DeeinKC 11-28-2011 10:12 AM

I used Organic Root Stimulator Olive Oil Replenishing Conditioner and sat under the dryer with it in for about 20 mins. Then for a leave-in I used Shea Moisture's Deep Treatment Masque and concentrated on my roots.

Dd_NY 11-28-2011 11:05 AM

I've tried that before and it just left my hair feeling coated. I realized its cuz soybean oil is the second ingredient! Im gonna see if I can find a stylist at the mall to help me or suggest something.

Ronnieaj 11-28-2011 08:16 PM

You've made a couple of posts about your new growth being too dry. What exactly are you doing to your hair? What are you using to moisturize it? What is going on that you can't even part your hair properly?

Butterfly_Curlz 11-28-2011 09:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Ronnieaj (Post 1823395)
You've made a couple of posts about your new growth being too dry. What exactly are you doing to your hair? What are you using to moisturize it? What is going on that you can't even part your hair properly?

I was going to ask the same thing but then when I saw she said she was sure she wanted to relax her hair I didn't even bother. I mean I'm all for people doing whatever they wanna do to their hair but why are you posting in a transitioner's thread asking for advice about how to prep your hair for a perm?!

Dd_NY 11-29-2011 05:50 PM

I cowash daily and clarify when necessary, otherwise I stay away from sulfates. I use a satin cap at night. I am pretty good about keeping a protein/moisture balance, it's just that it's been so long since I've gotten a touch up that my extremely curly roots have tangled in some areas. My ends are soft and smooth, it's just my roots that are out of control because I am months post relaxer (I lost count). It's not so much that they are dry, it's more that they are so curly. And you can't comb curly hair when it is dry but if I comb it when wet I get nervous it will come out (since hair is weaker when wet).

Dd_NY 11-29-2011 05:58 PM

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Originally Posted by JaylensMami10 (Post 1823456)
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Originally Posted by Ronnieaj (Post 1823395)
You've made a couple of posts about your new growth being too dry. What exactly are you doing to your hair? What are you using to moisturize it? What is going on that you can't even part your hair properly?

I was going to ask the same thing but then when I saw she said she was sure she wanted to relax her hair I didn't even bother. I mean I'm all for people doing whatever they wanna do to their hair but why are you posting in a transitioner's thread asking for advice about how to prep your hair for a perm?!

Because I know that transitioned are great about handling two different textures at once. I don't think I saw a perm or stretch section. I'm on my iPod so I could be mistaken, plus I'm new so I may have overlooked it.

Look, I am new to these boards. This is only my second post. I don't know if it was your intention to mock but I am just trying to get some help. If you think there is a better place for me to post then it would be kinder if you suggested it to me instead.

Another reason I posted here is because at one point I was considering transitioning. I'm sure there are others who thought about it in this section and later decided against it as I did. I decided now is not a good time in my life because of all the upkeep. It's more expensive for me this way, and I do not have the time either.

Butterfly_Curlz 11-30-2011 12:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Dd_NY (Post 1824020)
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Originally Posted by JaylensMami10 (Post 1823456)
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Originally Posted by Ronnieaj (Post 1823395)
You've made a couple of posts about your new growth being too dry. What exactly are you doing to your hair? What are you using to moisturize it? What is going on that you can't even part your hair properly?

I was going to ask the same thing but then when I saw she said she was sure she wanted to relax her hair I didn't even bother. I mean I'm all for people doing whatever they wanna do to their hair but why are you posting in a transitioner's thread asking for advice about how to prep your hair for a perm?!

Because I know that transitioned are great about handling two different textures at once. I don't think I saw a perm or stretch section. I'm on my iPod so I could be mistaken, plus I'm new so I may have overlooked it.

Look, I am new to these boards. This is only my second post. I don't know if it was your intention to mock but I am just trying to get some help. If you think there is a better place for me to post then it would be kinder if you suggested it to me instead.

Another reason I posted here is because at one point I was considering transitioning. I'm sure there are others who thought about it in this section and later decided against it as I did. I decided now is not a good time in my life because of all the upkeep. It's more expensive for me this way, and I do not have the time either.

Yes there is a section for perming/straightening the hair. You may wanna post your question there. We all realize that you are new and that is why we even responded and didn't just leave your post unanswered like many others did. However none of us are 'experts' nor claim to be, some have just been at it longer than others and like to help out 'newbies' like yourself.

No one is saying there is anything wrong with you deciding to perm your hair. It is your hair and you do as you wish. However it can/does get irritating when 'newbies' come on and post and post the same questions w/out first searching for answers and then get defensive bc other posters respond and question their tactics when they haven't even attempted the basics yet like using the search button.

Again your question would be better suited for the perming/straightening thread and not the transitioners thread. Good luck on your permed or eventual natural hair journey. Whichever way you decide to go!

Dd_NY 12-01-2011 06:49 AM

Excuse me, but I DID use the search function. I really didn't want to make an account here but since I couldn't find an answer to my question I had to.

I do see now that there is a perm section, but even so, I would have posted here anyways. Transitioners tend to know how to deal with two different hair textures so it made more sense for me to post here than in the perm section because those people generally don't let their hair get as curly as I allowed mine.

I have been member of various forums and I'm always kind to new users because I know some people are unfamiliar when they join. I'm sure you were the same when you first started.

Dd_NY 12-01-2011 06:52 AM

You shouldn't just make assumptions. You have no idea how long I'd been googling and searching before I finally decided I'd be better off asking the question myself.

Butterfly_Curlz 12-01-2011 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Dd_NY (Post 1825293)
You shouldn't just make assumptions. You have no idea how long I'd been googling and searching before I finally decided I'd be better off asking the question myself.

Lol. I'm not going to debate with you and before you suggest that others not make assumptions try not to assume yourself that transitioners (especially new one's) know a lot about dealing with the two textures of their hair. Sweetie if they did then there clearly wouldn't be soooooo many of us/them posting for advice and a thread for them to do so and also don't assume that you know anything about me or how nice I am or am not to 'newbies'. If you think that other boards are more helpful to you then go post there.

Again wishing you the best on your natural or transitioning journey!

Dd_NY 12-01-2011 05:32 PM

I'm not assuming that EVERY transitioner knows better. I just thought to myself, "I am dealing with two different hair types. Transitioners do as well. Maybe I'd get good advice asking someone who deals with two different textures of hair at once on a daily basis."

Furthermore, I was also was a transitioner at one point. Then I decided to relax. I don't see why me posting here is bothering you.

Do you follow my thought process?

Butterfly_Curlz 12-01-2011 06:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Dd_NY (Post 1825807)
I'm not assuming that EVERY transitioner knows better. I just thought to myself, "I am dealing with two different hair types. Transitioners do as well. Maybe I'd get good advice asking someone who deals with two different textures of hair at once on a daily basis."

Furthermore, I was also was a transitioner at one point. Then I decided to relax. I don't see why me posting here is bothering you.

Do you follow my thought process?

Sweetie you can post wherever you please but the bottom line of anyone posting is to get answers to their questions. So you can either go back and forth with me (well actually yourself bc you clearly don't get it) or else you can go over to the perming/straightening section like I suggested you do MANY posts ago where you would probably be better helped in finding your answer because if you pay attention to this particular post over 300 people have looked at it but NO ONE else is even bothering to responding to you!

Again I suggest you go over to the over thread where someone may be better able to help you. Good luck!

okolo 12-01-2011 08:07 PM

Hey hun with the original question. I understand your thought process and would've done the same thing. Experienced this same tangled mess everytime I was up for my new relaxer (when I was relaxing). It took a while but I had to just buckle down and comb it out with a wide tooth comb. Then shampoo anx deep condition. Made the mistake of just trting to skip the detangling before shampoo and that was a HORRIBLE mistake. Hair knotted like dreads. I cried of the thought that the only solution was to cut it at the root where the knot was. That 3 min aussie worked, but it took FOREVER and a fine tooth comb to get those dreads out. But it's possible.
I hope I helped. Figured the least I could do is share my experience instead of nit picking at u for asking for help. Hope u didn't get discouraged from this board, we're not all quarelsome.

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okolo 12-01-2011 08:13 PM

Dd ny
Whatever u do or use, Just make sure you can comb through it BEFORE u shampoo, and try to keep the hair in same direction as much as u can while shampooing. Deep con when you're done. And get that relaxer Asap! Lol best whishes hun.



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msfears 12-01-2011 08:24 PM

I swear some forum members need a life! Why is it so damn offensive that she posted in the wrong section.? I never understand why this is so damn irritating? She explained so move on. And why be so quick to call out newbies ? Some newbies have been lurking here longer than some of you have been posting. Respect, understanding, and constructive communication goes a long way. I'm done. Possibly first and last post here.

peyrhy 12-01-2011 08:37 PM

I too agree that we should respect each other and our freedom to post, wonder, ask, read, comment, transition, perm, etc....I am 100% natural, but I too have had questions that some may deem basic, but they were important to me! We are here to help one another, so let's!

To the original poster, don't be discouraged to ask your questions, I just think she was trying to tell u that there is a thread for that because the members there may be of more assistance. What works on natural hair may be a disaster for relaxed hair.


Just my 2 cents, I'm no Dr.Phil or Oprah lol





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Originally Posted by msfears (Post 1825998)
I swear some forum members need a life! Why is it so damn offensive that she posted in the wrong section.? I never understand why this is so damn irritating? She explained so move on. And why be so quick to call out newbies ? Some newbies have been lurking here longer than some of you have been posting. Respect, understanding, and constructive communication goes a long way. I'm done. Possibly first and last post here.



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