insecurities about the big chop

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Okay, I'm tired of maintaining these two textures 'cause my hair has always been super dry, and it's getting really difficult for it to hold any moisture, soooooo I'm thinking about doing the big chop next week. 3 months post relaxer.

Honestly, I'm ready to just cut it off. My problem is that I weigh 270 pounds, and I have a pear shaped head, and my neck is considerably darker than the rest of my face (eczema. No, I do not have diabetes, I've been tested), so I'm worried that I'll look....terrible.

But I'm feeling my new growth all the time, and I want to let the world see it!
i think you should do it! I'm sure you know that with natural hair people will either love it or hate either way, so why bother worrying about what others think? do it for yourself!
I can relate because I have a birthmark on my face that I kind of hide behind my hair. But I'm not cutting off my hair b/c I spent the last year growing it before I considered going natural...so I'm not willing to cut. But I think my birthmark influences me a tiny bit.

The first thing I thought of when I read your post was if you're self conscious about your neck, experiment wearing cute scarfs as an accessory. Also, blouses with higher collars could help disguise it. There are ways to "cover up" so don't let that stop you from cutting if that's what your heart really wants to do. Good luck!!
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Okay, I'm tired of maintaining these two textures 'cause my hair has always been super dry, and it's getting really difficult for it to hold any moisture, soooooo I'm thinking about doing the big chop next week. 3 months post relaxer.

Honestly, I'm ready to just cut it off. My problem is that I weigh 270 pounds, and I have a pear shaped head, and my neck is considerably darker than the rest of my face (eczema. No, I do not have diabetes, I've been tested), so I'm worried that I'll look....terrible.

But I'm feeling my new growth all the time, and I want to let the world see it!
Originally Posted by beastlybritt
A big part of wearing a TWA is about confidence. I have seen full figured women with TWAs or even bald heads and they look beautiful. You could weigh 120 pounds and look bad w/short hair if your confidence is low. If you are ready to do the BC then I say go for it! You can always accessorize your TWA w/decorative bobby pins, flowers, scarves, headbands, hats, etc. I had to do that to get myself through my first 6 months, but I grew more comfortable with the short length of my hair each day.
I agree! If you are ready to chop, it doesn't matter what anyone thinks. Your hair will probably grow really fast anyway. However, if you are chopping mainly because your hair is dry and you are frustrated, you need to realize that still will need to be worked out. You will end up frustrated and hating your new TWA if you haven't worked out a regimen to maintain moisture in your hair. You may want to address that first to make your BC and progress thereafter as successful as possible.
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I agree with LavendarCurls. I wouldn't just BC because your hair is dry. When you are transitioning this gives you a chance to learn what your natural hair likes. I have been there and I transitioned for 3 months knew nothing about my hair and BC'd. I was natural for 6 months and still didn't know how to take care of it and went back to the creamy crack. This was back in 2010. Now I am transitioning for a second time and I am 7 months in. But if you are ready to BC then do it. I hope this helps.

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