Girl! I know what you mean. It's the most annoying thing EVER!!! I BC 3 weeks ago and discovered I have scab hair on my sides, in the back and some spots in the middle and front. There are some spots where I see my true texture. It's super soft and coily. But the scab hair is just all over my head which makes it hard to even see my curls
Moisture is thee biggest problem. It doesn't hold any at all!!! Only the part that are my true texture. I'll do a twist-out and drench my hair in Shea Moisture CES and Jojoba oil. And the next morning it's as if I didn't waste an hour applying product to my hair.
The only thing I can recommend is DEEP CONDITION, COWASH, and DEEP CONDITION! Do those 2 every week to "soften" up the scab hair. I have noticed that when I deep condition (with mixed chicks and some olive coconut oil under my steamer) my hair has soften up a little. BUT, the scab hair is STILL there. It just feels really terrible on my ends.
Really and truly there's NOTHING you can do about the course, fuzzy dryness! You would have to eventually cut it off. I'm just waiting until July to cut mine off because 1) I JUST BC and I don't want to cut my hair again and 2) I don't want to cut my hair so soon and then find out I have to recut again because I didn't get all of the scab hair or some more has grown which would be even worse. So until then, I'm going to box braid my hair, accumulate some growth and then cut it OFF!!!
But just remember. Deep Condition and Cowash. It's helps a little.