Angenoir welcome! Hope you have a photo or 2 to post, really helps to get targeted advice. General advice see below.
The key to wearing my hair out is a good cut, lots of moisture, conditioning, and styling products that help define texture. I don't get my hair cut much (2-3 times a year trims) but this really helps me manage it. My last cut was August 1. 16 weeks out, I'm having to do more patting and fluffing and taking care about product, where before it was much easier (but my ends are okay see below for why).
IMO, the most important thing you can do for yourself (and it's probably tough in Belgium) is to take the time to find a hair salon that knows curly hair, and that knows hyper-textured, highly curly hair. The salon I go to most of the clients I see are wavies, spirals and botticellis, but the curly stylists do know how to cut my 4a hair, and to style it too - better than I can
I have found it's not a racial or ethnic thing or "natural salons" -- it's about curly hair proficiency.
There's a salon reference on this site. You could also email Christo or Ouidad or Devachan or Dianne DaCosta and ask about Belgian resources. Look around you; if you see a woman whose hair you like tell her so and ask her where she goes. I didn't do it with this one woman who had a fab cut, but I'm stalking the Walnut Street Whole Foods until I see her again
Regarding my ends - I take care of them by doing overnight "baggying" -- coating the hair with a moisturizer, then the ends with an oil and covering with a baggy, Saran wrap or conditioning cap. Some women do only the ends with ponytails. I do the whole head; I call it my Rainforest treatment.
- try to eliminate products with silicones and mineral oils
- After those things are out of your hair try to condition wash only (better moisture retention) or shampoo with a non-sulfate, or use a no-poo (conditioning cleanser with no detergents)
- Read ingredients and get to know the good ones
- Condition often, moisturize dry hair often with a light lotion (just a tiny bit).
- Find a stylist who can do micro braids and twists so you can wear protective styles. I want to go "protective" for part of next year with twists/braids.
- Everything I learned about hair and products I learned from looking at Fotkis of women whose hair I admired, and reading these and other hair boards. Styling I learned from going to a curly stylist and from a Ouidad road show. Ouidad does have a styling guide on her site (and you don't have to use her products) Click here