Magically in the Fourth Month= Need Lots of Help

In early March or so is when I believe I had my last relaxer. My mom was getting on my case in April or so because I wasn't doing anything with my hair (like a high school student just has extra money to go get her hair relaxed without mom giving it to her) so she FORCED me to get braids (me: No I'll go to Enrique's tomorrow, her: No you're too lazy, you're getting braids, me: no they make my face look rooound!!!). Now, I'm actually glad she forced me into braids, (except for the fact that when they go they always take some of your hair with them) because after two sets of braids and four or so months, I've got a nice little amount of new growth.

I also have no idea about what the hell I'm supposed to do with it and how I'm supposed to blend the textures. My natural hair is super thick, but my relaxed is fine and I can't figure how to do anything with it, including cornrows, twists, etc. I also have no ideas what products I should be using to care for it and my mother is pretty opposed to it, so she's not being a help. I also can't do a TWA (because of my super round face) and because it WILL make my mother hate me even more.

What products do you guys recommend? What did you guys use in your fourth month? How do you deal with the differences in texture? Should I be using something specific to curls? Answers to any other questions that I probably have, or will have soon would be super helpful too!!!
What you just said is almost the story of my own transition so far. I stopped perming my hair in the middle of March purposely because honestly, I'm just tired of it and I've been inspired by the people here. My mom was also very much against me doing it but she didn't get at me until I came back home in June (I go to a boarding high school).

I didn't want braids or to BC early either because they also make my face look too round, in my opinion. I don't know your mother but mine reached a level of understanding, and became more supportive, once I explained why I wanted to do this. The harder part was what I would do to my hair in this time and trying to articulate that with your mom. How are you suppose to know when you don't even remember how your natural hair looks? I think for the first part, you should think deeply about the reasons why you want to commit to transitioning and becoming natural (tired to caustic lye, burning scalp, breakage etc.), and try to explain that to you mom, which I know can be harder than it sounds. (My mom and I got into a number of fights because she doesn't believe that *my* natural hair is going to be pretty)

About the second part, I'm still trying to figure out what works for my hair, and I find something might work one month, but becomes less affective as the time goes on. You should definitely search around the 4a and 3c boards, that's what I did for weeks before I found what worked for me. You may want to try the Curly Girl method or a plan derived from that (http://www.naturallycurly.com/curl-p...-poo-routine-2). So invest in a good conditioner and a wide toothed comb. x__x; Please don't let your mom comb your hair dry, I know mine broke off alot of hairs that way.

Braids can be a good transitioner but honestly, I don't trust most hairstylists with my hair. If you do have them do it though, make sure they don't braid too tightly, especially around your hairline.

For my regular routine, I make my own deep conditioner by mixing a moisturizing conditioner with coconut oil, extra virgin olive oil and honey. I saturate my hair with that and wrap it in a plastic cap and leave it overnight (if not I sit under a hood dryer for 45 min or so). Then I rinse it out, do an apple cider vinegar rinse, condition wash and rinse out and then add a leave in detanger and use the wide tooth comb from tip to root all over. Then I either leave it in a smooth bun using Fantasia IC gel for the week or put my hair in twists for half the week and twist outs for the rest. For extra moisture I regularly spray with a mixture of coconut oil and water, and Jane Carter's Nourish and Shine. However, this is just what works with me and you're going to have to experiment a bit until something works for you too!

I'm really sorry this came out so long! Lots of luck in transitioning~.
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BC: April 24, 2009

Goals: To learn how to style my hair and continue to grow it healthy and happy!
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Last edited by Karua12; 08-11-2008 at 08:37 PM.
I'm so sorry that your mom isn't being supportive of your natural beauty. Keep your head up. When u are done transitioning your hair is gonna be so healthy and beautiful.

As far as blending the 2 textures, twist-outs worked best for me. That was my main hair style while transitioning. You can also try braid outs (I loved those when I was relaxed too), straw/rod sets and roller sets. They look really nice and help you get used to the look of unstraightened hair. Additionally,those hairstyles put less stress on the hair which equals less breakage. You should also know that moisture is the key to both pretty and healthy locks. I deep conditon weekly and moisturize as often as possible.

As Karua12 said, check out the 4a (as well as 4b & 3c) forums for tips and product suggestions; so very helpful. HTH
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Last edited by MissKinkyCoily; 08-12-2008 at 01:46 AM.
I got my last relaxer on March 1st so Im 5 months in. Its so funny because I also dont like getting braids and I think my face is too round for a twa but I cant deal with the 2 textures ne more so Im BCing sometime next week.
My transitioning must have item has been giovanni direct leave-in. I have mostly 4a hair with some random 3c pieces. The Giovanni Leave in let me detangle my hair so well that I was beyond amazed. Of course have a wide toothed comb. When my hair isnt wet and needs moisture I spray with a glycerin water mixture and then put some castor oil on it which makes both textures really soft.
I sadly havent mastered twist/braid outs at one point bantu knot outs worked well for me but now they dont...
And although I initially thought I would look like crap with a twa Im trying to have faith that I wont and just keep remembering that you are going through this process for you and no one else. HTH
Janellie
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You guys are really helpful, thanks. I was waching my hair and the difference between my super thick natural hair and the stringy relaxed ends was getting on my nerves. I'm thinking I should just cut it but my mother gave me a murderous look. On the plus side, I learned to cornrow (yes it looks jacked up, but I did it myself)

I'm definteily going to pick up some Giovanni Direct (everyone seems to use that).

I wish you guys all luck with transitioning/going natural.

Even though braids do make my face look round, I'm thinking of getting them again because it'd be easier to not have to the with the ends, but that would also take away from my ability to learn how to treat my natural hair. What do you guys think?
You guys are really helpful, thanks. I was waching my hair and the difference between my super thick natural hair and the stringy relaxed ends was getting on my nerves. I'm thinking I should just cut it but my mother gave me a murderous look. On the plus side, I learned to cornrow (yes it looks jacked up, but I did it myself)

I'm definteily going to pick up some Giovanni Direct (everyone seems to use that).

I wish you guys all luck with transitioning/going natural.

Even though braids do make my face look round, I'm thinking of getting them again because it'd be easier to not have to the with the ends, but that would also take away from my ability to learn how to treat my natural hair. What do you guys think?
Originally Posted by Aeddy
Yeah, I think that is a good idea. That was my other transition hairstyle. When I didnt wear twistouts, I wore braids. Just make sure to keep your scalp and braids moisturized. Spray them with a a leave-in & oil mix daily. You should co-wash them too. After you take them out, deep condition and trim your hair.

Good Luck
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