08-11-2008, 09:14 PM
Join Date: May 2008
What you just said is almost the story of my own transition so far. I stopped perming my hair in the middle of March purposely because honestly, I'm just tired of it and I've been inspired by the people here. My mom was also very much against me doing it but she didn't get at me until I came back home in June (I go to a boarding high school).
I didn't want braids or to BC early either because they also make my face look too round, in my opinion. I don't know your mother but mine reached a level of understanding, and became more supportive, once I explained why I wanted to do this. The harder part was what I would do to my hair in this time and trying to articulate that with your mom. How are you suppose to know when you don't even remember how your natural hair looks? I think for the first part, you should think deeply about the reasons why you want to commit to transitioning and becoming natural (tired to caustic lye, burning scalp, breakage etc.), and try to explain that to you mom, which I know can be harder than it sounds. (My mom and I got into a number of fights because she doesn't believe that *my* natural hair is going to be pretty)
About the second part, I'm still trying to figure out what works for my hair, and I find something might work one month, but becomes less affective as the time goes on. You should definitely search around the 4a and 3c boards, that's what I did for weeks before I found what worked for me. You may want to try the Curly Girl method or a plan derived from that (http://www.naturallycurly.com/curl-p...-poo-routine-2). So invest in a good conditioner and a wide toothed comb. x__x; Please don't let your mom comb your hair dry, I know mine broke off alot of hairs that way.
Braids can be a good transitioner but honestly, I don't trust most hairstylists with my hair. If you do have them do it though, make sure they don't braid too tightly, especially around your hairline.
For my regular routine, I make my own deep conditioner by mixing a moisturizing conditioner with coconut oil, extra virgin olive oil and honey. I saturate my hair with that and wrap it in a plastic cap and leave it overnight (if not I sit under a hood dryer for 45 min or so). Then I rinse it out, do an apple cider vinegar rinse, condition wash and rinse out and then add a leave in detanger and use the wide tooth comb from tip to root all over. Then I either leave it in a smooth bun using Fantasia IC gel for the week or put my hair in twists for half the week and twist outs for the rest. For extra moisture I regularly spray with a mixture of coconut oil and water, and Jane Carter's Nourish and Shine. However, this is just what works with me and you're going to have to experiment a bit until something works for you too!
I'm really sorry this came out so long! Lots of luck in transitioning~.
Hey everyone!~ I've BCed! Yay! (13 month transition)
Last Perm: March 23, 2008
BC: April 24, 2009
Goals: To learn how to style my hair and continue to grow it healthy and happy!
Hair type: 4b near the temples, 3c in the back/nape and 4a everywhere! Mostly coily-curly with medium-fine strands and medium thickness.
Last edited by Karua12; 08-11-2008 at 09:37 PM.