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cysyca 08-27-2008 11:11 AM

Am I A Traitor If I Get A Texturizer After My Transition
 
:sad8: I'm keeping my options open and wonder if anyone else is at least thinking about getting a texturizer espeically if your hair becomes unmanageable? I know for sure that I'll never get my hair fully relaxed but I don't know if I won't say "no" to a texturizer. I still have until April 09 but I'm keeping Miss Jessie on speed dial.

qhwaheed 08-27-2008 11:33 AM

I don't believe in there being a such thing as a "traitor" when it refers to going natural. It all depends on your motivation and why you are transitioning. If you are doing to get your hair in a healthier state in order to put a texturizer in your hair, then that is your choice. personally, I am transitioning because I am sick of being dependent on a relaxer. Also, I have thick hair which I did not want to eventually thin because of a relaxer.

So, it all depends on what you want, but there are NO traitors here:icon_smile:

rockthecurlz 08-27-2008 01:03 PM

I agree with qhwaheed. Saying you would be a traitor is being hard on yourself. You have to do what is right for you. I'm in transition and its because my hair is thin, and unhealthy. I have accepted my curly hair, and I don't feel complete with relaxers anymore. Good luck!

curlee1 08-27-2008 01:03 PM

no you're not a traitor!!! I just got a tex lask weekend and i feel that I will be able to care for my hair better because I won't have deadly knots (the ones that have to be cut). The whole process only took 15 fron app to rinse. I'm happy with the results too, I have more manageagle hair but it's still big and poofy too!

Remember you have to do whats best for you. if that means getting a tex then let it be so...besides you could get one every 6months to a year if you so desire.

research and look at all your options then decide.
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cysyca 08-27-2008 01:11 PM

Okay, maybe traitor was the wrong word, and yes I only have to please myself. Thank you ladies for responding and I just wanted to know how most of the NC people felt about getting a tex after transitioning.

Lillu 08-27-2008 02:21 PM

Hi cycyca!

I think all all transitioners want to believe 100% that we will love our hair when it is fully natural, and that the end goal is healthy, natural hair... but in reality we also want our hair to a) look good and b) be manageable in our daily life!

I have asked myself the same question lots of times since i started transitioning... what if i cant deal with my hair, its so thick and huge even now, plus i couldnt cope with it when it was natural before. What if it looks awful and feels terrible... what if i can never use a hairbrush ever again? If this is the case I know for a fact I will be straight down the hairdressers for some sort of help... i'm not too sure what a texturiser actually is but if it is something not as hardcore as a relaxer then I would be well up for it. I would never say it makes u a traitor, and if it does, then honey we can be 'traitors' together!! :wink:

HTH xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

p.s. curlee1, i remember the deadly knots... *shudder* i had a few of those cut out in my natural youth!!!

Mo_Gemini22 08-27-2008 06:46 PM

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Originally Posted by cysyca (Post 698562)
:sad8: I'm keeping my options open and wonder if anyone else is at least thinking about getting a texturizer espeically if your hair becomes unmanageable? I know for sure that I'll never get my hair fully relaxed but I don't know if I won't say "no" to a texturizer. I still have until April 09 but I'm keeping Miss Jessie on speed dial.

No, no, no. Just remember the texturizer is upkeep though. When I transitioned I wore kinky twists for 2 and half months and a curly wig for about 6 months. I started doing twist -n- curl and then I BC'd this month. I feel so much better!

You can do it!

soon2b 08-28-2008 09:41 AM

I agree that you definitely have to decide what is best for you, but if ur trying to get away from chemicals then a tex is still the same concept. I think often when ppl finally go completely natural they have high expectations for what their hair will be. It may take a while for u to re-learn to do your hair and have a routine that works for you. ppl often think their hair isn't manageable and really they just have yet to learn how to manage it. It takes time and patience.

cysyca 08-28-2008 11:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Lillu (Post 698894)
Hi cycyca!

I think all all transitioners want to believe 100% that we will love our hair when it is fully natural, and that the end goal is healthy, natural hair... but in reality we also want our hair to a) look good and b) be manageable in our daily life!

I have asked myself the same question lots of times since i started transitioning... what if i cant deal with my hair, its so thick and huge even now, plus i couldnt cope with it when it was natural before. What if it looks awful and feels terrible... what if i can never use a hairbrush ever again? If this is the case I know for a fact I will be straight down the hairdressers for some sort of help... i'm not too sure what a texturiser actually is but if it is something not as hardcore as a relaxer then I would be well up for it. I would never say it makes u a traitor, and if it does, then honey we can be 'traitors' together!! :wink:

HTH xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

p.s. curlee1, i remember the deadly knots... *shudder* i had a few of those cut out in my natural youth!!!

You hit the spot! That's exactly what I mean but I'll be patient and wait to see what happens in 09. Thanks for the encouragement and the traitors' club.:toothy7:

cysyca 08-28-2008 11:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Mo_Gemini22 (Post 699238)
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Originally Posted by cysyca (Post 698562)
:sad8: I'm keeping my options open and wonder if anyone else is at least thinking about getting a texturizer espeically if your hair becomes unmanageable? I know for sure that I'll never get my hair fully relaxed but I don't know if I won't say "no" to a texturizer. I still have until April 09 but I'm keeping Miss Jessie on speed dial.

No, no, no. Just remember the texturizer is upkeep though. When I transitioned I wore kinky twists for 2 and half months and a curly wig for about 6 months. I started doing twist -n- curl and then I BC'd this month. I feel so much better!

You can do it!

You're so kind and thank you. I'll need support when I finally go for my BC in April 09 and I'll probably feel better. Also, congratulations on your BC!

cysyca 08-28-2008 11:20 AM

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Originally Posted by soon2b (Post 699977)
I agree that you definitely have to decide what is best for you, but if ur trying to get away from chemicals then a tex is still the same concept. I think often when ppl finally go completely natural they have high expectations for what their hair will be. It may take a while for u to re-learn to do your hair and have a routine that works for you. ppl often think their hair isn't manageable and really they just have yet to learn how to manage it. It takes time and patience.

Yes I agree it takes time and patience and this will be a challenge for me because my hair has not been natural in ** years. On the positive side, I won't be bored and I'll always have NC to go to when I have a bad hair day. Thank you.

Lillu 08-29-2008 05:46 AM

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Originally Posted by cysyca (Post 700130)
traitors' club.

:laughing6: :headbang:

Cant wait til April 09 and our BC!!!

*whispers*... but on the other hand, I am so scared that after I do it I will hate my hair and then I'll have cut off my lovely long hair for NOTHING. :oops:

cysyca 08-30-2008 05:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Lillu (Post 701183)
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Originally Posted by cysyca (Post 700130)
traitors' club.

:laughing6: :headbang:

Cant wait til April 09 and our BC!!!

*whispers*... but on the other hand, I am so scared that after I do it I will hate my hair and then I'll have cut off my lovely long hair for NOTHING. :oops:

You're the greatest:wink:. And I'm also scared because this is my first BC. We have to continue to support each other, thank you. BC April 09 here we come.:laughing7:

*whispers*...same here and my hair isn't even damaged, I'm just tired of the straight look.

Lillu 09-03-2008 04:49 AM

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Originally Posted by cysyca (Post 703335)
And I'm also scared because this is my first BC.

Mine too!! I've had BSL hair since 2001, and knowing it will takes donkeys years to grow my natural hair to that length, especially as it shrinks SO much, is so depressing! I am really scared also that my hair will grow and grow but just shrink more and more, so it will NEVER be long!!!!! What will i do then? I'd HAVE to get a texturiser or something... arrrrgh!

Oh wow u r so brave to transition even though your hair is healthy!!! That is wonderful! I decided i had to as my hair broke off and i lost a good 3 inches overnight... that scared me to death and i was scared it would all break off so i decided to stop relaxing. Having said that though since i started DTing and taking seriously good care of my hair for the transition, my relaxed hair has never looked better and is pretty amazing... no breakage whatsoever so far (touch wood). So... sometimes i think why am i bothering!! If my natural hair wasnt getting so curly and pretty i would be straight back to the relaxer if im honest!! Oh god am i going straight to Transitioner Traitors Hell for saying that arent i!

cysyca 09-03-2008 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Lillu (Post 706604)
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Originally Posted by cysyca (Post 703335)
And I'm also scared because this is my first BC.

Mine too!! I've had BSL hair since 2001, and knowing it will takes donkeys years to grow my natural hair to that length, especially as it shrinks SO much, is so depressing! I am really scared also that my hair will grow and grow but just shrink more and more, so it will NEVER be long!!!!! What will i do then? I'd HAVE to get a texturiser or something... arrrrgh!

It sounds like your hair is healthy without any chemicals so do U really think its wise to put anything including a tex in your hair? I bet your hair is just beautiful, share pics.

Lillu 09-08-2008 12:42 PM

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Originally Posted by cysyca (Post 707322)
It sounds like your hair is healthy without any chemicals so do U really think its wise to put anything including a tex in your hair? I bet your hair is just beautiful, share pics.

Aw thank you! My hair is hopefully healthy, i know it is well strong and does what it wants, so im hoping that is a good sign of healthy hair! I am too embarrassed to post pics... maybe around our BC time i will get up the nerve!!! xxx

Lillu 09-08-2008 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by cysyca (Post 707322)
It sounds like your hair is healthy without any chemicals so do U really think its wise to put anything including a tex in your hair? I bet your hair is just beautiful, share pics.

Aw thank you! My hair is hopefully healthy, i know it is well strong and does what it wants, so im hoping that is a good sign of healthy hair! I am too embarrassed to post pics... maybe around our BC time i will get up the nerve!!! xxx

cysyca 09-10-2008 04:32 PM

We Are BC Sistas!
 
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Originally Posted by Lillu (Post 712741)
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Originally Posted by cysyca (Post 707322)
It sounds like your hair is healthy without any chemicals so do U really think its wise to put anything including a tex in your hair? I bet your hair is just beautiful, share pics.

Aw thank you! My hair is hopefully healthy, i know it is well strong and does what it wants, so im hoping that is a good sign of healthy hair! I am too embarrassed to post pics... maybe around our BC time i will get up the nerve!!! xxx

Lillu,

Now we are confirmed BC sistas and I'll wait until our BC in April. We can do it! and thanks for keeping me going.
Cyn :nike:

isa 09-15-2008 12:25 PM

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isa 09-15-2008 12:28 PM

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