how do i cope with the temptations?

I am so torn by this mane of mine...

I have almost 3 inches of growth and it just feels soooooooo lovely. I am so tempted to just chop all the relaxed ends off. But I know I would look horrible with short hair. I have a round face with big plump cheeks. I smile when I say hello and thats not by choice...lol.

On the other hand, some of my family keep asking when I'm going to get a 'touch up' on my roots. One has even offered to pay for it. And I must admit on my very frequent bad hair days I am very tempted to accept that offer.

I was hoping one of you larvely ladies could tell me how you coped with letting go of your relaxed hair. And how you wore/wear it during the transition period.

My hair is long and pretty. I find that I'm bargaining with myself not to cut my ends after reaching my grow out goal since my relaxed ends are more wavy than straight anyway.

sigh......I'm torn in between three options...chop now or chop later or chop at all?











Oh I feel you girl, I feel you!!

I'm so tempted to bc it's ridic, but I know I'm not going to be happy with my length if I do. So I'm determined to grow it out for as long as necessary to get what I feel is enough length. (..still have yet to decide what that is..)

Honestly though, I've been very lazy about styling my hair. In the first few months it's been in a ponytail mostly. But now I'm learning the ways of the rollerset and braidout to help my hair look somewhat presentable. Especially to keep my mom from trying to convince me that blowing out and flat-ironing my hair won't ruin the curl texture.
I haven't experienced much breakage luckily, so the longer I can hold out on the BC, the better. I like having long hair better than short hair but could I deal with a short cut? Sure!

By the way you describe your face though, you sound like you'd look adorable with a short cut! But ultimately you have to make that decision.
Good luck!
Fotki!
Last relaxer: Feb. 2008
Big Chop:
Jan. 2009
By the way you describe your face though, you sound like you'd look adorable with a short cut! But ultimately you have to make that decision.
Good luck!
Originally Posted by mixeded
Lol thanks. I had my hair short once before and it grew out quickly (Thank God). I was not feeling that look. I kept it in braids then but my hair is very 'live' and by two weeks my braids looked like they were in for 3 months or more. It was really bad and my mom would not let me take them out.

I feel you on the lazy part. The ponytail has become my favorite style. I recently bought some instant weaves - well my mom bought them. Never in a million years did I think I would ever wear them. I just feel likes it's false advertising, you know? But it saves me 30 mins of frustration in the morning.

What kind of products do you use to manage both textures?











I was hoping one of you larvely ladies could tell me how you coped with letting go of your relaxed hair. And how you wore/wear it during the transition period.
sigh......I'm torn in between three options...chop now or chop later or chop at all?

I understand and feel your pain. I'm also transitioning and the only way I'm coping is by wearing braids. I'm trying my best to BC later (in April) but it's tough especially when you see so many beautiful NC sistas. The best tips I can give you are: continue to visit NC, research and read the ingredients you put in your hair, and know that whatever decision you make about your hair, it's your decision and be proud of it!
Live For Today!
What kind of products do you use to manage both textures?
Originally Posted by bahama-mama
I try to keep my hair as moisturized as possible. Conditioner washing has become an almost daily routine for me, which is a far cry from the lack of moisture that came with using sulfate shampoos every week. Suave naturals are good for that.
Deep conditioning is your friend! I like Jessicurl's weekly DT conditioner.
As far as leave-ins go, I mostly use KCKT and Giovanni Direct, but I really really really want to try Qhemet products and experiment with butters and thicker leave-ins.

Now if only I could stop playing in my hair I'd be in good shape.
Fotki!
Last relaxer: Feb. 2008
Big Chop:
Jan. 2009
I feel you all, girls!
I have 2.5 inches of glorious new growth and I'm dying to cut all the straight part off, but the problem is that I already have shorte hair! Like boy short, the Rihanna cut. If I cut all the straight part e keep my 2 1/2 inches of natural hair my husband will kill me and I'm almost sure it will be too short and I'll hate the length. I have big ears so I need a little hair to cover them, lol.
Well, I think I wont be cutting right now, but I'm cutting around one inch every month. I think by the end of the year it will be all natural and I'll be a free woman again, but I know it's gonna be soooo hard not to think about chopping it all off every day!
XOXO
Ana
The only person that will know when to BC is you. I know exactly what you're talking about because I used to be so tempted to grab scissors and just get rid of all the relaxed ends once and for all. I finally couldn't take it any more after 10 months, but boy was it hard waiting that long. I say if you feel ready go for it! If somebody tries to tempt you just think of the reasons why you don't want to put that chemical in your hair anymore. Or think to yourself, if you change your mind you gotta start alll over again.

Good luck to you on whatever you decide to do!
- Maria

Big Chop: 9/23/07
Relaxer free for almost 5 years!

Had to braid my hair again to avoid the temptation of BCing before April and I attempted the braid out but it came out awful.
Live For Today!
Had to braid my hair again to avoid the temptation of BCing before April and I attempted the braid out but it came out awful.
Originally Posted by cysyca
I attempted a braid out last year when I was transitioning and it looked a hot mess LOL so don't feel bad if you can't master it either.
- Maria

Big Chop: 9/23/07
Relaxer free for almost 5 years!

Had to braid my hair again to avoid the temptation of BCing before April and I attempted the braid out but it came out awful.
Originally Posted by cysyca
Braid outs never really worked for me. I always end up looking 'shocked' by high noon . With a new year of uni starting in two weeks I'm seriously thinking of twisting my hair [with the extensions]. I think I could keep those in for 3 weeks. Who am I kidding? 2 weeks is a stretch for me...lol.











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