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Old 01-03-2009, 09:11 AM   #1
 
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Default My DAMAGED Nappy(?)/Relaxed(?) Hair.

Okay, yes I Have made a lot of mistakes with my hair in the past, but this was the worst. I was getting tired of my nappy hair, so I decided to try and relax it myself. The relaxer burnt my scalp and left it all flaky. In the end, my hair wer'nt even straight, the back of my hair looked unrelaxed (because I had to wash it out quickly because it was burining). So I am left with too different textures of hair at the front and back.Because I was not satified with the back of my hair, I decided to by another relaxer the next day, to try and relax the back again. It burnt my hair, in the end still did not look relaxed.
I have been SIX months without a relaxer, and my hair does not looked relaxed, it looks like it has gone back to the way it used to look before attempted to relax it. It is very damaged and the back of my hair is cutting rapidly short. The back of my hair(from my ears downwards) is more coily and damaged than the front.
Does this mean that my hair has gone back to natural or do I have to chop it all off(which I'll hate to do, i'm a teen bare with me.)??
I really want natural healthy hair. Please help me.
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Old 01-03-2009, 01:11 PM   #2
 
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Okay, yes I Have made a lot of mistakes with my hair in the past, but this was the worst. I was getting tired of my nappy hair, so I decided to try and relax it myself. The relaxer burnt my scalp and left it all flaky. In the end, my hair wer'nt even straight, the back of my hair looked unrelaxed (because I had to wash it out quickly because it was burining). So I am left with too different textures of hair at the front and back.Because I was not satified with the back of my hair, I decided to by another relaxer the next day, to try and relax the back again. It burnt my hair, in the end still did not look relaxed.
I have been SIX months without a relaxer, and my hair does not looked relaxed, it looks like it has gone back to the way it used to look before attempted to relax it. It is very damaged and the back of my hair is cutting rapidly short. The back of my hair(from my ears downwards) is more coily and damaged than the front.
Does this mean that my hair has gone back to natural or do I have to chop it all off(which I'll hate to do, i'm a teen bare with me.)??
I really want natural healthy hair. Please help me.
Thanks.
Hey SweetBlackBerry

What do you mean by, "I was getting tired of my nappy hair"? Were you natural before the relaxer that you tried yourself or were you overdue for a touchup?

Anywho, in the six months that you've been transitioning, letting your relaxer grow out, have you trimmed or cut off the remaining relaxed ends? I'm no expert, but I believe six months should be enough time for you to grow out much of the relaxed hair in the back and any scab hairs. I think that unless you've been flat ironing or there may be any other damage (such as heat damage) your texture in the back might be natural by now, the way it is meant to be. I have at least 3 different types of curl patterns on my head and the back is much tighter, coily, and looks nothing like the hair on the majority of my head. It is not damaged, just different. Perhaps you're the same? If the back is not damaged, cutting it all off won't make it grow back a different texture.

By, "the back of my hair is cutting rapidly short" do you mean its breaking or splitting? If you still have your old damaged relaxed ends that may have split, that split can travel all the way up the shaft and perhaps damage your new growth. If you haven't trimmed or cut off your old ends, maybe doing this could help.

I'm not recommending that you do anything in particular, as I'm not out to push you to make any decision that you'd later regret, but maybe starting fresh! You have six months of new growth, maybe getting rid of all the relaxed ends and starting a daily/weekly hair care routine may help to gain a healthy scalp and healthy hair.

If you WERE natural before trying to relaxer and what you wanted were looser curls as opposed to the natural texture you're describing, perhaps a texturizer may hair to achieve that. I've never had one myself so I have no tips but I will encourage you to do research, ask questions, and have it done by a professional if you choose that path. Note that by having texturizer, you will be chemically changing your hair and you won't be 'natural' per se (I've learned there are different definitions of natural *shrugs*). I think you should start your research on these options here on this site. You will find a lot of ladies willing to help you out and links to other sites that may help, too. Post a photo if you can... I can try to help and I'm sure there are others who will, as well. If you have questions ASK!

Hope that helps... Welcome and Good luck!!
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Old 01-03-2009, 01:34 PM   #3
 
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It's possible that your hair does not "look" relaxed, but it is. A lot of people's hair (mine included) does not relax bone-straight. When I used to relax my hair, once the chemical was rinse out, my hair would still have some curl definition. However, this does not a natural make.

If your hair is damaged, then the relaxer definitely "took" to your hair. Unfortunately, if you want to go back to being natural and having healthy hair, you have to transition and eventually BC to cut all of the relaxed and damaged hair off. Trust me that once your new growth starts coming in, you'll definitely be able to see where your damaged hair ends and your healthy hair begins.

Sorry for your mishap, but just remember: IT'S JUST HAIR! And it will grow back and grow in healthy. It's just up to you to maintain that health.
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Thank you very much for the message. I just choped of my relaxed ends a few minutes ago (I wasnt aware my new growth wasn't that short) Its feels real good and fresh! I don't think the back of my hair was damged, it just turned curly again because my new growth was the same texture as the back of my hair. Yes, I had been flap ironing my hair once a week, I think that is where I made all the damage.
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