Transitioners support thread

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Sosel, my hair is shoulder length. As soon as I can, I will post some pictures. I live alone and all of the pictures I have include others in the photos. I've got to figure out a way...

Your hair looks wonderful. I hope I am worrying for nothing.
Hello everyone,

I am a long term transitioner(18 mos) and anticipate to BC before my next summer weave install in June. I haven't been consistent with this choice to BC in 2010 but know my hair will thank me later. The best advice given to me was treat my hair as it were completely natural and to accept that no two heads are alike. Sometimes as transitioners we may get caught up on someone else's texture instead of our own and then set unreasonable expectations upon our hair. Embrace your own and be your own person. I love my hair. God made this texture just for me and He never makes mistakes.
I went to my brother's new house and his reaction was !!! He said that my natural hair is really beautiful.

So... I continue ! I finished my 1st month of BC.

I am looking for a good conditioner. Do you have some to advice? Do not forget that I am in Paris and some products are hard to find here. The more common are :

-Elsève,
-Kérastase,
-Revlon,
-L'Oréal Pro.

But, I can find Jessicurl and some US products...
I like Jessicurl Weekly Deep Conditioning Treatment. I got the Citrus Lavender scent. It feels really nice on my hair.

I thought the Kinky-Curly Come Clean Moisturizing Shampoo would be nice, but it did not work for me AT ALL. It was the opposite of moisturizing! My hair is still like 92% relaxed. I just decided no more relaxers in February, so my hair is still very straight and that stuff stripped my hair of all moisture. I can't imagine how jacked up my hair would be if I had more natural hair. I'm sure I wouldn't be able to comb it. I wish I could send that crap right back!
I like http://longnaturalhair.blogspot.com/, especially because she started transitioning a month before I did. She's transitioning out of texlaxed hair and I'm transitioning out a relaxer (bone straight).

Originally Posted by E.B.
Thanks for the shout out!!! I just joined here after seeing some traffic to my blog coming from this page

Whimsy of LHCF just did the BC after over 24 months of transitioning. Her hair is gawgeous! LOL

Here is her blog link with pictures:

http://longnaturalhair.blogspot.com/
Originally Posted by mariag002
Thanks!!


WOW, her hair looks great!
I've been so impatient with my hair lately. I think this is the hardest part...waiting.

This is month three since my last relaxer and I'm now able to pull it back into a small pony tail. I want to try different products, but I really won't know if they work until I have enough new growth or BC. Ugh
Originally Posted by intransition...again
Thanks!! I know exactly how you're feeling. What's ur current status?
I'm transitioning and I'm almost 6 months post relaxer and I don't plan on relaxing or using heat. I did use heat back in January, but this was before I decided to transition. However my problem is, is that I attend a lot of fashion events and I really don't want to resort to relaxing or heat.

When my hair was relaxed, I had grown out my layers and my hair was all one length with thick bangs. It looked cute then, but it definitely doesn't look cute now. Should I get layers cut into it by a professional or just leave it and not wear my hair out at these events? My fear is that the hair dresser will want to use heat. And what hairstyle should I tell them?

I should also note that my hair is very damaged and still recovering from a bad dye job.
Currently at Shoulder Length 3C/4A (I think)
Transitioning my hair after a very bad dye job that ruined my hair. I went from MBL to SL in a matter of months! 10 months post.
My Fotki
^

you can rock curly styles at fashion events and look fierce. I do.

Can you do your hair yourself? How do braidouts look on you? Maybe you can do a curly braidout and wear it wild and big? or pinned to one side kinda "edgy" like.

Straight hair doesn't even have to be an option.

Maybe a twistout formed into a mowhawk or just a plain old wavy twistout?
Or if all else fails, pull all your hair to one side and make a chic bun and accessorize your ass off.

If you're goin to the stylist, try a straw set or a spiral rod set. that uses heat, but indirect heat of a hooded dryer. and you can form those curls into any funky style u want.

Good luck.
Thanks for the suggestions.

I do wear my hair in braidouts, but my hair is all one length and it doesn't look good. I want to cut layers into it, so that when I do wear my hair out at these events, it will be big and wild but with shape to it.
Currently at Shoulder Length 3C/4A (I think)
Transitioning my hair after a very bad dye job that ruined my hair. I went from MBL to SL in a matter of months! 10 months post.
My Fotki
Somebody help me. I am at the point of going to the store and buying a perm. I havent permed my hair since February 2009. So its been a year and my hair is looking horrid. I tried brading it to protect it but that only took out tons of my hair. Now my hair is feeling so thin and broken off. I looked at many youtube videos and read many of the postings about caring for transitioning hair. I tried many products and nothing seems to soften my 4b (I think) hair. I wish I was bold enough to just chop it all off. I dont because I dont think i would look good with short hair. Enough complaining. Can someone tell me what I can use to make hard to manage hair soft and manageable.
Any beauticians in the brooklyn NY area?
Originally Posted by eveleeta
Don't relax your hair!!! You will likely regret it after transitioning for so long. I'm sorry to hear that the braids pulled your hair out. Either they were too tight, were in for too long, or your own hair wasn't getting enough moisture. Whatever the case may be, there's nothing you can do about the past. You can only fix it so your tomorrow is better and a relaxer is not the way. I'm thinking that your hair is so damaged because it is dry, so if you take care of the dryness, your hair will begin to become healthier. My first suggestion is for you to get your ends trimmed. Removing damaged/split ends will help to keep the rest of your hair from splitting. My next suggestion is to deep condition once a week for three weeks out of the month and then to do a hot oil treatment the fourth week of the month. Since I am still transitioning, I don't use the completely natural products. I've been using Mizani hot oil treatment (I bought it at Wal Mart) and Creme of Nature conditioner (wrap your hair in a plastic grocery bag and sit under the dryer with the conditioner on your hair for at least 20 minutes). I wash my hair with a moisturizing and detangling shampoo (Creme of Nature), carefully detangle in the shower, and then deep condition. After I rinse out the conditioner, I use a leave in conditioner (either the Creme of Nature or Infusium 23 or a mixture of the two with a little water in a spray bottle). I detangle only when my hair is completely saturated with conditioner. Be sure to detangle from the ends to the roots, being extra careful not to tug on your hair. If your hair is totally wet, the comb should pull through fairly easily. Only use a wide tooth comb (anything else could pull your hair out). Seal in the moisture that you've applied with extra virgin olive oil or any oil of your choice. This should definitely help your hair to stay moisturized. What kind of protective styles are you currently wearing? If there is any style that causes you to manipulate your hair a lot or puts any kind of pull on your hair, stop wearing that style. With your hair already being so fragile, this only hurts it and causes more damage. I recommend wearing buns and twists or braids using only your hair (no weaves). If you opt for a bun, use only the Goody Ouchless bands, as they won't pull your hair out. Also, let your hair air dry whenever possible. Your hair may not be as smooth as you want it, but I would just avoid heat if I were you (except for when you're under the dryer deep conditioning). I'm sorry if this seems like a WHOLE LOT of advice and it's kind of all over the place, but I really don't want you to fall off of the wagon. Sorry I can't help you with the beautician question (I'm in Houston), but hopefully some of this other babble helped. Good luck!
So..I'm kinda new to this transitioning stuff...*totally oblivious*..haven't used a relaxer + heat in 2 months though,its been buns & bradin' all the way cx...but I'm curious what should I be concentrating on during this transition period?(like what products to use to make sure *or somewhere near that* that new growth looks healthy and moisturized,etc.)

(hair is shoulder length and 3a-3b type btw)



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Last edited by Shroomz; 04-01-2010 at 04:33 AM. Reason: forgot some points xc
I have been transitioning for 16 months approx (1 year, 4 months)!!! How long have you been transitioning? I am gettting a little frustrated - patience is not my best quality . Did you get impatient? How did u cope? Anad what did you use on your hair through your transitioning journey? xxx

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I have been transitioning for 16 months approx (1 year, 4 months)!!! How long have you been transitioning? I am gettting a little frustrated - patience is not my best quality . Did you get impatient? How did u cope? Anad what did you use on your hair through your transitioning journey? xxx

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Originally Posted by spiralz xox
I have been transitioning for just over a year now and I don't feel like I am having too many problems anymore For me it seems to get easier the longer I transition... I must admit, I think I was totally obsessed for the first 8-10months but now I am just going with the flow. The only thing I find difficult is going to the gym and getting my head sweaty

Most days I bun my hair and wear my phony ponytail, but that is looking tired now so I have started curlforming again I use the Aussie Moist range and SheaButter/ Coconut Oil to moisturise, but want to try start trying products with less harsh chemicals



I've been transitioning for only 4 months now and yesterday, I wanted to texlax. I haven't really had a hard time styling my hair because I keep it in buns but yesterday I noticed the different curl patterns my hair seem to have and I got discouraged. My coils are really tight and tiny on the side and in the top, where my hair grows the thickest and the fastest, appears to have more looser, wavier curls. I started thinking to myself: "How stupid would that look," and it really made me rethink about going natural.

I'm going to endure because I've gotten this far and I want healthier hair but its becoming hard to stay inspired. Even with looking at others' pictures, its hard because you think or want your hair to turn out one way but it will essentially do what it wants. As oppose to when I was perm I was to manipulate my hair to make it do what I wanted.

Are there any ladies have different types of curls in their head and how do you deal with this.
Thanks for writing this!! I was here writing notes feverishly. Is there a basic list somewhere on this site of the things that I need while transitioning? What kind of brush, comb, etc? Also, are cotton headbands bad for the hairline?
hello all .im new to this thread and ive been lurking and reading about other natural hairs out there..i have been transitioning for almost 6 yrs now and it wasnt something that i planned on doing , it just sorta happened..so u can tell i didnt really research on how to take care of natural hair..i started researching becuz i really wanted to lay off the heat for the summer and do some cute curly styles instead..im sorry to say but i never did the BC cuz i didnt really knw..but i live in the nyc area and my regimen when i first started out was braids, braids braids, didnt really put too much heat.. then about 4 yrs ago i started to wash and blowdry/flatiron and i would go to dominincans since then..my hair grew quite long and i would always use wateva products they would use, cuz i didnt really knw..i would grease once in a while and wrap every nite..around 08' i notice my hair wasnt as thick and full as before..it would come and go since then and i started to roller set during my wash..i would wash and set evry 2 weeks..and mosturize when i remmebr..and also trim my ends soo as u can see, i never really had a regimen..i dont really want to do BC but is it really necessary to do it?..cuz i have big cheeks and short hair really does not look rite wit me..i was hopin to get some stylin tips..im willin to switch up my hair regimen..cuz im still puttin heat in my hair and im kinda tired of it..i would think of doin something wit it but never attempt to do it and readin some of the posts here kinda give me the motivation and the ability to start treatin my hair wit more care..since then, i started usin more natural products and luv the way it makes my hair feels!

Last edited by ketket; 04-19-2010 at 11:38 AM.
I been transitioning since january( not very long I know) but I really want to BC already. I have about two to three inches of new growth.. can anyone show me how long that actually is. My hair has always been very long and I am not sure how short hair will fit me. I know I have the option of wearing kinky twists or some other braiding style with extentions until I like my length but my mother says my hair will grow slower If i Bc and gets braids again.. is this true?
thats a long time compared to alot of people (i.e. ME! haha) I'm not sure about the last question you asked, so I can't answer that for sure. But, i'm really eager to do the BC as well and i've only been transitioning for *jsahdhavdf* days/weeks/months/years. (it's not been long) I'm thinking ill BC it in the next four months. When I do, ill probably just rock it like that!! Tell me what you end up doing and how it works out!
Good question.
I've been wondering that myself.
hello all .im new to this thread and ive been lurking and reading about other natural hairs out there..i have been transitioning for almost 6 yrs now and it wasnt something that i planned on doing , it just sorta happened..so u can tell i didnt really research on how to take care of natural hair..i started researching becuz i really wanted to lay off the heat for the summer and do some cute curly styles instead..im sorry to say but i never did the BC cuz i didnt really knw..but i live in the nyc area and my regimen when i first started out was braids, braids braids, didnt really put too much heat.. then about 4 yrs ago i started to wash and blowdry/flatiron and i would go to dominincans since then..my hair grew quite long and i would always use wateva products they would use, cuz i didnt really knw..i would grease once in a while and wrap every nite..around 08' i notice my hair wasnt as thick and full as before..it would come and go since then and i started to roller set during my wash..i would wash and set evry 2 weeks..and mosturize when i remmebr..and also trim my ends soo as u can see, i never really had a regimen..i dont really want to do BC but is it really necessary to do it?..cuz i have big cheeks and short hair really does not look rite wit me..i was hopin to get some stylin tips..im willin to switch up my hair regimen..cuz im still puttin heat in my hair and im kinda tired of it..i would think of doin something wit it but never attempt to do it and readin some of the posts here kinda give me the motivation and the ability to start treatin my hair wit more care..since then, i started usin more natural products and luv the way it makes my hair feels!
Originally Posted by ketket
I think I'm confused if you have been transitioning for 6 years straight. Do you mean you relaxed and had to start over with transitioning? Cause unless you had really long hair you should have lots of new growth by now so that you could cut off your relaxed ends and be fully natural-which would mean you were no longer transitioning.
Texture: Medium-Coarse, Porosity: Low, Elasticity: Normal (Live Curly Live Free Hair Analysis)
i never relaxed my hair after i started transitioning..yes i had alot of new growth and within the 6 yrs ive had haircuts and trims a few times..but ive never really had a BC the way u guys mention on ur posts..when i wash my hair and it goes to its natural texture, i dont really have any relaxed ends.so im guessin that after all the years of gettin haircuts/trims that i mightve cut all of dem off....once again, i didnt really have a regimen like u guys and i still dont and it wasnt something that i researched or had planned to do..

Last edited by ketket; 04-20-2010 at 07:39 PM.
I'm new to transitioning. I think I had my relaxer about a month ago. I plan to go to South Korea for 8 weeks during the summer and I wanna look good, keep my hair healthy and unrelaxed while enjoying my time over there. Is getting a full sew in a good idea or will it hurt my hair more than help it?

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