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And today it's my 6 month anniversary (:
And today it's my 6 month anniversary (:
Originally Posted by LisaGurl
Congrats LisaGurl

This is where I am at 10 months.. Its a shame I am just discovering Aussie Moist to help with my tangles.. This stuff just melts my NG and when I co-wash with it I can finger comb my hair never been able to do that ever.
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Last edited by Letha; 10-24-2010 at 11:47 AM.
Hi, everyone I just started transitioning. I realized that I just want to stop putting chemicals in my hair. I've been getting relaxers since I was 2 years old. I'm officially two months in.
I dunno if this is exactly the right place for noobs, but giving this a shot.

I haven't had a relaxer in a few months, and just decided that I want to give it a rest, to give my hair time to repair it's sad self and get stronger, since it's been breaking a lot.

I've been checking out the net and reading some interesting things, and some of it sounds pretty good as far as hair care, but I have a few questions:

1. How do you know exactly what type of hair you even have? A studied quite a few (lots) of strands of my hair that break off when I comb it, and they all look different to me. I'm pretty sure I'm in the 3/4 categories, but I dunno specifics. I actually lay the strands out on the table next to each other to look at them. Some of them have a "s" shaped curl at the root end, others seem like they have that "z" shape, and others are some weird I don't know what.
I saw this: "Hair types - PLEASE NOTE that you won't know your hair type until your relaxed hair or other chemical is completely cut"

I'm not cutting my hair. Are there any other methods of identifying your hair type(s)?


2. I keep hearing people say that if you get your hair relaxed usually, but you stop getting it relax, then all your hair breaks off. Why?? Does anyone know of any scientific info to explain this? I would like to know specifically (because I'm nerdish) why someone's hair would come out if they didn't put the chemicals on it.

3. I think I just read somewhere that using stuff with proteins was not good for your hair? Did I read that right?? I can't even find it anymore...
I dunno if this is exactly the right place for noobs, but giving this a shot.

I haven't had a relaxer in a few months, and just decided that I want to give it a rest, to give my hair time to repair it's sad self and get stronger, since it's been breaking a lot.

I've been checking out the net and reading some interesting things, and some of it sounds pretty good as far as hair care, but I have a few questions:

1. How do you know exactly what type of hair you even have? A studied quite a few (lots) of strands of my hair that break off when I comb it, and they all look different to me. I'm pretty sure I'm in the 3/4 categories, but I dunno specifics. I actually lay the strands out on the table next to each other to look at them. Some of them have a "s" shaped curl at the root end, others seem like they have that "z" shape, and others are some weird I don't know what.
I saw this: "Hair types - PLEASE NOTE that you won't know your hair type until your relaxed hair or other chemical is completely cut"

I'm not cutting my hair. Are there any other methods of identifying your hair type(s)?


2. I keep hearing people say that if you get your hair relaxed usually, but you stop getting it relax, then all your hair breaks off. Why?? Does anyone know of any scientific info to explain this? I would like to know specifically (because I'm nerdish) why someone's hair would come out if they didn't put the chemicals on it.

3. I think I just read somewhere that using stuff with proteins was not good for your hair? Did I read that right?? I can't even find it anymore...
Originally Posted by SpookSquad

1. It is rare for anyone to have a single curl type in his/her entire head. Cutting the relaxed ends is the easiest way to see the curl pattern because the new growth shape can be deceptive when there isn't much of it. The problem is that the hair has to grow long enough to wrap around a few times, forming a curl. The weight of the hair disguises the true curl type too. Most of mine wasn't apparent until about 7 or 8 months.

2. Relaxed hair breaking off isn't scientific at all. The relaxed hair breaks when relaxer isn't reapplied, because people continue treating the entire head of hair as if it is completely relaxed. The hair at the line of demarcation is very fragile and when they continue styling as usual, it pops off. When people are transitioning, they take extra precautions that those who are relaxed don't necessarily have to take.

3. Using proteins is fine for some and not for others. You'll have to figure it out for yourself. If it leaves your hair in a far worse state and you don't see any benefit, quit using them.
Transitioning...
Last Relaxer: December 2009
Hair Texture: 3c/4a (after reading the posts, it seems subjective)
BC?:
Maybe December 2010

My Fotki
I'm veryy new to transitioning & I must say I'm seriously losing all hope. Transitioning is very time-consuming, and I'm having a hard time styling the two different textures of my hair! I only have a few inches of new growth so far, but my thick kinky roots isn't cooperating with my fine stick straight ends. So styling is a problem because I'm so use to straight hair now. I know I been damaging my hair, with the flat iron, and manipulation. I just want to embrace my natural hair texture...ANY HELP? I really don't want to turn back to relaxers because I miss my natural hair texture, but I'm certainly not missing the hardwork!

Last edited by cobiisoulful; 12-05-2010 at 09:47 AM.
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I'm veryy new to transitioning & I must say I'm seriously losing all hope. Transitioning is very time-consuming, and I'm having a hard time styling the two different textures of my hair! I only have a few inches of new growth so far, but my thick kinky roots isn't cooperating with my fine stick straight ends. So styling is a problem because I'm so use to straight hair now. I know I been damaging my hair, with the flat iron, and manipulation. I just want to embrace my natural hair texture...ANY HELP? I really don't want to turn back to relaxers because I miss my natural hair texture, but I'm certainly not missing the hardwork!
Originally Posted by cobiisoulful
Hi,

Please don't give up, it's really worth it. I think everyone goes through the phase you just described, so you're not alone. Have you already tried out some protective hair styles, like braids, cornrows, weave/wigs or anything else? During my 3rd - 6th month of transitioning I almost BC'd, because I couldn't stand the two different hair textures and I had way too much breakage cause I combed my hair way too often. So I tried some things. I tried wetting my hair every morning and then putting my hair in a ponytail or high/low bun, with my bangs out (wet of course, not flat ironed). I only detangle my hair once a week and I slick my hair back with a boar brush every day, while wet & moisturized. This worked out pretty well for me, but because it's freezing now, I decided to wet my hair in the evening before I go to sleep and then I slick it back into a bun, moisturize it quickly with some Bee Mine LBCM or EVOO and jojoba oil on top (then tie it into a satin bonnet), so the next morning I don't even need to brush my hair. You can also do braid-outs or clip-in extensions and put it into a long braid for a few days (you can see pics of that on my fotki). But try to avoid the flat-iron or blowdryer, because, the hair will break due to lack of moisture and your natural texture will get messed up permanently. If you keep the hair moisturized with a good moisturizer (which takes 10 minutes), it will become more and more manageable through the months, it amazed me.
These things aren't really time consuming, except my washing&detangling day (wednesday). So I hope you find something to create your own regimen.

Last edited by LisaGurl; 12-05-2010 at 12:38 PM.
My last relaxer was in late April of this year. For a while afterward I did the flat iron thing while debating what to do ie: big chop or transition. I decided to try & endure transitioning to gain some length of my natural hair before bc'ing and since October I have been doing the two strand twists with rods at the end. For me, it blends the two textures and gives me the curly look I like. I think I also finally have a product combo I like and I want to try & stick with in hopes of avoiding becoming a PJ.

Thankfully, I have my fab sister's help with the styling process as I have NO skills or unharrassed solo time (toddler) to do it on my own.

My main problem is maintaining the look for a wk. Even getting them to look nice for the 2nd day has been trying. I have tried pineappling (sp?) on a satin pillowcase which did not work. The extreme shrinkage and lack of curl despite all of my curl reviving efforts usually has me by day 3, pulling my hair back into a ponytail (my usual style from relaxed days). This requires undesired manipulation, partial detangling and tugging to have it look semi neat.

Is it possible to achieve a curly look that will last an entire wk with hair in that's in transition? Please don't say I have to retwist & re roll all my hair each night...I can not redo all those twists, much less do them neatly.
Also, it seems that I am spending much more time styling & doing my hair daily now that I am transitioning then when it was relaxed. Is this something that will lessen once my hair is all natural? I am hoping to spend less time worrying about my hair not more.
I'm veryy new to transitioning & I must say I'm seriously losing all hope. Transitioning is very time-consuming, and I'm having a hard time styling the two different textures of my hair! I only have a few inches of new growth so far, but my thick kinky roots isn't cooperating with my fine stick straight ends. So styling is a problem because I'm so use to straight hair now. I know I been damaging my hair, with the flat iron, and manipulation. I just want to embrace my natural hair texture...ANY HELP? I really don't want to turn back to relaxers because I miss my natural hair texture, but I'm certainly not missing the hardwork!
Originally Posted by cobiisoulful
Hi! I am also transitioning and understand what you are saying about the 2 textures. Try to find a style that fits you that combines both textures like a straw set or some type of curls. You want to treat all of your hair like it is natural rather than treating it all like it is relaxed! Or you can try some type of braids or twists to give you a break on combing your hair for a while!

Last Relaxer: July 10, 2010
Big Chop: July 20, 2011
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My last relaxer was in late April of this year. For a while afterward I did the flat iron thing while debating what to do ie: big chop or transition. I decided to try & endure transitioning to gain some length of my natural hair before bc'ing and since October I have been doing the two strand twists with rods at the end. For me, it blends the two textures and gives me the curly look I like. I think I also finally have a product combo I like and I want to try & stick with in hopes of avoiding becoming a PJ.

Thankfully, I have my fab sister's help with the styling process as I have NO skills or unharrassed solo time (toddler) to do it on my own.

My main problem is maintaining the look for a wk. Even getting them to look nice for the 2nd day has been trying. I have tried pineappling (sp?) on a satin pillowcase which did not work. The extreme shrinkage and lack of curl despite all of my curl reviving efforts usually has me by day 3, pulling my hair back into a ponytail (my usual style from relaxed days). This requires undesired manipulation, partial detangling and tugging to have it look semi neat.

Is it possible to achieve a curly look that will last an entire wk with hair in that's in transition? Please don't say I have to retwist & re roll all my hair each night...I can not redo all those twists, much less do them neatly.
Also, it seems that I am spending much more time styling & doing my hair daily now that I am transitioning then when it was relaxed. Is this something that will lessen once my hair is all natural? I am hoping to spend less time worrying about my hair not more.
Originally Posted by EmbracingMe
I've only been transitioning for 4 months but when I did twist and curls (I had no idea the style had a name until I started to tranisition) on my relaxed hair I would apply a little gel and re-twist or braid in larger braids( started with 8+ then rebraid in to 4) to help keep the curl pattern then either pull back into a messy ponytail or pin-up when it started to look a hot mess. This would get me thru the week. Hope this helps
hello, maria i've had my hair relaxed since i was like three. basically all my life and never really had a problem with it because my hair grows pretty fast and ive always had it really long, but recently i have put so many chemicals in my hair that its just not healthy. i have also noticed that relaxers dont straighten my hair at all they just loosen my curl pattern; in a nutshell, i just dont know what to expect from going natural. do you have any advice?
And today it's my 6 month anniversary (:
Originally Posted by LisaGurl
Congrats LisaGurl

This is where I am at 10 months.. Its a shame I am just discovering Aussie Moist to help with my tangles.. This stuff just melts my NG and when I co-wash with it I can finger comb my hair never been able to do that ever.
Originally Posted by Letha
O so hope I last that long...I almost caved...I am 3 months in.....and I am loosing it.
I so feel you pain...I hope I can make it at least till august....pray for me....
I'm getting close to my four month mark and I'm stuggling soooooo HARD! I've got about 2, 2 1/2 inches of new growth and its so different from my curent curls. With a relaxer my curls were a wild combination of 3a to 3b. But now letting my roots grow, my curls are so small and TIGHT! I can tell ya now, I'm definitely looking at some cork screw 3c curls coming in. Perfect celeb example, Jasika Nicole. My natural ringlets look exactly like that, and I'm TERRIFIED!

I'm not sure if this is gonna work!
Texturizer
Co-wash: Desert Essence Jojoba Body Boosting/CJDF
Conditioner: Aubrey Organics White Camellia
DT: Aubrey Organics GPB
Leave-In: Kinky Curly Knot Today
Styler: Kinky Curly Curling Custard
Oils: Grapeseed, Apricot Kernel, Avocado, Coconut
First real sign of new growth! WoW! 4 months in and is that a 3c baby curl i see coming in??

http://i207.photobucket.com/albums/b.../Picture16.jpg

eek!!

excited but nervous!
Texturizer
Co-wash: Desert Essence Jojoba Body Boosting/CJDF
Conditioner: Aubrey Organics White Camellia
DT: Aubrey Organics GPB
Leave-In: Kinky Curly Knot Today
Styler: Kinky Curly Curling Custard
Oils: Grapeseed, Apricot Kernel, Avocado, Coconut
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I'm getting close to my four month mark and I'm stuggling soooooo HARD! I've got about 2, 2 1/2 inches of new growth and its so different from my curent curls. With a relaxer my curls were a wild combination of 3a to 3b. But now letting my roots grow, my curls are so small and TIGHT! I can tell ya now, I'm definitely looking at some cork screw 3c curls coming in. Perfect celeb example, Jasika Nicole. My natural ringlets look exactly like that, and I'm TERRIFIED!

I'm not sure if this is gonna work!
Originally Posted by BeMore
Yeah, you're right. Month 4 was also very tough for me (also month 6 and 9, but 4 was the worst). Are you struggling with detangling or sth else? Because that was an extreme problem for me (not anymore since I discovered BTMS and cetyl alcohol). But are you terrified because you expected a looser curl or just because you're so excited/terrified to BC? Jasika Nicole's hair is so cute, imo
Detangling actually has been pretty easy so far. However, getting somewhat harder as my new growth comes in more and more. And yes, definitely was hoping for a looser curl, not that i mind the curls that are coming in. I'm just so scared that my hair is going to grow every direction but down like i'm used to lolol. And yes, I'm dreading the big chop! I've always had long hair and alot of it. So, I'm definitely considering holding off as long as possible on my BC, at least till the new growth has plenty of hang time.
Texturizer
Co-wash: Desert Essence Jojoba Body Boosting/CJDF
Conditioner: Aubrey Organics White Camellia
DT: Aubrey Organics GPB
Leave-In: Kinky Curly Knot Today
Styler: Kinky Curly Curling Custard
Oils: Grapeseed, Apricot Kernel, Avocado, Coconut
My hair just will NOT do what I want! It was working before but now these past 2 weeks...its like its fighting me!!!

I'm sooo tempted to just BC...but i really want more new growth.

I've been doing bantu knots, twists outs, braids outs, rod sets and all was working UNTIL NOW!! It may have been something knew I've been putting in my hair or I noticed I'll be manipulating it more...I just can't help but touch it and change my hairstyle (even though I have NOT been going anywhere!!)

HELP!!! I'M NOT READY TO BC YET! ANY HAIR SUGGESTIONS??? MAYBE I SHOULD CHANGE MY PRODUCTS...[they are listed in my signature].
Rocking a TWA!
Hair Type: 4a, I think
Still working on my hair regimen
Clarifying: Giovanni 50-50
Co-Wash: Tresemme Remoisturize Conditioner
DC: MyHoneyChild Honey Hair Mask
LI: KCKT/Mixed Silk
Moisturizer: Water, now trying Qhemet BRBC
Sealing: Jojoba oil, shea butter or burnt sugar pomade
Styling: EcoStyler
Hello All! I am VERY new to transitioning. My last relaxer was on 01/16/2011, which was about 3 going on 4 weeks ago. I am SO very excited to be long term transitioning! Just wondering if anyone has suggestions, comments, etc?<---Things that will help me complete a successful transitioning?

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