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mariag002 06-01-2009 10:00 PM

Transitioners support thread
 
:D Hello ladies,

I am hoping that the moderators will turn this into a sticky so everyone can have one place to post questions instead of having it go into CN space unanswered. I successfully transitioned from relaxed to natural in 06-07 and if it wasn't for the help of this thread I know I wouldn't have been able to do it.

I am hoping to follow the same format as the transitioners thread over at LHCF (click here to see)

I'm also hoping others will chime in with blogs, youtube videos, products, etc that will help you on your journey.

RULES TO SUCCESSFUL TRANSITIONING:
  • There is no wrong or right way to transition!
  • The line of demarcation where the relaxed hair ends and the new growth starts is very delicate. Please treat your hair like silk until you are ready to do the BC (big chop)
  • Co-wash your hair at least once a week to add moisture to your hair. If you are not ready to co-wash, then wash with diluted shampoo.
  • BC when you are ready. Don't cut your hair until you are ready.
  • Deep condition at least once a week
  • Be very careful with heat. You could potentially damage your healthy new growth by flatironing your hair too often.
  • Naturally curly hair is unique and varies from person to person. Sometimes the hairtype looks completely different once you cut your hair. Don't be discouraged. This is the hair God gave you so therefore it is beautiful! Concentrate on your hair, not your neighbors.
  • Join Fotki and start taking monthly pictures. This will help you see your progress. It will especially help on those days that you think your hair is not growing.
  • Write a journal or blog! It will help you keep things in perspective. Before you reach for that relaxer or BKT try to remember why you wanted to transition in the first place.
Other ladies please chime in and add to this list!

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Haircare Basics

List of acronyms we use on this site. Trust me we have many!
Hair types - PLEASE NOTE that you won't know your hair type until your relaxed hair or other chemical is completely cut
Henna support thread
Amla Powder information

Transitioning Hairstyles
My rollersetting video - Part I and Part II
Long Hair Styles Gallery - Can be used for protective styles
Natural Hair Styles - twist outs, bantu knots, braid outs, etc...

Youtube is a great resource for finding transitioning hairstyles. You can also visit Fotki and see many inspiring pictures. We women of color mostly hang out in the 4a thread, come and join us!

Natural/Homemade Recipes for your hair
Natural Recipe website
Motown Girl's recipes


Naturals: worst mistakes you ever made as a natural: http://longhaircareforum.com/forums/...d.php?t=223081

Best Pics of Natural Hair/Heads: A thread of encouragement: http://www.longhaircareforum.com/for...d.php?t=168146

Hair Blogs
o http://clutchmagonline.com/
o http://www.urbancurlz.com/
o http://thenaturalhaven.blogspot.com
o http://keepitsimplesista.blogspot.com
o http://www.textureplayground.com/blog/
o http://newlynatural.com/blog/
o http://www.curlynikki.com
o http://www.afrobella.com
o http://www.honeybrownsugar.com/
o http://www.motowngirl.com

Transitioning Stories
Our very own Curly Nikki has dedicated much of her blog in helping others transition to natural. Click here to read many transitioning stories from people that have successfully gone from relaxed to natural.

Nichole23 06-01-2009 10:33 PM

Great thread! I'm transitioning and my last relaxer was April 2008. So I'm about 14 months post now, my goal is 24 months. I hope I can make it that long! I have been relaxed most of my life so I'm not even sure what my hair will look like when I chop, I guess thats what scares me the most. But I'm determined and I'll love it no matter what. :love5:

journeygirl 06-01-2009 11:20 PM

Thank you so much for starting this thread and for providing links to so much good information! I am about two months into my transition and can use all the help I can get! I've been toying with the fotki idea...this past weekend I tried my first TnC (to help blend the two hair textures) and took pictures just in case I decide to start that fotki account!

Namun 06-02-2009 06:24 AM

Maria, you are a God-send. Thank you for this thread. :icon_smile:

GermanCurly 06-02-2009 07:33 AM

Thank you! This is great!!!:love3:

mariag002 06-02-2009 08:00 AM

Thank you ladies!

I tried miserably for YEARS to transition only to fail every time. If it weren't for this forum I would still be relaxing my hair. I want to make it a sticky where people can at least post their thoughts, questions, concerns, cheer others on, etc.... I'm sure the other ladies that have successfully transitioned will chime in as well. My hair will be 2 years natural in Sept. :toothy10:

garner 06-02-2009 02:51 PM

Transitioners support thread
 
Thank you, Maria for starting this thread. I have been transitioning for 45 wks and I am constantly learning about my hair. :study: When I am DCing I am usually entertaining myself by looking at Fokti's and you tube videos regarding natural or transitioning hair. I do not know when I will BC, however my plan is to continue transitioning as long as I can. I am very thankful for the support all of us receive here.:thumright:

mariag002 06-02-2009 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by garner (Post 984595)
Thank you, Maria for starting this thread. I have been transitioning for 45 wks and I am constantly learning about my hair. :study: When I am DCing I am usually entertaining myself by looking at Fokti's and you tube videos regarding natural or transitioning hair. I do not know when I will BC, however my plan is to continue transitioning as long as I can. I am very thankful for the support all of us receive here.:thumright:

When I was transitioning I was always looking at Fotki albums too. It helped me keep focused on my goal. I tell ya though, those 10 months DRAGGED but once the relaxed ends were gone it was just a whole other life. I had to learn to care for my natural hair. The last time I had seen my hair natural was 1981 so you can imagine how crazy that was LOL Its been fun though. I love this site. I hope I can help many people. :toothy10:

mymi7887 06-03-2009 04:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Nichole23 (Post 983976)
Great thread! I'm transitioning and my last relaxer was April 2008. So I'm about 14 months post now, my goal is 24 months. I hope I can make it that long! I have been relaxed most of my life so I'm not even sure what my hair will look like when I chop, I guess thats what scares me the most. But I'm determined and I'll love it no matter what. :love5:

Please tell me how you made it to 14 months? Lol I'm approaching 13 and boy oh boy I can't stop feeling on my new growth and thinking how pretty it is. I get tempted to BC but I know I have 'chipmunk -like' cheeks and short hair is a no-go.

Nichole23 06-03-2009 09:12 AM

I have really high/prominent check bones too and I think longer hair compliments me more which is why I have such a long transition. I've just been keeping my hair in a bun almost everyday and I deep condition often.

desert flower 06-03-2009 12:16 PM

Thanks, Maria! After 10 months of transitioning I also couldn't take it anymore and did the BC this weekend! Seriously, Maria, after staring at your fotki, I made the appointment.

She cut some of my natural hair in the back to give me a cute cut and while I almost cried when she was doing it, I love it now.

As you pointed out, though, the transition is far from over. I am getting to know my hair again after a few years of doing the Japanese straightener and the last time I had hair this short, I was three years old!

I am still really nervous about it! I had forgotten about frizz! Haha!

I never in my life thought I could pull off short hair because my face is chubby but Yodit (from Salon Revive in DC) cut side swept bangs for me to balance the look. Again, I would have never thought of it but it works...or at least I think so! My husband has been very sweet about it and keeps telling me that he loves the cut because he can see my face...really, I think he loves that I am not spending hours in the bathroom!

As soon as I get home, I will bravely post some pics.

Stephanie198907 06-03-2009 12:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Nichole23 (Post 985166)
I have really high/prominent check bones too and I think longer hair compliments me more which is why I have such a long transition. I've just been keeping my hair in a bun almost everyday and I deep condition often.

ITA with your entire post. I too have high cheek bones and long hair looks good on me. The shortest I can get away with is jawline/chin length and thats only if it has a heavy side bang otherwise it doesn't look right.
I do a dt once a week and I bun 99.9% of the time.



to Maria,

the urbancurlz and curlynikki link are broken. I think you just need to add the http:// before each one so it goes to the website. Thanks for this thread!

E.B. 06-04-2009 11:20 AM

I like http://longnaturalhair.blogspot.com/, especially because she started transitioning a month before I did. She's transitioning out of texlaxed hair and I'm transitioning out a relaxer (bone straight).

I really like http://members.fotki.com/Marie1837/about/ because she transitioned for more than 36 months, her hair looked beautiful the entire time, and now she has beautiful natural hair.

curliitommii 06-07-2009 04:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by E.B. (Post 986427)
I really like http://members.fotki.com/Marie1837/about/ because she transitioned for more than 36 months, her hair looked beautiful the entire time, and now she has beautiful natural hair.


i really want to see it but the album is locked :-(

E.B. 06-07-2009 04:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by curliitommii (Post 989396)
Quote:

Originally Posted by E.B. (Post 986427)
I really like http://members.fotki.com/Marie1837/about/ because she transitioned for more than 36 months, her hair looked beautiful the entire time, and now she has beautiful natural hair.


i really want to see it but the album is locked :-(

Try going to her guestbook and leaving a message asking for the password. Most of the messages in her guestbook are people asking for the password.

Stephanie198907 06-07-2009 09:51 PM

2 new blogs to add to the list
 
http://blackgirllonghair.blogspot.com/


http://flygirls.typepad.com/fly/

^^^my 2 new favorite blogs thanks to Bloosom123

mariag002 06-08-2009 01:09 PM

Whimsy of LHCF just did the BC after over 24 months of transitioning. Her hair is gawgeous! LOL

Here is her blog link with pictures:

http://longnaturalhair.blogspot.com/

Namun 06-09-2009 08:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mariag002 (Post 990144)
Whimsy of LHCF just did the BC after over 24 months of transitioning. Her hair is gawgeous! LOL

Here is her blog link with pictures:

http://longnaturalhair.blogspot.com/


WOW, her hair looks great!
I've been so impatient with my hair lately. I think this is the hardest part...waiting.

This is month three since my last relaxer and I'm now able to pull it back into a small pony tail. I want to try different products, but I really won't know if they work until I have enough new growth or BC. Ugh :angry3:

curlycola 06-11-2009 04:36 PM

I got my last relaxer just this past march. Instead of gradual transitioning I' m wondering if I should just BC now and begin to take care of my natural hair. Waiting is hard, and it's a hassle to take care of both types of hair. I don't know if I have the head shape for it though. T_T

Namun 06-11-2009 08:29 PM

OMG!!! I can't stop touching my new growth! I've had my hands in my hair all evening. My hair is still over moisturized from my coconut milk mishap from Tues, and the curls feel so soft...I have different curl types all over.


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