Tales of a Natural Diva: The Good, The Bad, and The Curly
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Kids and The Big Chop Blues
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You know, I never wrote about my son's reaction to my BC. The day I chopped my hair off, I had just picked up the kids' from school. It was something about that day that made me just want to stop transitioning and go full steam ahead with the Big Chop. Maybe it was the sun blaring on my wig and making me sweat like a sinner in church (stole that form Princess & The Frog) or maybe it was those fifty 'leven Big Chop youtube videos I had been watching. Either way I wanted my relaxed hair gone!!! Anyway, when the kids and I got into the house, I set them up at the table and gave them a snack. I then vanished into the bathroom to do the deed (cutting my hair that is). When I emerged, my kids were in shock..well mainly my son. My daughter took it in stride...walking around me and inspecting my head like she was a drill sergeant or something (mind you she's only five). But my son just looked in horror: like I had come downstairs with a ax in my head (the look was that bad ya'll). He stayed away from me for most of that evening, and I didn't pressure him because I know he needed time to take it all in (btw he's 8). The next day I sent the kids off to school and
he barely said bye as he got out of the car. After two days of the "ignore
bald-headed mommy treatment", I sat both of my babies down for a talk. I explained
my reasons for chopping my hair, and told them that I hoped that in time they
would come to understand my decision. I also told them that this is the hair
that my mommy and my daddy gave me and I am very proud of it. My daughter
smiled at that and said she liked it. Later my son told me he liked it a little
bit, so it made me feel better. I now know that it was rather selfish of me to
cut my hair before discussing it with my children. I cannot imagine coming home
from school one day and one second my mom has hair and the next second she
doesn't. This natural hair journey isn't just about me; it's about my kids too.
I know now that when I first thought about going natural I should have told my
kids then or at least let them know that mommy was going to be making a drastic
change to her appearance. It wasn’t like it was a secret that I wanted to cut
my hair, but like all other decisions that affect a family (whether physically
or emotionally) ,this should have been treated no differently. This was definitely
a learning experience for me and something that I thought worthy of sharing
with you. Be blessed divas! |
One Week Natural...YAY!!!!
 So today is my one week-a-versary of being natural and I must say: I feel pretty darned good! My confidence has slowly but surely been building and I must admit that I have more confidence now (with almost no hair) than I ever did with hair. I’ve definitely been getting my share of snide remarks about my new ‘do from “friends” but the general consensus is favorable towards my new look. Last night I attended a get-together and the men could barely keep their eyes off of me (true story). You know, when I first did the chop, I was a little scared that guys would be turned off; however I’ve discovered that lots of men love women with TWA’s. Divas, confidence is everything, so if you’re looking good and feeling better with your head held high and shoulders back, people can’t help but stand back in awe of you and your beauty. So go out there and do your thang…don’t hurt ‘em girl!!!! |
Hair Accessories
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Today is only my third day of being natural and I'm still in love with my hair. My biggest qualm is that my hair curls everywhere BUT on the sides. I'm not sure what's up with that but hopefully it'll get better. Yesterday a friend gave me a hair accessory and I was so happy. It's an ivory flower on a bobby pin; something she picked up at Forever21. What do u think (scroll down 4 pic)? Cute, huh? Now I was a little wary about trying it out on my TWA, but I thought "what the hey, it was a gift from a really special friend, so I'm gonna wear it proudly!" I am definitely an accesory queen. I love earrings, rings, and bracelets, but I rarely wear things in my hair, so wearing this flower was a big step for me. Anywho, I followed my usual moisturizing routine today (mentioned in my "Natural Is Where It's At" blog) and my hair is looking great. BUT I am definitely going to have to wash it with shampoo ths weekend. The conditioner I currently use has silicones ( a.k.a. 'cones) in it, so it's going to take shampoo to wash the 'cones out of my hair. It's the conditioner I used when my hair was relaxed, and unfortunately I have no choice but to use it until I get paid next Friday. Well, until next time divas...MUUUAAHHH!!! Oh by the way, what conditioners, styling gels, moisturizers do you use? |
Natural Is Where It's At!!
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THE BIG CHOP
On May 25, at about 3:30 pm, I decided it was time to release my hair. For the past two years I had been totally addicted to perms, wigs, weaves and the like. I was so tired of putting all of that stuff in my hair, but at the time I felt those were my only solutions to looking my best. About 2 months ago I discovered that my under-nourished hair was starting to fight back, or maybe it was just giving up the fight; either way it was falling out. It was so bad that when I finally did the BIG CHOP a section of my hair did not even have to be chopped. I had been researching the BIG CHOP and you-tubing like crazy trying to get as much information as I could about what life after the chop would bring.
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