The Queen of Curls answers your questions

Dear Ouidad: I'm 16 years old. My hair has been giving me a lot of trouble lately and I was wondering if there was anything you could do to help. My hair is about three inches or so below my shoulders, and it is extremely curly. However, it has a lot of different textures. In the very front, the hair is soft and has loose curls. The curls at the back of my head are very tight corkscrew curls. The underneath layer is composed of mostly tight, defined curls, but the top layer, especially on the back of my head, has little curl definition and is mostly kinky, frizzy waves.

I have tried all I can to condition my curls, but I can never seem to get the back part of my hair under control. I would love for all of my hair to be like those several strands in the front, but the rest of my hair just won't cooperate. I am currently using Nexxus shampoo and conditioner in my hair (it was recommended by my hairdresser) and it seems to moisturize my hair fairly well, but I still have tons of frizz in the back. I just don't know how to keep that large, dry bit of hair hydrated any more that I already am. I would do anything to get rid of that frizz!!


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It may sound silly, but I have always wished I could run my fingers through my hair without worrying that it will frizz up in the spots where I touched it; or that I could let my hair down and shake it out without it blowing up like a balloon. However, since I'm only sixteen I don't know if it would be smart to do a permanent treatment such as a softening treatment. I have tried straightening my hair, but it takes up to two hours to do it right, and it only seems to look good when my hairstylist straightens it. Is there any way I can get looser curls, or simply less frizzy curls, without spending a fortune? Are there any products I can try (either that I could find a store or from that will give my curls the desired look? I have not yet found a leave-in conditioner or "curl-defining spray" that takes the frizz out of my hair. In fact, most products I have used tend to give my hair more frizz once it dries, make it brittle, or dry it out. If you have the time, I would love for you to write me back. Let me know if you want me to clarify anything about my hair or the products I have previously used. Your thoughts would be greatly appreciated!

A: To get looser, less-frizzy curls you need proper conditioning and styling for your curls. The natural curl pattern of your hair can’t be changed, but you can coax frizzier, tighter curls into a more defined look. Be sure the products you use are all water soluble (all of my products are) so that they won’t build up in the hair and weigh curls down. However products alone will not automatically transform your unmanageable curls. Visit for information on my Rake & Shake styling technique that will help you style your curls.


This Ouidad response seemed really unhelpful.

Ouidad Climate Control gel may not be CG. Ouidad uses a lot of water-soluble silicones. However, lots of people love that particular gel. This (original) question would get a lot of feedback if posted on the general hair board.

I thought the ouidad climate control gel wasn't CG? Hm.

I have naturally curly hair, about to my upper shoulder blades when extends to my mid-back when I stretch it out...cork screw curls. I've learned a lot on my own through trial and error, research, and good information. So, I'm going to share. Right up front, I want to say, I'm not one to spend a lot of money on my hair, so I use products you can go to most drug stores & find with ease. Not that I don't experiment with pricier products, but most times if I can spend half as much and get good results, I'm all for that. I know they say mousse is bad for your hair, but gel just doesn't do it for me. I've tried several products, and John Freida mousse is one of the best I've found that's readily available, and affordable. Dove makes a pretty good mousse for curly hair too. A couple key things to remember with naturally curly hair. The more the curl is disturbed, the frizzier it will be. Wash your hair no more than once a up is good on curly hair, believe it or not. Natural oils are stripped away when you shampoo, and of course with our hair being prone to dryness, we need those. I still rinse my hair every day when I shower so I can comb it out and give it that 'fresh' look. Never comb or brush your hair after it's dry. It would be nice, to 'run your fingers through your hair'...but that will ruin it for the me! Less disturbance means happier curls! It only takes me about 5 minutes to do my hair. 1) Right before I get out of the shower, I take about a quarter sized amount of conditioner, rub my hands together, distribute evenly in my hair...don't rinse. I press a towel on my hair to get the extreme wetness out, but don't dry it too much! It should still be pretty wet...just not drippy! 2)I take about a dime to nickel sized amount of John Freida Frizz Eaze serum and rub my hands together, turn my head upside down, start at the ends, and work my way to the roots, 'scrunching' it into my hair, and then, I comb my fingers through my hair thoroughly. 3) I comb my hair at this point (wide tooth comb only!!) to make sure the conditioner and serum are distributed as evenly as possible. 4) I use a lemon sized amount of John Freida mousse, and again, turn my head upside down, start at the ends, and work it in to the roots, flip your head upright, and just run your fingers through your hair, shaping it, and stretching the curls into the position you want them to be in when they dry. Then...comes patience. Air Dry for at least a couple hours, trying not to disturb the curls. Once they're almost dry, instead of running your fingers "through" your hair, just slightly lift the curl at the root, and run your fingers "over" your curl...not too much though...this will soften the look a bit. You'll learn how you can manipulate it while still getting desirable affects. It you find a curl has dried to fast on the end, and has that 'frizzy' can do a quick fix with just putting water on your fingers and smoothing it over the frizzy part. There should still be product on that part, even though it's frizzy...the problem was that it dried too fast. Again, the key is let it dry without disturbing it. Anyway, you'll learn how to deal with your own hair through trial & error. Good Luck! I hope this helps at least a little bit!!

Try Moroccan Oil. I get mine at my local Custom Cuts hair salon. It's pricey at $15 for less than an ounce bottle, but you only have to use about a pea-size amount so it lasts a long time. I have the same kind of hair with different textures, anywhere from tight curls to loose waves, some areas are soft, other areas are frizzy and dry. Rub the oil through your hair while it's damp and it will moisturize your hair and make it soft. I really like it because it doesn't weigh hair down or make it greasy, just gives it a naturally soft feel. It's my absolute favorite product to use now.

Hi, was just wondering if you managed to solve your hair problem. it sounds like you and i have similar hair and the issues you described are the same ones i used to struggle with!