Curly Teen Scene: It's Got "Boing"!

2011-10-26 16:22:36

Curly Teen Scene: It's Got "Boing"!

Julia explores how to deal with friends who can't stop playing with your hair.

I think curly hair is pretty fantastic. Curls are springy and soft. They come in all sorts of shapes and sizes, long and short. Everyone’s curls are a little different, and many of us find that our hair never falls in the same way twice.

It’s not surprising that people love to touch curly hair.

In my last column, I mentioned an experience most curly girls share — having their hair “boinged.” People are fascinated with the springy nature of our hair. A few of my friends have been known pull gently on one of my curls, watching it lengthen as it straightens. They delight in letting it go and watching it bounce back to (more or less) its original twist. The sound effects, of course, complete the experience.

“Boinging” isn’t the only time people play with my hair. Friends often try, with the best intentions, to pluck away “stray strands” that they notice. Those hairs, unfortunately for my scalp, are usually still attached to my head.

“Sorry,” they’ll say, as they meet resistance, “I thought it was a stray!”

My hair is known for doing its own thing; renegade strands are the norm. If I feel the need to rein in my hair, I’ll do it myself.

I’ll never forget the guy who sat behind me in math sophomore year. He used to rip up sheets of paper into tiny balls, which he would flick into my ponytail. The bits of paper usually went unnoticed until I stood up, sending them cascading around my shoulders onto the floor. This inevitably ended in the girls bathroom, where I would take my hair down and shake out any stray paper that remained.

Despite my anecdotes, most of the time when people close to me play with my hair, I don’t mind a bit. I will occasionally remind people I am less familiar with that just because I have a lot of hair doesn’t mean it’s public property. My sister, Lilly, has mastered the art of politely and firmly asking people to respect her personal space when they play with her hair. Since she keeps it short, it’s more vulnerable to frizz and she can’t throw it up in a bun when it begins to look unkempt. She finds it frustrating to carefully wash and condition it, only to have a friendly stranger run their fingers through her curls.

I’m enthusiastic about my curly hair, and I appreciate it when others appreciate it. However I’ve learned to draw boundaries, whether I’m telling a classmate that paper is for taking notes or a friend that hair on my shoulders can stay there.

Stay Curly, Julia

Curly Teen Scene/Julia Rizzo

Curly Teen Scene/Julia Rizzo

My hair only recently decided it wanted to cover my head with ringlets. Before this, I would always sit on the bus and pull on my friend's stray ringlets, making them go 'boing!'. It's only now that I've started to wear my hair this way to school, that I've discovered how annoying this is! Since she showed me by returning the favour... ~StrawberrySwitchblade
i get it too my friends love playing with my hair but they all have straight hair so they dont understand that he sligtest pulling of my hair will make it frizzy so by the end of the day insted of having my hair down lik in the morning its frizzy in a bun or braids.
I definitely get the curl-pulling. I just started wearing my hair curly, (I used to straighten it) and now everyone pulls on my curls!! And my heads tender, so it doesn't feel good. It stinks!
I can relate to the paper throwing thing. In my freshman science class there was a boy who sat behind me who had such a fun time throwing staples at my hair and watching them stick. I'd have to get my friends to get them all out of my head at lunch and I would be washing even more staples out when I washed my hair the next morning. The highest total was 130 give or take.