Curly hair expert answers all your curly hair questions

Dear Rebecca: I have kinky hair when it is in its natural state. I had a permanent curl/wave chemical product applied to my hair and am looking to find the best hair care system to keep it moisturized without it feeling greasy and sticky, all the while maintaining well-defined, silky wavy/curly hair. Do you have any suggestions?

Dear Beautifully Kinky: Have you tried the Design Essentials Natural? I’m loving the entire system! For natural hair, you are absolutely correct. The most important thing is to keep your hair fully moisturized. All of this starts with your maintenance. Try shampooing your hair only once every other week.


When you do shampoo your hair, be sure to use a moisturizing shampoo and conditioner. When preparing to condition, make sure you towel-blot your hair first to remove excess water. This will allow the conditioner to fully penetrate. Once applied, take a wide-toothed comb, and beginning at the nape of your neck, gently comb the conditioner through the hair. Now the next step is very important. Let the conditioner absorb into your curly hair for a minimum of 10 minutes. Then rinse with cool-to-warm water. Now you’re ready to begin styling. Start with a moisturizing leave-in conditioner and follow with your styling product. To maintain your curl definition and moisture, try Design Essentials Natural Daily Moisturizing Lotion. It is absolutely fantastic! To refresh your style during the week between shampooing, just lightly mist your hair with water or a leave-in conditioner to re-shape your curls. You’ll love it.

Dear Rebecca: I have tight curly/kinky hair in the back but loose wavy/curly hair in the front. Do you have any suggestions on how to try to make my hair look like one texture instead of two? When I do the wash 'n' go I have to put more product in the front to try to obtain a curly look.

Dear Two Textures: A great solution is to fake it! Try using flexi rods (similar to straws, and can be found at Sally’s). Find a rod that is a similar size to your back curls. Then set the hair using your favorite styling/setting product. Just make sure it is a moisture-filled product. If that doesn’t work, try flat twists using a styling crème gel like Design Essentials Natural Defining Crème Gel. Be sure to sit under a hooded dryer to completely dry. This will help to eliminate frizz and to set your curl pattern. Pull out the twists and separate and define each section using a serum-type product. Finish with a light sheen spray for additional shine. Either one of these should help your hair have one personality… at least for a week or two.

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Rebecca Mariolis

Dear Rebecca, My 10 year old daughter has 3C kinky curly hair. We have tried knot today and kinky curly custard and loved the results on day 1 and 2. by day 3 - the top of her hair became frizzy and the curls appear even tighter and shorter. is there a way to keep the curls long, loose and shiny? I was having difficulty negotiating the website to see if I was using the products correctly or should try something else like Jessicurl confident coils styling solution etc. What are your recommendations?