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Monday, August 10, 2009 at 06:42PM
My opinion is based on AMERICAN STANDARDS because in other countries it's different..so here goes:
Well I am mixed and I think
white men that are actually attracted to women of color do like natural hair on women of color,
the hair is a certain texture and length.
I know some people don't want to deal with that or hear it because it evokes all kinds of feelings about race, beauty, equality, etc.. but it's true and acting otherwise is just that: Acting.
It also depends on HOW the woman looks on top of it. I don't think it's just this general thing of that white men like natural "black" hair and are so nuts over it as opposed to black men. I mean because a white man is quick to say he doesn't like nappy hair just as fast as a black man will.
I've participated in various race discussions and the hair topic has come up several times. In those discussions, white men say they generally do not like extremely kinky hair because they do not find it attractive or when compared to any other hair they find it the LEAST attractive.
This is not my opinion..this is what I have heard several white men say in general including white male members of my own family. If anything they like curly or wavy hair on women of color when it's natural. Examples would be hair types like Rachel True, Trace Ellis Ross, Alicia Keyes, Cree Summer, Amel Larrieux, Jasika Nicole, Jessic Szohr, Mya, Leona Lewis, etc. Basically women of color with a defined wave or curl pattern.
I have had SEVERAL white men ask me why more black women don't have hair like mine (I have type 3c hair) or wear their hair like mine because they don't get the whole "nappy" thing or why black women always "cut their hair off" and then get weaves. And I have explained to many that not everyone has the same texture and people like different things, etc.
The truth is there is not this overwhelming majority of white men interested in women of color with natural hair in general. I think when a white man is interested in a women of color, it's usually because he likes ALL of her reguardless of her hair type and texture. But in his inital attraction.. her hair does factor into it.
I honestly think this is actually true of black men as well. I think most black men generally don't have an issue with natural hair provided the texture and length are a certain way. I mean it is what it is.. it's that "good hair" syndrome.
So I don't think the overwhelming majority of black men are just clamouring for women with kinky hair either..given some don't mind it and/or prefer it. But it's hardly most or the majority.
I think in the United States the issue is that the longer and straight or looser or more defined a curl pattern is equates beauty.. and this is true of men and women..black and white.
The odd man out seems to be kinky hair as in type 4 hair that doesn't neccessarily always have a defined curl pattern. I think this hair type get the most put downs and flack from BOTH races from the men and women. I think because historically in this country kinky hair was often synonymous with ugly and black point blank.
And when people (especially men) are bombarded with images of what is considered beautiful then their preferences generally reflect that..and kinky hair is not featured as beautiful. Heck even in black hair care magazines they are always suggesting to relax, texturize, weave, lace front etc the hair.. and all of this leads to one thing: TO HIDE NATURAL HAIR as if showing it is inappropriate ESPECIALLY if it's type 4 hair.
Anyone see the Dr. Miracle's ad ? The woman's hair has "new growth", her hair is wild, messy, and she looks a mess making a distorted face sticking her tongue out.. but when she gets her Dr. Miracle relaxer..suddenly she's smiling brightly, has makeup on, and looks well put together. I mean if a person can't see the message sent in that..well they are blind. And when messages are sent like that in society..what else does one expect of men..even black men.. they are taught kinky hair is not attractive.
And I am not anti-relaxer at all. I think it's preference and I would never disparage a person about having relaxed hair. Frankly, I think straight hair just looks nicer on some people so I don't mind relaxers at all.
My point is that the messages sent about kinky hair are clear in society and I can't expect white men OR black men to see it otherwise. The majority of women don't even see it otherwise hence why women are always relaxing, flat ironing, hot combing, or trying to hide or straighten their kinky or curly hair.