I like Suave anti-frizz smoothing gel for a medium hold gel. I don't get much, if any crunch, but it holds really well.
Couple of inches past shoulder length 3A. Shampoo every 3rd or 4th day w/ baby shampoo; Tigi Fashionista conditioner; back to Condition 3-in-1 mousse . Alternate days water rinse, conditioner and mousse.