Hi, hope everyone had a nice holiday! Hair's my dilemma !! Whether I use gel (Herbal Essence Set me up)or cream (Regis), my hair is not really touchable. My husband said it felt nicer with the cream, but I'm not 100 % happy with it. I've tried soft hold gels, but still my hair is kinda hard with crunchy spots no matter how much scrunching i do. If I use less product, my hair is not as defined.
any thoughts?

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Best combo so far:
SheaMosture Curl and shine milk , Ouidad heat and humidity gel