I feel for her.


Im not condoning certain behaviour (if, like RCW said, all of it is true). But, she is probably freaking out. She is pregnant by a guy she has known 2 months, who even by your accounts, is a bit of an unemployed dead-beat. Her life has taken a complete u-turn, she may not want, be ready, or able to care for a baby. And it seems like she has little to no support. I don't blame her being desperate to get back together if she feels she needs someone in this with her. It may not be the best thing, but it sure is understandable.

He does need to be clear on his feelings for her. He needs to get a paternity test. And he also needs to man up, get a job, and start acting like a father. From now. If abortion is out, this woman is going to need support from him, whether he wants to be a couple or not.

She doesn't need to just make decisions for herself and her baby. They need to make decisions for their child.
Originally Posted by kat180
I feel bad for her too This whole thing is such a mess and you know what? He's a total screw up ... I've always reassured him that he's not but when you bring another life into the equation it's a whole nother issue. He's made a mess of everthing and is completley selfish and immature in many of his decisions. This is first real consequence and he needs to get his head out of the clouds and be a man.

I posted this also to help sort out my own feelings on it .... your responses and mine are definitely helping me sort things out in my own head.