What kills me is when my African American cousins on my dad's side with weaves and 4c natural curls try to give me advice on how to oil my scalp and keep my hair in check.

My mom is white. I look white. I have very soft, fine 3b curls because I'm super mixed. And was before it was relaxed! If I oiled my scalp and put my hair in cornrows, it would be a disaster.

Everyone always assumes that because they know about their hair, they know everything about everyone's hair. It's somewhat irritating.