I find my hair really frustrating.. It's 3b-ish, and just terrible. Pretty much every morning I'm forced to rinse it, condition, then spray with a combination of detangler and gel. THEN, non-aerosol hairspray and use the blowdryer.

Even though I use the non-aerosol and don't let my hair fully airdry, it always ends up crunchy, which I hate. I want softer curls that bounce instead of hair that looks and feels like it's made of lead. I've tried mousse (doesn't have enough hold) and not using hairspray at all, but both just led to my hair frizzing.

Any tips or ideas?