You didn't say what you're cleansing your scalp with. It is possible to get product buildup on your scalp. I'm not sure oiling is a solution. For me, most oils that are left on my scalp clog my pours and give me dandruff/itch. Sometimes I like to add a little teatree oil to my rinse out conditioner. Works wonders.
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