Hrm... sounds like you're doing all the right things.. but then again, curly hair tends to be super dry and may need a lot more moisture. Maybe you can show her how to moisturize her own hair and send her to school with a trial size of conditioner so she can refresh during the day. Not sure if that's realistic, but you know your child better than I do.

And I feel her pain.. kids don't know that being unique/different is a blessing not a curse. But in time they will figure that out as well. Good luck with your daughter..let us know how it goes.
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