Sounds like you are protein sensitive. My hair looks very frizzy and flyaway when I use a protein product, especially wheat protein! My hair can tolerate small amounts of silk protein (like a rinse out cond, or a protein gel) once every two weeks or so...but that is more...and it could do very well with less.
3A, Protein Senitive, Low Porosity,
Wash: Suave Naturals Conds (excluding Coconut), CVSB
Rinse out/Leave In: GVP Cond. Balm, KCKT,
Style: Naturelle Gel(winter HG), KCCC (summer HG), Flaxseed gel
Love your hair: Love yourself!