I am going through the same thing with my 3 1/2 year old who has 3a hair. She has such beautiful curls, but she hates having me mess with her hair all the time. It's always hanging in her face (she won't keep a headband in for very long and her hair is about chin length- so not long enough for a loose pony tail).
3 a/b Medium texture/Normal porosity/Normal elasticity
Products I'm currently using:
Lo-Poo: KC Come Clean (1 x week)
Co-wash/RO: Suave Naturals Everlasting Sunshine
Stylers: UFD CM + BRHG

Hair dislikes: lots of protein, glycerin